Why is an orgasm like a sandwich?

A silly question I admit, but a sandwich is actually an apt analogy. To see why, let's answer the riddle.

– First, a sandwich is built of lots of separate parts, some more important than others. You need a foundation, the bread, be it Wonder white, caraway seeded rye, pita or a flat bread for a wrap. This is probably the most under-appreciated part, the basis of a great sandwich. It's also the most important because it's the only way to get it to your mouth.

– Sandwiches vary in complexity from the old favorite, peanut butter on white, through ham and cheese with mustard and lettuce, to the Italian combo with four kinds of meat, two cheeses, lettuce, tomatoes, hot peppers and olives, topped with oil and vinegar.

– The same sandwich doesn't satisfy the same way every day. Today you might be in the mood for roast beef on a roll, tomorrow it's Muenster cheese, salami, black olives and mustard. The following day cream cheese and jelly or an old fashioned cheeseburger suits best.

– Sometimes a sandwich needs a side dish, whether it be well done french fries or cole slaw and a pickle, the next day you may just want a quick veggie wrap.

Orgasms are the same in many ways. Lots of pieces go into building a satisfying climax, and the building blocks vary from encounter to encounter. What was fabulous yesterday — long, slow lovemaking in the bedroom with the lights out — might not be the most exciting today – a hot quickie on the dining room table — or tomorrow, when mutual masturbation or a blindfold might be just the thing.

The book continues with erotic details on everything from sexy lingerie to oral and anal sex with lots of good advice and letters from real folks like you. ENJOY!!!

Here's an excerpt from the section on Oral Sex.

How to Give It For Her

Ladies, you don't have to suck on a man's genitals or take them deep into your throat to make him feel good. Take your time if you're new to this, and understand that even a little attention to his penis, just a bit of fellatio makes most men crazy.
- Take off your rings and such and get your hair out of the way. It does look sexy in those porno movies for that woman to flip her long hair around but in the real world it just gets in the way.
- Begin slowly, with kisses — light ones and heavy ones and all types between — on the shaft and on the head. If you're feeling brave, kiss his testicles.
- Flick the shaft or head of his penis with the tip of your tongue to get the feel and taste thing over with. Take your time and if that's all you do for this encounter, fine.
- Move on to licks, like an all day sucker. Use lots of saliva. Let him lead the way with his moans and purrs. Lick where he seems to like it and you'll quickly find that you enjoy it.
- Use your hands at the same time to stroke his shaft or cradle his testicles. Remember that a man's shaft can take pretty hard squeezes and prolonged rubbing.
- Stop every once in a while to tell him how sexy it all is. This also allows the tension to ebb a bit so you can build it up again.
- Once you decide to take his penis into your mouth, go slowly. You don't have to devour him, just suck lightly on the head while rolling your tongue around or flicking it. Take as much of him into your mouth as you're comfortable with and no more.
- Eventually, if you want, take the length of his penis in your mouth and breathe through your nose. If you want.
- If you want to spice things up further, add whip cream, maple syrup or whatever takes a while to lick off. Go farther by putting a small piece of ice in your mouth for a sexy surprise. Use your teeth lightly to change the sensation.
- Take your time. Eventually he'll let you know when he's ready to jump your bones.
- Gaze at him while you do it. It will excite him and arouse you by watching his pleasure.

How to Give It For Him

Men, if you're able to perform good cunnilingus you'll never want for great sex. More importantly, eventually, perfect orgasms will be possible for both of you. If you've always wanted to know the secret to performing it, there is none. Sorry. Every woman is different and there's no magic formula.

I think women are even more varied in what they like than men. Just to make it more complicated, different strokes and licks feel good at different times. Early on, you can be a bit firmer but as she gets more aroused, those firmer touches might be too much. Explore. That's what I like best, and she probably does too.

You should now be able to locate her clitoris. Touch it lightly and gauge your strokes by her reactions. If she seems to pull away a little don't be discouraged. It might just mean she wants a lighter touch.

These tongue strokes work for many so give them a try.
- Lick from the vagina to the tip of the clitoris gently.
- Try delving deeply into the grooves on each slide, long slow strokes first on one side, then the other. You might discover that one side is much more sensitive and arousing than the other.
- With the point of your tongue, swirl clockwise, then counterclockwise
- Try gently sucking on her clit and gauge her reactions. More? Less? It's up to you to judge.
- When you think she's ready, you can insert the pointed tip of your tongue into her vaginal canal. For me, I prefer a finger or toy since it makes more of a statement and by then I'm ready for bigger stuff.
- Try humming slightly to make your lips and tongue vibrate.
- Don't let you hands be idle either. Cup her buttocks. Slide a finger inside.
- Don't hesitate to play with toys while you use your mouth and hands. Sliding a large dildo into her while your mouth does its dance can be fabulous.
- Explore and enjoy.

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