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I've added answers to the question of dildo size and whether women care here. I've also posted a letter about whether the size of a penis is related to the amount men ejaculate JEL

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updated 6/07 [M] I thought this was interesting:
Why men think penis size is important: and this What women really think of penis size:
(that one's at the bottom of the page). Maybe these pieces would be useful for your (male!) readers who have a problem with penis size - so that would be most of us, I guess!

Updated 1/07 [F 36] My ex had collected the twins the previous evening for their annual holiday and I had two glorious weeks to myself. I had risen early, to enjoy a long soak in a hot scented bath. From there to the kitchen, wrapped in my soft towelling robe, to enjoy my first coffee of the day. Then my neighbour arrived. Panic, an engineer had arrived early to repair her dishwasher and she had appointments in town, could I house watch, please? It was easier to agree. So after putting on one of my old tracksuits I followed her. She introduced me to the engineer, there was just an audible grunt in return. Whilst I made myself a fresh coffee, she gathered her things and fled.
I sat in her lounge for an hour thumbing through magazines to a background of thumps and the odd curse from the kitchen. Now it had gone quiet in there and perhaps a visit from me would not go amiss. First, I need the toilet. Opening the door to the toilet I froze. The engineer was standing, leaning with one hand on the wall, whilst his other hand held his cock as he urinated. That did not shock me at all. His hands were quite large and yet the shaft of his cock projected beyond his encircling fingers and the head piece was huge. I muttered an apology, shut the door and fled upstairs to the bathroom.
Tracksuit trousers down I find myself sitting on the toilet, fingers busy playing with myself, dying to pee, with images of his cock burning in my brain. I have a confession to make, large cocks have always been my thing. It started when I was 14 year old, whilst searching my brothers rooms to find my calculator, I found in my oldest brothers desk a magazine full of nude males, all extremely well endowed cock wise.[my brother came out sexually three years later.] I can mentally recall those photo's as I masturbate trying to imagine what one would feel like buried in my pussy. I have indulged myself with cocks of varying sizes, quite a few in fact, and enjoyed them. My ex was above average in size, possibly 8 inches and very thick. However, he was really great orally and always made sure I made home base. Pity we let career chasing get in the way! Anyway I could not sit up here all day, I thought, I'll just have to go downstairs and treat it as if nothing happened. So I washed and then went downstairs.
The dishwasher was happily purring away. He was standing watching it. I, of course, had immediately gone red faced and tried to apologise again for my intrusion in the toilet. He had a lovely smile and assured me no offense had been taken, in fact it was his fault for not locking the door. I thanked him and he poured me a fresh coffee. I am thinking if I hesitate the chance will disappear and much to my own amazement I just came out with it and asked him 'How big is it?' To which he replied 'To big. I have lost some wonderful ladies when it has come to sex. I have heard more say - no way, not with that thing its a monster!' I think I said 'Can I see it?' He refused, but offered a trade! He thought I had an absolutely fabulous ass, so if I turned my back to him and leant on the work top, he would put his cock vertically betwen the cheeks of my ass and see what happened. I turned and stood as he directed, undoing the support cord on my trousers and just letting them fall to the floor and then placed my legs slightly apart. I could hear him removing his jeans and a tube of lube was dropped on the work service along with a condom in its wrapper. He asked me once more if I was ready and I nodded yes.
His hands parted the cheeks of my arse and I suddenly felt the warmth of his cock as it nestled between them, it was already huge. His hands came around me and unzipped my jacket and from there they gently cradled my breasts and commenced gently caressing and pinching my nipples. I was up on my toes by this time, forcing my body back hard in to him as I swayed my hips to caress his cock. A hand left my breasts and slid down my stomach towards my pussy that eagerly awaited his fingers. I was sopping wet, to such an extend it was beginning to run down my inner thighs. Perhaps it was this that decided him to proceed, I do not know, but he grasped my hips and eased me down into a bent over position with my head resting on my arms, my breasts hanging down free and available, my ass raised and legs now wide apart. A brief look told me the condom had gone and the arrival of a single finger, heavily lubed, between my legs, told me the rest. He began to stroke my back with one hand, occasionally letting it slide underneath to caress my breasts. I begged him to take me and straight away I felt the head of his cock sliding between the cheeks of my ass as he searched for my pussy. Once there he exerted pressure upwards and the head made its entry. My pussy seemed to stretch wide and then pop back to surround the shaft and it just continued to ease into me, no discomfort as yet, just a wonderful feeling of being really full. He stopped for a while and then began to adopt a pattern of in and out, half way and nearly all the way out. For my part I was thrusting my body back on to his cock with every opportunity and soon we had a rythmn really going.
How long we fucked, I have no idea, but eventually he stopped and began to slowly penetrate me as far as he could. A slight pain told me enough was enough and I lifted a hand to warn him to stop he did and I was overjoyed to feel his balls sway against my outer lips. Heavens I had nearly taken it all. He eased his cock back and began to really work on me again and I on him. Both his hands came down to my pussy and he really knew how to work on my clitoris. Was that really me who screamed out - I am coming! It was then he let nature take its course and I could feel his cock throbbing as he came inside me. We parted, soaked in sweat. I turned and looked directly at the monster that had served me so well - 11 inches easily and heavy. I kissed him briefly on the lips whilst letting a hand drop on to his cock for a feel. It had been beyond my wildest dreams, but we had better clear up. Last thing I need is my neighbour to return and find us like this.
I walked out with him to his van and he turned and thanked me for being a fantastic lady, asking if we could do it again sometime. How many ways can you say yes please....................................
He telephoned midday the following Friday and asked if I he could come and stay over that night and also - did I do anal?

Updated 12/06 [F] It happened about six years ago, my husband was working an afternoon shift. I was just leaving home for my night school class when my neighbor asked if i fancied a drink with them later to celebrate her son Andy being home from university, having passed his exams.He was only home a couple of days before going on holiday with his friends.
I had showered before setting out so i called straight there on my way home.There was only Andy and his parents and myself, so after the initial greetings and congratulations i sat in an armchair and enjoyed a drink while we talked. Andy sat in the other chair facing me to my right,his parents both on the settee ( sofa) to my left at right angles to us both.After a while i noticed Andy moving about as if uncomfortable, and occasionally looking down towards my right leg which was crossed over my left.I had on a knee length loose skirt, and i realized he could see my suspenders and stocking top due to the way my skirt had settled.I had on really nice 7 denier stockings and a black 8 strap belt with proper metal silver colored clasps, so he had a clear view of possibly more than one strap. I slowly and discreetly covered my leg with my skirt, not wanting to appear to be " flashing" in front of my neighbor's son. It was obvious to me now that his discomfort was in the front of his trousers, and as soon as his parents went to the kitchen for more drinks and snacks, he made an exit to the toilet.
Then i suddenly realized what his mother meant some years earlier, when Andy was about 12, when she said to me " He,s going to be a handful with the girls when he gets older." I thought she meant because of his tall slender body and good looks,never once thinking it might be something else.
Yes he was still good looking, tall and not an ounce of fat on him, but as he walked uneasily passed me, it was his bulging tight trousers that i found my eyes drawn to.No wonder he was uncomfortable, he clearly had an erection, going sideways parallel to the waistband on his trousers and almost to his side. He must have been 10 inches and quite a thick girth too. It,s a good job he didn't know i wasn't wearing panties.... he would have been in trouble.
He was gone a while, and the bulge heading downwards too, loosely, when he returned. It was now clear exactly what his mother meant, he was more than a handful. I wasn't wrong with my assessment either, about a year later i was talking to his mother about babies, she said she got embarrassed when she used to bath Andy because of his size "down there". I played dumb and asked what she meant, she said when he was about 10 years old she walked into his bedroom and found him asleep naked and he was bigger than his dad then. she then said " He,s bloody massive now.. looks like a cucumber"... Couldn't have put it better myself !!

Updated 10/06 [M 63] I see a lot of readers have written in commenting on penis size. I know this is important to both men and women as it is such a source of pleasure for both partners. But, can't say that I've seen anything concerning the other half of this pleasure connection. Pussy.
Around men you'll hear the term "tight pussy" used and "falling in" and the like. Personally; it is all good! Only bad pussy I can think of is one that is harboring some disease and being in it without a condom on. I remember one of the most memorable feeling pussy I've ever been in was a girl friend I had in the Philippine Islands. We would really get into the kissing and foreplay thing and she loved having sex. When it was time to penetrate her she was always very well lubricated and my penis would always go right in very easily. The feeling inside her pussy was nothing short of fantastic and I'd always have the most intense orgasms. So much for the myth of "good, tight pussy". I also had my share of ones that were quite tight and I very much enjoyed them too. These would take some pushing to finally get fully into. My penis is a very respectable size but not some monster size thing. I'd sure love to see some other readers respond to this and there feelings and experiences with tight vs loose pussies.

Updated 9/05 [F] To add about the "size" thread ... I've had big (9 inches) and little and inbetween, but the best lover I ever had was 4 inches ... we could do any position, be extremely inventive, have sex 4 times a night, and he always went to the ends of the earth to please me. If I was given the choice right now between mr. big and the 4 incher , I'd take the latter any day. I would have preferred if he was a little bigger, but it's not the most important thing. I would have to say good with the hands is more important by far.

Updated 8/05 [M 41 F 50] My wife and I had a number of conversations about size. I am very average and have always had the mindset that bigger was better, thus I have always felt “small” being average.
I finally got up enough nerve to begin emailing my wife from work asking her about her sexual experiences with other men. I finally got to the specifics about different sizes of cocks she had experienced. She was very vague until I asked her point-blank if she had ever had a “huge” cock. To my surprise she said “yes” then told me all about it.
She had dated a man before hear and I began dating (we were both divorced). She said big cocks aren't what they are cut out to be. She dated this guy because her friends told her he had a 16” cock. She couldn’t stand the curiosity and started dating the guy. She went on to tell me that she never once had an orgasm from his cock, in fact he pushed it in and as it would bottom out, it became very painful for her. She found her self giving him oral sex until he would cum, so she wouldn’t be subject to him penetrating her. She went to her Dr. and told her about the pain asking if it would go away, and her Dr told her some women enjoy them others can’t, and she fit the can’t category. After two months of that, she gave up big cocks. She said she has always enjoyed average size men now that she looks back. She said that this was probably a fantasy and curiosity more than anything.
We had many conversations about how society has made men think women enjoy large cocks more, and as my wife experienced, she thought a big cock would be more satisfying. She now tells friends who talk about big cocks who have never experienced one that they are not all people think they are. Boy was I shocked to find out that big cocks don’t matter to all!

[M] My entire life I have felt self conscious about the size of my cock. Until I married my current wife. I do occasionally fantasize about it being a bohemoth that all men envy and all woman want, but in reality I am very happy with my 6 inches. My wife adores it, it fits her very snugly. She screams when Im giving it to her hard, "fuck me harder with that big hard cock of yours" or "I love your rock hard cock so much". I don't know if she really knows how much it turns me on, and how it ended my size self doubt. I doubt I have the largest cock of any man she has been with, but I can see in her eyes that I've got the best one!

Updated 5/05 [M 31] I believe you posed a question to your readers a while back about whether or not there was a difference from one man to another in the size of their ejaculations. As I recall, you didn't seem to think there was much variance. I assumed that you were directing your question at other women and so didn't respond, but apparently neither did anyone else. Now, I'd like to weigh in on this subject myself, because I'm something of an expert. I'm a 31 year old man and, although I've been in a committed relationship with my partner for almost two years now, that hasn't always been the case.
The truth is, I was totally uninhibited and extremely promiscuous sexually when I was younger. I hate to admit it, but I've probably been with over 300 different men in my life. I've literally seen gallons of semen spew out of thousands cocks. Take it from someone with experience: there's a big difference from one guy to another. It's really a continuum ---- on one end you have men who merely dribble when they come, and on the other you have guys whose dicks spew like geysers. Of course, there's everything in between, too.
I always thought that the most exciting thing about experiencing a new guy was finding out how big a load he could shoot. My personal preference is for the geyser type, and I'm lucky to have a lover who has a cock like a fire hose. I'm very oral, and I love it when he pumps a big, powerful load of his jism into my mouth. But I also get off on the sight of a cock when it's spurting cum, especially his. Sometimes, when I jerk him off, he'll shoot five or six feet In fact, the first time we got it on, he and I were in my car and I gave him a really good, slow hand job. When he finally climaxed I was dumfounded because his cum sprayed everywhere, including the headliner, the rear window, and the back seat. It cost me $110 to get the interior cleaned and detailed after that, but it was worth it! Anyway, now we always bring condoms when we go out together. We tend to get into a lot of impromptu jerking and sucking, and I'd much rather that we slurp each other's cum out of a rubber than lick it off the upholstery.
As for me, I'm somewhere in the middle of the pack. On a good day, I can squirt my cum a foot or two, and maybe even reach my own mouth. But that's unusual. I guess I'm just one of those "normal" guys you wrote about.

[M] I have always been blessed with not only strong ejaculations of substantial quantity but I also experience several large spurts before I am finished with my orgasm. Because of this, and my wife's love of seeing me cum, masturbation has become our favorite sexual activity. My wife often asks me to jerk off while she watches. Sometimes I'll come on her breasts, other times I'll place the head of my cock slightly between her pussy lips and cum and still other times she'll take just the head of my cock in her mouth and I'll cum. Whether she jerks me off or I do it myself, my orgasms are always forceful and large. She says watching the large quantity of cum shooting out from my cock is incredibly exciting to her, especially when I jerk myself off for her viewing pleasure.

Updated 4/05 [M] When I was young, a girl - who had never seen my penis at that time - asked how big it was when erect. Being an engineer I measured mine with calipers - one and a quarter inches across and duly reported this.
She worked in a laboratory at that time and found so called 'boiling tubes' rather like large test tubes to be just that size. Her and the other girls in the lab spent a lot of time commenting on this and whether and how it would fit - they were very young!
As she did not believe me I had to show her.

Updated 2/04 [M] Everything in moderation. Women who look top-heavy are not at all sexy to me.
p.s. Women do check out the bulge in a man's pants. The one where he keeps his wallet.

Updated 1/04 [M] Staying-power.com helped me overcome my premature ejaculation. Enough said!

Updated 8/03 [M] i have noticed that ladies over age 40 don't care too much about penis size...or that is what i have noticed.i could be wrong (considering that most freaky-ladies like big-stuff shoved into their "caves")...
i have found that the "ladies" i have dealt with so far were satisfied by my timing and ability to make different moves during intercourse, instead of just "in-out pumping" as guys with big-penises do! also, most experienced-ladies (deep down inside) prefer to suck on a penis under 7" in length...

Updated 12/02 [M 31] I am happily married to a foxy gal who is 12 years my senior. Anyway, my penis was measured by a former girl friend when I was 19 years old. I found out it is just over 8 1/2 inches long. It's also pretty thick.The size of my penis has been more of an asset than a liability. With my wife it's just about perfect. It just seems to be a wonderful fit. She loves to have my big cock rammed inside her. She loves to tell me how big I am while I'm fucking her. She'll scream "fuck me harder with that huge cock" AND I DO!!!!!! There is nothing in this world that compares to a woman commenting on the size of your cock. Us males love to have our egos stroked, and nothing can make a man feel better about himself.
However , there is a downside. I have to be careful when fucking my wife from behind. You see, that's my most pleasureable position.But I can't ram her too hard or it hurts her. So I have to practice some restraint when giving it to her 'Doggie style".
As far as the missionary position, we fuck so hard and furious sometimes,it probably would sound like we're punishing each other. Truthfully, we collapsed a queen sized bed frame one night. I'm fortunate to have a wife with a fairly deep vagina, so I never hurt her in that position.
But here's why I wrote to you Joan. I have to tell you about my ex girl friend Cindy. I dated her when I was in the Navy. I was 23 and she was 32. Cindy had 2 young kids so had somewhat recently given birth(within the last 3 years). The most amazing thing about her was the shallow length of her vagina. I mean it was not deep at all. I had been with quite a few women up to this point in my life , but she was unique. When we had intercourse, I would literally "BUST THROUGH" or "BOTTOM OUT".I'm guessing her cervix was stretched from giving birth. I don't know? But I do know this. Having my cock in her UTERUS. made for some absolutely mind-blowing, earth-shattering orgasms for her.I have never felt so powerful in my life. We all know the kind of perverted, twisted thoughts that go through our minds during sex. Can you imagine my thought process knowing I am shoving my dick all the way through and out the other side.
So I have to say having an above average size penis has and still is working to my advantage, on the most part.

[M 55] Well, I am sure my post is different. I had read a tip on the net about guys like me who fantasize about sucking cock. The tip was, buy a lifelike dildo and put your cum on it and suck it. I thought this a great idea and bought a penis dildo and tried it -- too damn big. I bought a smaller one and enjoyed the fantasy.

Updated 11/02 [F] I can only speak for myself, but in all matters of making love, size does matter! Of course it depends of if you are wanting a vibrator to simply vibrate your clit or for penetration - there is something so exciting about being filled so full with a large dildo/vibrator/penis...

[F] For me size definantely matters!!! too big is no fun. I do not want it to be an endurance contest. Ooh and Ben Wa balls are too big. I think that perhaps the exercises might work if the balls were not so big. OUCH!

[F 28] Size? Depends. I can get off on any size. My preference depends on my mood and whether I'm using it in my vagina or anus.

[M 48] I can say that comments i have heard seems to be toward the yes side. Many women have told me that any lover who was well endowed made them feel more physically satisfied. I know a woman whose past lover was huge around 11 inches and thick and later on after she broke up with him she found sex with a smaller man not as satisfying. One other thing to consider is that for many women thickness is more important than length because a thick cock or dildo will really fill you up and make sex or masturbation more fulfilling.

[F 24] I am 24, still a virgin (haven't found a man yet worthy of being my first lover) and since I not only have to provide sexual pleasure to myself, it's a great opportunity to learn my anatomy and how it works, and also when that first time comes, I'll be ready for penetration.
I have 5 vibes/dildoes, all of different sizes that I have collected over time. My first one was a 6 1/2 inch, jelly vibe that worked well for me. As I started to learn more about them, I expanded my collection and presently have: my first 6.5 inch, an 8 inch Mr. Softee dildo (for those times when I'm feeling adventurous), a "junior" 5.5 inch dildo, a 7.5 inch "bullet" jelly vibe (I don't like it too much, the shaft is "ribbed" and I don't like the feeling of it), and my most recent one being a "midnight pleasures" jelly vibe that I believe is 7 inches, but a little bigger in girth.
I use all of them, depending on my mood. Sometimes I just want to please myself fast and quick, and I return to old faithful - my first 6.5 inch one or even my 5.5 inch one. If I want to spend more time and feeling daring, I use a bigger one. But in my opinion, and of course it varies from woman to woman, the 6.5 inch is the perfect size for me.
Another tip: for me at least, fantasy plays a big part in my pleasure using my toys. The great feeling of the vibe/dildo moving in and out while I'm thinking about some hot, intense sex with a great looking man really gets me going.

Updated 6/02 [M] When my wife found out I was smaller than average at 4 3/4" when fully erect by doing a measurement and comparing my size with the online penis survey she found out th her talking about my penis being small excited me. So she started to talk about more and more and the more she did the more amourous I would get as well as more submissive to her. It always seemed to end up with me performing oral sex on her and then she would encourage me to just masturbate for her to watch. One day she got a dildoe that was about twice my size and she really came hard with it. That started the end of my regular sex with her as she always wanted me to use it on herand then just have me masturbate afterwards. After a year of this told her that if she wanted to have sex with a well hung man that it would be OK with me and think she should experience it. She hugged me and kissed me deeply as she thanked me and told me she already had someone in mind as she was hoping I would agree to it. She loves me more now because I let her have what she needs.

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Posted 1/02 [M 28] I am a black male 28yrs of age and my penis is 8 inches in length and really thick. I have never been with a woman who has not liked a big cock. Some of the advantages of having one is I get lots of ladies, lots of respect from them when it comes to sex and I love to see them moan and groan when I am inside them.

Posted 11/01 [F] A woman suggests a link of interest on this topic - Hyptalk - for men

Posted 9/01 [M] About 2 years ago I was diagnosed with Peyronies Disease. For those of you who don't know, it's a disorder that causes bending or constriction of the penis. No one really knows what causes the disease, but speculation is that severe bending during intercource, or possible injury, is the cause. Currently there is no cure. In my case, I was lucky enough not to have any serious bending, but I was left with a nasty constriction that caused my erect penis to be 2 inches shorter than before Peyronies. It also left me less rigid when erect. I recently was told about a new product called LONGITUDE, which is a pill you take that increases penis size by enhancing blood flow to the penis. Has anyone tried this stuff, and did it work??? I'm at a point where I'm willing to try almost anything to regain my pre Peyronies form.

Posted 7/01 [M] I have read your column for quite sometime now and I would like to send a few messages to people who complaign about a small penis. There is a flip side to this story that most may have never considered. What if your penis is too large? I am a freak of nature in some people's estimation and have suffered a great deal from it. I was born with an over-sized, enormous penis and would give anything if it were "norma" size, whatever that is.
When I was eleven years od my penis was already eight inches in length and thick as a beer can. The guys in gym class kidded me unmercifully and somehow the word got around that I was hung like a horse. By the time I entered H.S. I was approaching ten inches and still thick as my wrist. I had several incidents as a result of my size. One summer I visisted my aunt and she accidently saw me nude one day and that led to my first sexual encounter where she actually seduced me and told me how lucky I was to have such a beautiful penis. We had sex nearly everyday while I was there and she also taught me about oral sex, both giving and recieving. I returned home all excited and ready to make out with the girls in my school.
My first date after returning home was with a cute little blond whom I had never had the courage to ask out before. My juices were flowing after my summer with my aunt and I soon had her in the back seat of the family car and stripped for action. When she saw my penis which was almost eleven inches by then she literally jumped back into the front seat, refusing to consider sex with my "monster' as she called it. She passed the word and soon most ot the school girls would not date me. I was miserable and started to stay by myself a lot. I would hesitate to undress even in front of guys as they would all want to sneek a peak at my size. I skipped PE class in school and even when I went swimming at our local pool it was obvious I was endowed like a horse. I wore over-sized swim suits to conceal my penis.
I wanted sex as I had normal desires and one day I met a woman who was ten years older than me. Her daughter was a school-mate and we started to talk. I suspicion that she had heard about me through her daughter who was pretty promiscuos herself. To make a long story short, she was a size queen and soon I was having sex all the time with her. My penis was now nearly fourteen inches and still growing. She literally worshipped my penis and would spend long minutes down there performing oral sex on me. There was little affection between us and I realized she was only interested in me because of my size; believe it or not there are women like this.
I messed with her for nearly a year before she and her daughter moved away. Thank goodness my penis stopped growing when it reached 16.5 inches. I went to the hospital once for an appendectomy and half the nurses in the hospital came by to check my progress. I found out later that the word had gotten around and they were just seeing for themselves.
I could tell you story after story and even some prostitutes refused to have sex with me. I am married to a woman who tolerates sex with me but I can't let loose and really "give it to her" as some people say as I am afraid of going too deep and hurting her. Believe it or not she prefers anal as it seems to hurt her less. She was very active annally before we met and enjoys it. She loves to perform oral and is good at 'deep throat" but I would give anything to have normal sex one time and not be afraid to go as deeply as possible. I usually finish straight sex frustrated and up tight.
I hesitated to write this letter for fear that someone would not believe me but my penis is 16.5 inches long and about 2.5 inches thick and I would gladly trade it for a normal 7 incher. For all you guys out there complaining just use more finesse and enjoy it.......

[M] I'm a healthy mature male, who has always had a voracious sexual appetite, mostly not fulfilled, indeed the word frustrated cums (excuse the intentional pun) into play. I have a much bigger than average penis, and guys, please believe me when I say, that it is not always a desirious asset. Rather it can be uncomfortable for both your partner and yourself, when it comes to insertion, especially if your woman is not really wet. I have had more complaints about my size, than I have had compliments. I suppose I should say I measure a full nine inches, when totally erect, but it is my girth which seems to cause the discomfort. I have had more than my share of sexual experiences, mostly after I was married, but almost inevitably only the most anxious and expectant women have offered no comment, or on the rarest of occasions, a remark about how well endowed they considered me. So if you have average, or near average equipment, be grateful, and remember that bigger is not always better.

[M] As for the penis size issue: Using the Venus butterfly technique, Dr. Bob Schwartz says that 30 years of research as found that most of the nerve endings are at the opening. And that if you place your thumb just outside her entrance, it will feel like your 10 inches inside her when she cums. It's a great way to make her orgasm! And a great way to start your evening. Here's the site Venus Butterfly Enjoy JEL

Posted 6/01 [F 21] I don't think bigger is better. My boyfriend is not much larger than average and there are still sometimes when it just feels too big. He knows how I feel and I think it is a boost to his ego that he is more than "big enough" for me.

Posted 5/01 [M] I know you may find this hard to believe or perhaps you have heard of it before, but Penis Enlargement is true and I can attest to that my self. I started noticing Penis Enlargement site popping up in banner on porn sites and I checked into a few. the most expensive one was around $160.00 US which was out of the question for me being a Canadian and out dollar not worth a plug nickle in the USA, so I continued checking until I could find one at a reasonable price at http://www.penisdevelopment.com So I picked up a money order for $35.00 US and a short time later I had my password and I was on my way. For $35.00 US I couldn't lose. I clicked on all the instructions/excercises and printed each page out for reference and I began the excercises. I tell you the truth and not a lie that ever since I can remember I have been a mere 5 3/4" skinny penis, and since being on the program and doing the excercises for 10 weeks I now have 6 3/4" cock when hard an! d in an absolute limp state, 6 1/4". Now here's the jewel. The girth of my dick has doubled when hard. It is just so awesome to see how my dick has changed. The pc excercises have helped to give me greater control over ejaculation and a rock hard erection. When I started out the excercises were a daily routine and took about an hour. Now I do the advanced excercises about four or five times per week and it takes about 3/4 hr to 1 hr. I have passed this on to my son and he is seeing positive results already. It takes dedication and results will vary between participants, but it does work. It is apparently a secret method taught by Arab fathers to their sons. I didn't tell my wife at first till about a week ago and she really noticed the difference in performance and size, so go for it guys, it is possible.

[M 46] I'm a male, 46 years old, married 23 years but divorced for the last 6 years ... very fit and sexually active, to say the least.
My comment on the subject of penis size, whenever it comes up (hee hee) ... is that every single time I read remarks about size it invariably comes out, "it ain't the size that matters, it's how one uses it" ... or something similar to that. My comment is, why do people always seperate cock size from performance, as if a well endowed hung male, because by virtue of being hung ... is incapable of being a wonderful lover and knowing how to use it? lol ... I agree with women that feel that way, I think being a great lover has to do with many, many things ... least of all which is cock size. I am well hung, not the biggest guy around for sure, but it's 8 1/2" ... very thick, 7 1/2" in circumference, and anyone that tells me my women have not been extremely excited or impressed with my cock are living in another world from mine. It has also been my fortunate experience to know that even when some women become just aware of me being hung, they do indeed often make an effort to find out just how hung ... many women DO care. : )
But all that aside, most of the comments made to me by my lovers have been about my touch, my hands and what I do with them .... the feel of my skin, my scent ... long, intense, and totally uninhibited oral sex, the way I kiss, my eyes ... my warmth and sense of humor ... not any one thing at all, but a culmination of many things. A mans cock is not a seperate entity, you can't seperate the cock from the man, it all goes together ... even though some fellas think they are so big they are compelled to give it it's own name. I am a good lover, I DO know how to use it and use it well to please and take my baby where she needs to go ... but it's many other things that get her there besides size ... the whole man. As a matter of fact, my lovers have been more impressed with the strength, stamina, and hardness of my erection than the size, and with my ejaculations as well. So, I agree pretty much with all that has been said, but I do want to say a man can be hung and be wonderful lover too ... not all men rely solely on the size of their erection to satisfy, that is foolish. : )

[M] By the way, I was reading about one female who is having a threesome with her friend and her friends spouse because she felt her man was inadequate in the penile area. Well the P.E. Board I am affiliated with helps men who want to increase the size of their penis. It's free and there is a wealth of knowledge that he can gain. Of course with knowledge there is danger involved especially when you take that knowledge out of context. I have a pay site that I go to also that really helped me understand. The P.E. Board just helped me know what others where doing and some of the mishaps that others have had. Maybe you might want to pass it on to her. Here is the - www.forsize.com

[F 35] I am a 35 year old female, who loves to read your erotic stories/tales. ( I love the writing style, i just can't put down your books.) I was surprised but happy to here you are older than I. Until my 32nd year sex was nice but not exciting in my book. For some reason when I became pregnant with my second, I became HORNY the first time in my life. My husband and I have been together for 16 years. There was only one other before him. I don't know if because I became comfortable with my body, our relationship, or because I am in my prime ( 30's I hope it continues in my 40's and beyond.) My husband is pleased but wishes it came when he was in his prime and able to keep up with me. In my new found sexual freedom i have searched the net to fill my mind with more info to teach myself more ways to please myself and husband. I love your site (thank-you).My husband like anyone has never liked the size of his penis 5''.
I love it for oral sex, but a few positions(laying on side in spoon style), when I pump back to him, he slips out(misstroke) and we end up hurting each other.So he wanted to try the pay sites for the penis enlargement (exercise) sites. They all seemed to be the same and was not sure about privacy. Than one day I came along this site on the grip that gave out all the info free. yes free. At www.thegrip.com/technique.htm the only catch is this take 1 hour and to be repeated every 8 hours until desired size. Unfortunately my husband works 12-14 hour days and is on call 24/7.
Thanks for answering my letter so fast, I was expecting at lest a week. I do love my husband and tell him size doesn't matter. I say we were made for each other his below average penis and my below average breast size 32 AA. The only difference is in a t-shirt you can tell I am small chested, in pants you can't tell he has a small penis! But if it would help his self confidence to try something to grow his penis that doesn't require surgery why not.

Posted 4/01 [M 49] Although penis size may go a long way (no pun intended) in the male shower room or on a porno film, in my opinion the myth of size being better is just a lot of sizzle and no steak!
Although it's always an interesting topic of discussion - in fact we were just discussing it with 2 other couples last night over drinks (the women all laughingly said "the bigger the better") I'm convinced it doesn't matter. I'm of average size, 7 inches or so erect and decent circumference, and my wife of 26 years and I have great sex. It's all in the foreplay, and I'm proud to say she reaches orgasm about 90% of the time. We kiss sensuously, fondle each other, lick each other, even periodically use a 6" battery powered vibrator to stimulate her while I tend to other areas with my hands and mouth. Quite frankly most times, if I've done my job correctly (truly a labor of love) by the time I penetrate she's so close to cuming that I could be 2 1/2 " long and only as big around as my pinkie and she'd still explode.

On Penis Sleeves [F 28] My husband purchased a penis sleeve It was in the form of a condom it was a three inch long hard rubber sleeve that was attached to a condom it did not work very well and was some what expensive, and was to be used only one time.
Next he tried one that was a strap on it was a 8 inch hollow penis his penis fits inside and it works better for me but is not as good for him. It is expensive thirty some dollars but can be used over and over with washing. It extends my husbands penis about three inches I am 28 years old and my husband's penis with out the extension is just fine for me. I have had the real thing, an 8 inch penis. It was good but so is my husband's shorter penis.
Here are some details: One of the cheaper ones we use is a reusable design and will stretch to fit any penis. It adds about 3 inches to his cock and is called Cyberskin penis extension. I think it cost about $15 and he got it through the Adam & Eve cataog. (see my links list) Another was the Rejoyn support sleeve that makes the penis thicker and harder, but not longer.

[M] Thanks for raising this issue. I have one of those average size penises. I have had many lovers over the years, most of whom were satisfied more with what I could or they could do with my penis. Three lovers who were into anal sex felt it was just the right size for a comfortable anal ride. I have made a point of learning what pleases a woman during sex. Some just never figured out what that was and it was frustrating to say the least, for both of us. I have known a few women who also enjoyed a much thicker instrument pleasuring their vagina. Well, we usually found creative ways to satisy that urge! Cucumbers, really thick cucumbers work great. Big butt plugs work as well in a vagina as they do on an anus. Bananas are also effective, plus nothing is quite as tasty as a banana eaten right out of a Vagina! Then there have been a variety of thick dildoes including stap ons. My penis isn't the thickest or longest cock on the block, but I and my lovers have put it to pleasureable and happy use over the years! Loving the total woman is the greatest turn on of all!

Posted 3/01 [F]Yet another note, this time in response to a story in the threesome section submitted by a woman who was frustrated by her husband's "tiny" 5" penis: she missed being stretched out by someone with a really outsized cock.
Anyway, I have a similar frustration. After many years of having sex with only women I have become accustomed to heavy fucking, whether it was fisting or a carefully selected dildo (unlike your correspondent I like width but not length). My girlfriend had a collection and we could choose one depending on our mood and what we were planning on doing with it: one for anal sex, another when I had menstrual cramps and was feeling delicate, a monster to threaten me with when she was feeling bossy and so on. I'm dating a man now and he naturally has a human-sized penis but this feels small to me. I like small: it's wonderful for oral sex and for frequent, low-key intercourse. He has also given me my first-ever gushing g-spot orgasm, so we're definitely having fun with it; it's just that the variety is missing: where's the intense, heavy fucking? A normal-sized penis wouldn't necessarily be a problem except that he has giant hands and can't fist me. (Yes, I know Deborah Addington says I can get anything I want in there, even a toaster, with enough patience and lube; but it's my body and I say no toasters and not those hands either.)
We're experimenting with finger-fucking but it doesn't seem to be working too well: wrong shape, I think. A friend suggested we try a dildo: she pointed out that being a man and a visual creature my lover would probably get off as much on watching the dildo move in and out of my pussy as I would on the sensation. I'm pretty sure we'll try this though we haven't yet: the dynamic of our sex doesn't seem to lead spontaneously to toys.
Anyway, this is partly to say that if what you want is to be stretched out, it doesn't have to be by a flesh-and-blood penis and you don't have to think of your lover as inadequate for not being abnormally large. Also partly to ask: what do other straight couples do?

[M] I am a male and I have a small penis. If the average is six inches then I have about five and sometimes six in the best of moments. I have managed to have some fantastic sex in my life time because the biggest sex organ is the brain and if the lady is really up for the big bang then the size of the penis is truly not terribly important. However, when its sex for sex and you are doing dog and pony shows it is obvious to me that a ten inch cock would be preferable. Its purely a physical thing of getting to the promised land from various positions etc.
All in all, a large cock say seven inches or so with a nice fullness is the best guarantee for complete satisfaction and there is not a lady around who is not at least curious about that fact if they haven't had the opportunity to have sex with a well hung male.

[F 28] I also wanted to comment on a question from your site asking about penis sleeves that increase a man's size. Lover's Lane, a tasteful adult catalog & on-line store ~which of course carry some of your books~ sell "condoms" that extend penis size 2" or 3", depending on what you like. They go on like condoms, and are washable and re-usable.
Also, Adam & Eve, another adult catalog & on-line store, carry 3" extenders which also feature nubs for a little added treat. They also go on like condoms and are washable and re-usable as well. They also carry various other sleeves to go around the shaft that have great enhancing features like molded beads, nubs, ribs and ticklers, if a little extra width is what your after. And most items seem pretty affordable at both places.
And by the way, in my opinion regarding the size of a man's penis, the old adage still applies that it's not the quantity but the quality that counts. Of course, since technique can be learned, a large, "unlearned" penis isn't a bad place to start if you have the choice...:-) !

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