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Updated 9/07 [M 53] After reading the letters about prostrate massage and the disappointment expressed by some about the Aneros I want to relate my experiences with it but it's going to cover a lot of other subjects along the way, so here goes.
About five years ago I started having erection problems, my cock would'nt get hard when I wanted it to, and if it did I would loose my hard-on half way through what ever I was doing. My wife being the wonderful woman she is said not to worry about it we could still enjoy good sex (meaning oral sex) when ever I couldn't get it up. Even tough I enjoy eating her pussy and her sucking my cock even if it isn't hard I still missed a good fuck now and then. I started doing research on ED (erectile disfunction) and everything was the same, take a pill, use a pump,or have surgery, none of which really thrilled me. Then I came across a book called "Sexual Reflexology" which talked about using Taoist exercises to rejuvinate failing sexual abilities. I started doing the massage and stretching exercises for my cock and balls' and the flexing and breathing exercises for my PC muscle and my wife helped me with the prostrate massages which I didn't mind because it wasn't the first time her finger was up my ass. We had discovered how wonderful anal play was years ago. But this was totally different.
When she started diliberately massaging my prostrate and not just thrusting in and out like we did before I started to notice a whole new set of sensations in my ass and my cock. Still no hard-on but lots of pre-cum which we both like the taste of very much and if she did it long enough I would cum like crazy. After about six months of exercises I was starting to get hard enough in the mornings to fuck my wife again but, other than that the only change besides the new sensations in my ass, was that my cock seemed about an inch longer and a little thicker.
By now my wife was beginning to to miss my hard cock at night so she scheduled me for a physical for the first time in years and I told her I would talk to the doctor about my ED. Sounds like the typical guy right. Now if I haven't covered enough categories from this site here goes another one. My wife didn't tell me much about the doctor except the it was a woman. When the door opened I couldn't believe how good looking she was. She was short, blonde and as I found out later the same age as me. Now if your waiting for a hot doctor fantasy forget it. As much as I would love to fuck her I love my wife too much for that, but it does make for some great fantasies. She was very helpful and informative about ED and she had me try Levitra first. As much as I don't like taking drugs it did work great at first. I got hard-ons like I never had before.
The first time I took it we fucked four times in the four hours the it worked, I thought I had found the answer. But the side effects, headaches, stuffy nose, and making my eyes red were to much to handle. Then after awhile it didn't work every time I took it. I told our doctor about this and she had me try Cialis, and I will admit it works good and for almost two days too and I have been using it for about three years now. I know your wondering what this all has to do with the Aneros, well here goes. While I continued to do the cock and ball exercises I did more research on prostrate massage because I believed that was what helped me get hard enough to fuck in the mornings with out Cialis.
I came across an article that talked about a prostrate massager called the Aneros so I started checking on-line toy stores and found one ,an Aneros not a toy store, called the MGX. Well a week later I got it in the mail. Unfortunately my wife was out of town so the first time I was on my own. I followed the instructions that came with it. I lubed up good and slid it up my tight ass, then as they said to do I layed on my side and did breathing exercises to relax after thirty minutes I began to flex my anus like they said to do. Well to get to the point like some of the people who wrote I had nothing but a slight tingling in my ass, a lot of pre-cum and the only orgasm I had was when I gave up and jerked -off. But it doesn't end there. My wife came home and didn't have to go to work the next day so she got to, as she calls it, help me exercise the next morning. This means she lays on the bed behind me while I do my cock and ball exercises next to the bed while I'm watching so I do them right in the mirrored doors of our closet, and she rubs and kisses my but to help stimulate me and get as much blood flowing to my cock as possible to expand it.
Well this time instead of just rubbing and kissing me, when I got down to the last five minutes of milking my cock she remembered I had got the Aneros while she was gone and she got it out of the drawer and started playing with it. I told her to put it away that it was a waste of time but she had other ideas. She lubed it up and after saying maybe I just did'nt use it right she slid it up my ass and for some reason a whole new sensation swept over me. She started wiggling it with her finger and before I knew what was happening I was gasping for breath, my legs began to tremble uncontrollably, and there was a steady stream of pre-cum flowing from my cock. All of sudden my whole body started to shake uncontrollably and I knew I was about to cum but I wanted to enjoy this feeling more so as I had learned in the exercise book I pressed between the base of my cock and my anus with two fingers to stop me from ejaculating. My wife was still moving the Aneros and I was jerking-off like crazy and I had one of the most incredible body shaking orgasms in my life. As a matter of fact my wife had to keep me from falling down.
After the tremors subsided amazingly I was still stroking my cock, one of the benefits of not ejaculating, because as I learned, when you cum all your sexual energy goes out the end of your cock. Well my wife and I enjoyed that so much that we kept going and I had three more orgasms, each one more intense than the last until I came all over the mirror and floor and collapsed on the bed. My wife has alway been multi-ogasmic but I usually would only come once because its hard to control ejaculation when your fucking or even getting a blow-job because its hard to get your fingers down to that spot to stop the cum, I'm working on getting my PC muscle strong enough stop my cumming but I'm not quite there yet. Now my wife was thrilled she had a way to make me multi-orgasmic, her and the Aneros.
Needless to say when I found out they had a web site I checked it out and found they had lots of different styles of Aneros. As of know I own the MGX, the Maximus, the Helix, and last but definately not least, it's the biggest one they have and my personnel favorite the Progasm. As a matter of fact I've had the Progasm in my ass the whole time I 've been typing this and with out Cialis my cock has been rock hard the whole time which is unusual because most of the time I don't get very hard when I use the Aneros but I think doing the exercises has also helped because there have been quite a few changes sense I put the exercises, using Cialis, and using the Aneros, all together. First let me say these are my results, and I can't say one way or another whether they will work this way for everyone. As a result of the exercises and my wife will attest to this, my cock when hard went from 6.5 in. long to almost 8.5 in. long and from 1.5 in. thick to over 2 in thick. The number of orgasms I can have before I loose total control and cum all over the place is an average of three, but one time I did have a total of five orgasms, it took almost two hours. Just recently I've been able to have either the Aneros or a vibrator or in my ass an still be hard enough to fuck my wife, it's fabulous having my ass full and my wifes cunt on my cock.
As for Cialis, I still use, even though I can get hard with out it most of the time, so I only use it when I know my wife and I have a big night or day of sex planned and I know I will need to get hard numerous time, I'm still leery of losing a hardon in the middle of a great fuck and it seems to make my cock slightly bigger and my wife enjoys that because it takes some deep fucking to get her off. Granted the Aneros did'nt create all these changes but let me tell you it is the hottest sex toy I have ever used and I use it at least two or three times a week with or without my wife's help even though I prefer her help I think it adds to the excitement, my cock starts to get hard just seeing her take the Aneros out an lube it up.
So for the guys saying that the Aneros doesn't do much for them I say first throw out the instructions that come with it, then forget about the hands free earth shaking orgasms they talk about, touch yourself, let your lover help and except any pleasureable feelings you get. Right now my ass is twitching like crazy, my prostrate is on fire, I'm stroking my cock with one hand and typing with the other so I'm going to bring this marathon to an end and enjoy getting my self off by saying Enjoy yourself, your cock, your ass, your lover, and give an Aneros a try, right now mine just turned my cock into a cum fountain hope it can do the same for you.

Updated 7/07 [M 29] I am a 29 straight M who has just discovered the enjoyment of prostate stimulation. I had read many times about how this can bring great sensations to both men and women, but I was coy about doing anything in 'that' area. Finally, I was intrigued enough to order a beginner's set of anal beads by mail and a bottle of Astroglide. I was immediately hooked, loving the feel of having my ass filled while masturbating. I have experienced some of my strongest orgasms while using them.
Anal/prostate stimulation is definitely something that men and women can both enjoy, whether gay or straight. The anus is a very sensitive area that can send waves of pleasure through the entire body. Right now, I am only using my anal beads when alone, but I will certainly bring them into a relationship with my girlfriend at some point.
To all guys out there, don't be afraid of using your anus for pleasure. It's well worth it.

Updated 1/07 [M] I recently purchased an Aneros device with great expectations. I have always enjoyed anal play, though my current wife does not. Nonetheless I have used the Aneros during sex with my wife (which she agreed to willingly) and while masturbating. Though it is pleasureable, I have not had the intense sensations others report. I am very disappointed in the product.

Updated 10/06 [M] I have a massage therapist that I see monthly that gives a prostate massage on a regular basis. This isn't a massage parlor or anything like that. She runs a private practice out of her house and she is certified and very professional. She says that all of her knowledge about prostate massage comes from reading and from practicing on colleagues while in school. Anyway, the reason she gives it to me is that I have a history of testicular cancer and she says that this will help prevent prostate cancer since I am high risk. First, she uses cocoa butter and massages my penis and scrotum until it is very erect and then I turn over and kneel forward on the table. She then massages the area between the scrotum and anus all the while rubbing my scrotum and penis. She does this until a few drops of a milky substance comes out of my penis. Whether this has any benefit at all, I do not know, but I will say that it feels amazing. I think I will continue to see her on a regular basis for a massage.

Updated 7/06 [M 63] I have had 2 prostate massages. They were done by a woman who does this for her living. My wife met, and my wife also agreed to this. She watched one time. First when I get there I have to undress, then get on an exam table with stirrups. She does not give a privacy cover, She says because I am exposed the whole time anyway. With my feet in the stirrups, she puts a gloved finger in my rectum, and massages my prostate. She also oils her other hand, and masturbates me. I am brought to almost having an orgasm 4 or 5 times. Then the last time I am allowed to cumm and it is wonderful. The whole process lasts almost an hour. It has a therapeutic effect, and is supposed to help with erection. I am 63 and need all the help I can get. My wife enjoyed watching. In the past year or so we (my wife and I) have got in to me exposing my self. My wife has enjoyed it, but not as much as I have.

Updated 6/06 [F] The aneros prostate device is incredible or so my husband says, I milk him from time to time and later have "my way" with him with the aneros device being used. He alway cums with a great deal of semen, more so than normal. And here's a link to my page on Aneros JEL

[M 50] I have been married for 20 years and my wife and I have had anal sex once in a while, but she is not often enthusiastic about it, she is always shy of showing me her butt. Once in a while she will be in the mood, I have fucked her pussy while she had a dildo deep in her ass, and have also fucked her ass while she has a dildo in her pussy. Recently I encouraged my wife to penetrate my ass with her fingers while sucking me off, and it was awesome. I wished she could go on forever. She had two fingers up my ass, putting strong pressure on my prostate, while suck and licking my cock. I was amazed that I did come come right away, I enjoyed it so much. As she does not like the taste of cum I did not come in her mouth, instead she stopped and got on her knees and I fucked her doggy style hard till she came. I look forward to the next time she fingers my prostate! I bought her a strap-on but she did not like the idea of fucking me that way. I have been anally penetrated once by a man, but was too uptight to enjoy it, though now I am more relaxed about having my ass explored, I want to have my ass played with more.

[F] Was very interested in what you had to say about the aneros. It didn't work for my husband. But I did get a "pantra prostate massager" from some site in the uk it works wonders.

Updated 5/06 [M 67] I have tried shoving my fingers and dildos up my bum to get a prostate massage but I feel nothing at all.
Am I too old for it or is like female ejaculation. Does one have to rub for a long time.
I am embarrassed to ask my wife to stick her fingers up my arse so I have not asked her yet even though I am quite happy to tongue her arse and collect her ejaculation in my mouth but then this all embarrasses her so I initiate it all.

Updated 2/05 [M 53] I have been masturbating since age 5 but let me tell you, since I discovered the mind-blowing orgasms I get from massaging my prostate that sometimes, in the shower,rather than jerking off, I will put a finger up my ass and play! The feeling is fantastic-different from the feeling of coming through masturbating, but still a very satisfying feeling.

Updated 1/05 [F] If you asked my husband if he enjoyed prostate massage, he would probably say no, but the truth is he loves it. One of my favorite ways to tease him is to wake him with a prostate massage. He works nights and I work days, so I have to wake him in the evening for dinner. If he is laying on his side in the bed when I go to wake him, I put a fair amount of lube on my fingers and slide into bed next to him. I begin spreading the lube up and down his crack, especially around his anus before I slip a finger inside him. Once I work up to two fingers, I begin massage his prostate gland and, in no time, he starts humping back on my fingers, enjoying immensely. The unfortunate part, is that when I do this, I usually have dinner on the stove, so I have to stop after a few minutes. However, if it is his night off from work, he is always ready to play as soon as dinner is over.

[M 56] I am a 56 year old male and my wife and I started experimenting with anal play about ten years ago after watching a video showing anal sex. The anal sex part I will save for an other letter, but let me state that I wish I would have discovered the joys of prostate stimulation a long time ago. Some people even call the prostate the male G spot.
It is now a regular part of our sex play and I truly enjoy the different sensations it provides. I have advanced from a small butt plug to strings of beads to vibrators to finger stimulation while she jacks me off and finally to the wonderful sexual device (I don't feel it is a toy) called the Aneros which can provide great pleasure when used alone or with a partner.
You have to get over your thoughts that it's a gay thing (anything done betwen a man and a woman is heterosexual) and relax and learn what kind of motion and pressure you like, but I think that if you give it a try either alone or with an adventurous lover I'm sure you will find it very exciting. Be sure to use PLENTY of good lube and take your time.
It has gotten to the point where we both love and ask for anal play and sex regularly. And now that we are older we take more time and enjoy the mental build up to all sex play. There is a lesson in all of this for you younger people out there. Tell us about your experiences. Joan is always discreet!

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