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Updated 4/05 [M 38] i like to masturbate when i'm at home night or during the day it makes me feel very good to touch myself.

Updated 3/05 [M 63] To set the scene; I grew-up in post second world war Britain, my adolescent/teenage gears spent in the 1950's. The reference so called "dirty" book of the time was a naturist magazine "Health and Efficiency". Its then explicit photos still needed a lot of imagination; magazines such as Playboy, Penthouse and Hustler were like space travel still far in the future. Full frontal pictures even light years away.
Masturbation or "Wanking" as it was commonly known was regarded to be nasty and dirty and would lead to blindness (too late I already had glasses from early childhood). Even at school if caught owning up to wanking a boy's life was made miserable until the next victim fell foul to the piercing rhetorical question of "You've been wanking?"
Thus for me as like with many other boys wanking was self-taught. Unfortunately I did not have the pleasure of experimenting with others as some of your readers have mentioned.
Confined to either bedroom or bathroom I experienced and enjoyed this newfound pastime. Having mastered the common hands on jerking method of wanking I developed another method.
In today's jargon it would be called "Hands Free" Masturbation. I found that by taking off the pyjamas (the start of my nude period) and pushing my hard cock between and gripping it with my thighs the same effect could be achieved. Not only was the feeling of having my cock between my thighs sensuous but also with a grinding and writhing motion I could achieve a very much enjoyed wank. I found it to be a very exciting way to masturbate with all the writhing over the bed. This literally left two hands free for caressing and exploring my body but also had the advantage that I was able to support myself and be able to turn the pages of the reference book! This method did have a drawback in that it needed more cleaning up afterwards, have been accused many times of starching the sheets. Still use this method occasionally until now. On the other hand it saves you from WWS (Wankers Wrist Syndrome).
One girl friend stands out in my memory; she just could not keep her hands off my cock and at any opportune moment would give me a really good wank. Being mindful that this was now in the sixties and before tights (you know when knickers could be removed much easier). I had an old six-cylinder, bench seat, hand shift banger of a car. For the right occasion this car could be coaxed along when all six cylinders were firing without to much changing of gears. This left a hand free to reciprocate the favours with either her knickers down or pushed aside so that I could with fingers inside give her all the pleasure. Looking back I shudder to think of the road safety risks.
Moving into the seventies married a different girl whom I am still happily together with. In addition to normal sex, we both enjoyed masturbation. We would lie naked on the bed and either masturbated each other or ourselves. (Just an aside; I find sex especially rampant sex is best performed on the bed or elsewhere, sex between the sheets although sensuous on a naked body is reserved for cold winters or cosy sex). The next step in our masturbation pleasures was when my wife found that I should stand up and perform hands on masturbation in front of her; this really turned her on (and still does) especially the tightening and relaxing of naked buttock muscles during the performance. At one time she asked if I would also perform for her together with her girl friend, not only did I agree but it also brought that session to a heavier climax. I was (and still am) all for it but she never got around to asking her friend (shame). Age has taken its toll and penetration is no longer comfortable for her but thanks to the lord for masturbation.

[M] I just over the last 2 years found out that one of my favourite sexual experiences is mutual masturbation or even better masturbating for a sexy partner to show how much they turn me on. I find this so erotic & sensual. I was like every other guy apprehensive about a woman watching me masturbate but when you see how much it turns on your partner it is a wonderful experience for both. It seems so sexy & deeply personal because this is something normally done alone. I had a girl friend ask me to do this for her & she was so turned on by it which in turn made me even hornier & I gave her the masturbation show of all time.
For me a huge turn on is giving a woman hours of oral sex, I truly love this. I find it so sexy to be some place or at home when I slowly lift up her skirt and pull her panties to one side & lick & suck on her for hours at the same time masturbating for her so she can see how sexy I find her. It is also sexy to masturbate together, like I said I think it is deeply erotic watching your partner touch themselves as this is done alone by most. From my experience & visiting places like your web site were people are open about their fantasies & desires it seems that most women love to watch a man masturbate for them. I am sure most men have seen women masturbating but not all women have had the chance or pleasure of having this done just for them. A girl friend took some photos of one of our first experiences together it was so sensual as she watched & played with herself. I would deeply love to share this experience with any woman who is interested. I am not a show off by any means infact quite shy but if someone is open and says I want to see you masturbate then what's to hide? I want to share this sensual & erotic experience either by web cam for a private viewer or send her some photos even some home made videos.

Updated 1/05 [M] My girlfriend has always wanted me to masturbate in front of her but I felt embarrassed for her to see how I stimulate myself. I decided that it might be an adventure, so I got a Viagra from a co-worker and took it a half hour before my girl come home from work. I undressed minutes before she was due home and sat on the couch waiting for her to come in. My heart was beating faster as I anticipated her walking in and discovering me naked. I because more and more aroused, and my penis became stiff as a board as I sat there waiting. I could not believe how erect the Viagra made my penis, and the head and glans of the penis were swollen up and pre-cum was almost flowing from my cock. When she walked in, she dropped her purse and said "you are being naughty alone?" I said no and that she should sit down and watch. I began stroking my penis slow, I also began rubbing my testicles. I had my legs open so she got a good look. The pre-cum was running down the shaft of my penis as I stroked faster. I ejaculated with great force, and when I let go of my penis it was still almost fully erect and moving in small jerks from the contractions. It was exciting, and I didn't think it would be so much as it was.

Updated 4/04 [M] You asked who masturbates while stuck in traffic. I never did that, as it's too easy for someone to look in while you're stopped, but while I was a truck driver, I used to do it frequently while driving. Before and after I married, when I was on the road for days at a time, I'd masturbate while driving. Unlikely that I'd be observed, and I needed the release, so I always had tissues and usually a towel handy so I'd just do it. Some times I'd make it last as long as possible, and other times I'd rip off a quickie. I don't remember ever doing it more than once a day (or night) but lots of times I did it every day I was on the road. One common way was to roll a condom onto my dick with hand cream in it. That was probably the way I did it the most, but I also did it with baby powder, and, bare. When I was first married, occasionally my wife would go along if I wasn't going to be out long, and she would do me, but truthfully she wasn't very good at 'hand jobs'. She just never acquired the technique. She was great at getting me going, but lousy at finishing me up, so usually if she was along, I'd get her to get me started, then I'd take over for the finish.

Updated 3/04 [M] We have been masturbating for each others enjoyment for years and still consider this sexual activity to be the ultimate in pleasure. Initially we started down this road by a simple request by me that she finger herself while I watch. Soon, depending on what I asked her to do, she was using fingers, vibrators and or dildos while pinching her nipples for me. She would have tremendous orgasms while I watched. Honestly I could not get enough of watching her climax this way.
We soon progressed to me going down on her while she used a dildo. Needless to say, the fantasys during these escapades were endless. She simply loved the feeling of a mouth on her clitoris while something large and hard was moving in and out of her. For whatever reason, one night I asked her if she would like to watch me masturbate and did she think it might excite her. To my surprise she said yes. I sat in front of her and began to stroke myself slowly. She could not take her eyes off of me. it did not take much to notice her nipples getting hard. She told me she that I was making her very wet just by jerking off. Soon we began masturbating together. Each watching the other. We even put a large mirror on one of our walls in the bedroom so we could view each other via the mirror as well as face to face. Our orgasms were amazing.
One evening I asked, if when I climaxed, if I could do so on her. I guess watching porno movies where this seemed to be a regular practice gave me the idea this would be something I'd like to try. We did this a couple times with me cumming on her breasts. It did not take me long to start rubbing the head of my cock against one of her nipples while I jerked off to enhance my orgasm. And soon, I began rubbing against her clitoris with the head of my cock while I jerked off. This was terrific for both of us. The absolute best was when she began to suck on just the head of my cock while I jerked myself off to orgasm. She loved this technique as much as I. To this day, we continue to masturbate for each other. She using a dildo and fingering her clitoris and or pinching and pulling her nipples while I jerk myself off between her lips, her sucking my cock's head while I explode. Neither of us can stop doing this to and for each other, we enjoy our masturbation sessions more than any other sexual activity.
She's become multiple orgasmic over the years and can spend a couple hours using her dildo of choice. I can never seem to get enough of watching her fuck herself with it. Over the years she's also been able to increase the size of the dildo she uses. I remember her first, barely 6' long. Now, her latest is very thick and long, 9 + inches. It amazes me that she can take it all. The sight of that "beast" moving in and out of her, especially when she, moving her hips upward, can make it completely disappear into her pussy, drives me simply wild with desire. She is contemplating getting an even larger one. Lately we've been watching some of those "women using large dildo" masturbation porno videos and it's been giving her some new ideas. She seems to feel she can now move up to a 12 incher. She tells me that her orgasms are stronger than they have ever been now that she uses a large dildo. We go through our share of KY, as it takes lots of lube for her when she 1st starts pushing it in. She says there is a little pain, at first, and a lot of pleasure in the feeling a thick, long dildo gives her. She also tells me that her pussy feels completely stretched and full when she finally gets it all in, giving her sensations that she says make her orgasm so deep (vaginal) and intense that she almost passes out.
Our next online purchase, Ok I admit it, I've already ordered her one, will be for one of those foot long pleasure givers. I honestly cannot imagine watching her climax with something that large, but I do know one thing, I'll be jerking off one large load of cum in between her beautiful lips when I see her bury that 12" monster. If she can take it all, and that is still a debatable question between us, I'll be sending you another email describing our newest masturbation experience. We'll know if a few days when the mailman comes a knocking.

[M 38] I found a way to have comfortable erotic sex alone. I find it arousing to come home from work, undress, and lounge around nude until I am feeling aroused and want to go further. I sit naked in a comfortable chair and begin reading erotic material and or magazines with pictures of nude woman. As I read I feel more aroused by the minute, and I love it when my excited testicles start turning back in forth in my scrotum, and the pre-cum fluid starts oozing from the penis. I get several erections that come and go as I read and look at erotic material. After awhile, the erections get so firm that they bow back towards me, and the head of the penis is engorged and swelled in excitement. I dont touch my penis until I cant stand it anymore, and then I just gently stimulate the head and glans while rubbing the pre-cum around the tip. These sessions of enjoying myself are rewarding because I can take my time and stimulate myself as long as I like. When I want to ejaculate, I very lightly rub the under side of my penis head until some cum runs out, then squirts out in powerful blasts that shoot up several inches. My girl friend cant even make me cum like this, and I never tell her I masturbate, but I will continue to play with myself like this until I can't.

Updated 8/03 [F] We are in our early fifties and with a very satisfying sex life.
Several months ago I asked my partner to jack-off for me, telling him I wanted to watch his semen spurt out of his cock. He was a little reluctant at first but then agreed only if I would masturbate for him afterward. His cock is not that long (about seven inches) but it is large in circumferance. Anyway, he lay back on the bed and began stroking. After a few minutes his hand was flying up and down his shaft and he started to moan. Then, "here it comes" and his semen spurted right up in the air a couple of inches. It came out in several bursts and then he just milked the last drops. To me it was the most amazing thing and it made me so hot that I just had to take care of myself. I guess it was just as big a turn on for him, watching me because his cock was fully erect again by the time I had orgasmed. We then fucked leisurely for almost a half hour. That was the most enjoyable sex I had ever had and we repeated our 'show' several times since.

Updated 7/03 [M] Using an artificial-vagina (or a rubber sleeve of some sort), lubricate the interior of it well. Place the rubber tube/sleeve under a mattress (side of bed or end of bed). Take a thick pillow, fold it and place in on top of the rubber sleeve (the mattress holds the pillow in place on top of the rubber sleeve). With another pillow on the floor in front of the "set-up" a guy can get down on knees, stick his thing into the sleeve and while closing his eyes and grasping the pillow, imagine doing a "lady" doggie-style...

[M] I have read some of the letters regarding people enjoying watching others masturbate, especially females enjoying watching other females or males masturbate.
As a male I have always enjoyed watching porn movies where females fondle their breasts and pussy. I enjoy moreso watching females masturbate males. It turns me on and I enjoy masturbating while I watch.
My female partner has joined me watch these movies too. Sometimes she just watches as I masturbate. She encourages me by talking and often by masturbating me and pretending that she is the female in the movie.
Recently we were walking past an adult shop and I encouraged he to come in and watch a female performing in a live show. She was excited by the prospect. The stripper was great and used my partner as her assistant. My partner told me that she actually enjoyed touching the strippers breasts.
From here we moved into the booth for a peep show. The performer was playing with her breasts. My partner was aroused. The performer then started to use a coke bottle and inserted it into her pussy. She came to our window so that we could see the bottle moving in and out of her pussy.
My partner was very excited by this and started to masturbate while she watched the girl pushing the bottle into her pussy.
It was not too long before my partner had an orgasm. She then proceeded to give my already hard cock (which I had been rubbing) a very hard and vigorous rub as she continued to watch the girl in the booth.
Once I had shot my cum, she licked me clean and satisfied with the activity, we then left.
That peep show has become a regular place for us to visit. We even hired a private lap dancer who ended up working on my partner mainly. I simply watched and masturbated. My partner had her pussy and breasts rubbed and sucked but she had to sit still as she was not allowed to touch - house rules. Needless to say that I had a very pleasant experience once the lap dancer had finished.

[M] My wife and I love enthusiastic sex. Orally and manually as well as just straight sex. She also enjoys watching me masturbate after we have sex for a while. After I work her over orally and manually to a few orgasms, I'll pump her with my cock till I start to go a little limp. We'll rest for a bit and then she'll start to stroke me and tickle my balls. As she’s doing this, I'll be rubbing my whole body with my hands and after I st! art to become erect again, I'll move them down to my groin area and start fondling myself a she slowly moves her hand away. Finally, I get down to full stroking while she watches and I orgasm and shoot cum all over myself. She likes to climb on top after that and while I’m rubbing the cum from my hand all over her tits and nipples, she'll be sliding her hands all over the rest of me, lubricating them with my thick, spent cum and sometimes rubbing her sticky fingers all over her clit for her own orgasm and then giving herself a little taste of the intermingled fluids.
Masturbating with a spouse is great fun you can have anywhere. In the car, out in the woods while camping, a hidden room at work, a pool, hot tub or just whipping it out while sitting around watching TV. No special planning. You just need your hands and its free!

[M 48] Masturbation has been a great source of sexual pleasure since I was 10 years old (and probably many years before). In 5th grade I couldn't stop thinking about the Petersen triplets at my school. It was only a personal fantasy and the beginning of my sexual arousal at that time.
I loved it when the Doors' song, "Hello, I Love You" was played at the middle school church dances I went to. God! All we could do then was to repeat the masturbatory experiences with each other--sex was too dangerous and taboo in the 6th grade. Masturbation was taboo beyond all belief, but "doing each other" was an acceptable alternative to potentially dangerous intercourse. It was tittilating good fun to show each others' genitals to each other. The feeling I felt when Katie rhythmically rubbed her pudendum up against my crotch was only matched when I accidentally slipped my penis in Debbie's poop chute. Those were childish times and experiences, but they stay with me to this day. Back then, I didn't always have the opportunity to take action, with each other, but the hopes, dreams, possibilities, and scenarios drove my masturbation fantasies for decades.
I've masturbated once or twice a day since then. Intercourse is much rarer.
My favorite place to masturbate is lying in my bed. I can only usually do that when my gal friend is away. We're not sexual with each other, so I don't want to make her feel bad that I have to masturbate for sexual release. I've thrown all of my Penthouse and Club International magazines away. But the images from those magazines are what get me off. It's not the clinical picture of a wide open pussy that gets me off (although I DO like that) so much as knowing that there are highly sexual women. My masturbatory fantasy comes from
I masturbate by first stimulating the glans of my penis with my fingers. If my fantasies and fingers succeed in getting me excited, my penis becomes erect. I can then "whack off" while thinking about a favorite professor, colleague, or student. It can be a soft erection or a hard erection depending on how excited I am. If my female partner gives me anal stimulation with her fingers; my erection and ejaculation will reach a higher state of eroticism, pleasure and excitement than without anal stimulation.There is something unusual, weird and surprisingly OK about that--I like it! Would your wife do that for me?
I'm not hyper-kinky with my masturbatory fantasies, but I do think about things such as tying a kinky friend spread eagle on the bed with satin bandages. She's wearing her panties. I tease her nether regions with fingers, feathers, tongue, penis tip, etc. I'm always attemptng to bring her to climax. It's just good clean fun!
Masturbation alone is OK, but mutual masturbation a whopping lot more fun. All of us should do it!

Updated 6/03 [M 30] I've been masturbating for almost as long as I can remember. (I don't want to think back to a time that I didn't masturbate, actually!)
As a boy I noticed that the sensation of being in a warm bath made my penis hard. Not long after that I started experimenting with myself and found this great way to pleasure myself. I never understood the taboo that is associated with masturbation. I've never considered it to be something dirty or something to be ashamed of.
Though I have never been a prude, I find that I am becoming more and more free, sexually speaking. A couple of years ago I started shaving my pubic hair and I now love watching my naked, shaved and hard cock as I masturbate. One other thing I do - and I was wondering if other men do this also - is that I like to use thin ropes or laces to restrict blood flow in the penis. I suppose it works more or less the same as a cockring. I find the sensation of binding around the base of my cock (and my balls too) very arousing. I take it that this shouldn't be done for long periods at a time, because the penis needs blood, so I do this only very briefly. Is this something others have experimented with?

[F 33] I first started to masturbate regularly soon after I was married. My husband was a sailor and would spend many months away so it became my only form of sexual release. Now 32 years later I still like to pleasure myself when alone; but over the years I have got it down to an art form. Even when hoovering up I will rub up against the handle for a quick thrill. If I know my husband is away for the night I try to build up the excitwment all day; then in the early evening I will run a hot bath filled with exotic bath oil climb in and turn on the aqua jet attachments and direct the spray to my breasts and all down my body to my vagina. I usually stay in the bath enjoying the spray between my legs until I m on the point of orgasm. I then dry myself and moisturize my body spending a while playing with my breasts and vagina. I will then select one of our porn videos and either one or two of my vibrators and go into the lounge pour myself a good stiff drink. I put the video on and pretend I'm the star. I've been laid on the couch with a vibrator in my vagina and another in my backside screaming with pleasure and before the film ends can achieve 3 or 4 orgasms.
Why shouldn't us girls pamper ourselves and enjoy our bodies' My husband and I will very often mastubate in front of each other before we enjoy full sex and find it to be a great turn on. By watching each other have found out how each of us like to be touched during foreplay.

Updated 2/03 [M 33] I'm a single,straight man, never married. I've had some good sex though,with only a few women. Meanwhile,masturbating is the best for now. The best thing I love about it is, me:).
I support the thought that a person should find out what makes themselves feel good, whatever it may be. I used to work with a lady, she was about 12 yrs. older than I, and someone said a joke about masturbating, then kinda looked at me, since they knew I was single. I just laughed. Then she said, "We just kidding,what someone does in the privacy of their own home is their business". Well that got me hot, mentally, because she was single to,but we had been working together for 7 years so we like to keep it like that. But,when I got home that evening I had to get off with her thought in my head. Usually I just had a 5-10 min. stroke, but I decided to explore more, for a lot longer.I had a great session, but no matter how kinky I got nobody knows it but me. Also, it's safe sex, I don't need protection, no unplanned children, no embarrassment, no resistance. If I'm not satisfied, I do it again, and I can stop and go when the time is right.
Do you think masturbation before marriage is beneficial?
Yes ,very much so ,only way to tell your partner what you like. I think masturbation should be a significant part of a relationship, mutual, and "oop's", she walked in on me. I think it's a very intimate thing that one does,a sign of trust to share with someone special,Imo. Don't know myself yet,never married.
How can you convince your partner to masturbate while you watch?
If I knew her pretty well,I would flat out ask her, or I'll do it first.

Updated 1/03 [M 32] On the subject of masturbation, and more specifically, watching others do it. One of my most memorable sexual experiences occurred while staying in a lovely inn, nestled in the White Mountains of New Hampshire. My wife and I checked into the Inn at Thornhill in Jackson (I'd highly recommend it), and were given a room in the Carriage House. It was a beautiful room, with a big King-sized four poster bed, a lovely Jacuzzi, and best of all, a glassed-in stand-up shower. After the long drive from Maine, my wife decided that she'd take a shower before we headed up to the main house for dinner. About half way through her shower, I decided that I'd duck into to the bathroom to shave and freshen up. Upon entering, I was met by the site of my wife's gorgeous nude form behind the steamy glass. Being highly distracted throughout my shave by my wife's movements being reflected in the mirror, I decided to perch myself on the edge of the Jacuzzi and take in the show. Evidently she'd noticed me, and treated me to the best show of my life.
She began by soaping her breasts slowly, taking extra care to lift each one in her foamy hands, letting each slip from her grip and bounce back onto her chest. She then turned from me, and tantalizingly lathered her firm, round ass, separating her cheeks to let the hot water pour down over her tight, exposed anus and spill off of her bare muff to her legs. After treating me to a bit more finger play around her ass, she turned back toward me, and slowly began to rub her mound, utilizing her free hand to pleasure her breasts one at a time. As her heat began to build, her rubbing hastened, and she pressed her body against the glass as she moved her free hand from her tits around to her ass. I'll never forget the site of her, with her firm breasts pressed against the glass while she finger-fucked herself for me.
Since then, we've occasionally incorporated masturbation and mutual masturbation into our love-making and role playing. Watching my wife masturbate is still the quickest way that I know of to get me off.

Updated 12/02 [M] My method of masturbation ever since circumcision is to use lots of lubricant plus the last few years, I use a kind of rubber sleeve that was originally part of a artificial vagina. I cut most of it off and use only the sleeve part. It is lined with small nubs on the inside and just barely fits over my penis when I am hard. All the little nubs give a absolutely super feeling. I had to cut a hole in the end of it in order to make it work. Otherwise the vacuum wouldn't let it go up and down. It works fine now and feels actually better than a pussy. I also let a female friend masturbate me occasionally using plenty of lube.

[M 65] I have provided a number of insights into sex with my wife. Your piece on masturbation caught my fancy. I started masturbating when I was about 11. First time was with a guy who showed me how. He produced cum and I did not. Over the years I have enjoyed masturbation. Easy to do, feels good, harms no one, and is relaxing. At age 65 I masturbate at least once a week. Wife will masturbate me when she is not really interested or sometimes just for the fun of giving me pleasure.

[M] Yahoo offers several adult masturbation groups. You must have a Yahoo id to enter them. mostly, they contain stories and some have pics too. the group that i wrote stories to masturbate to is: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/masturbationstoriesandadvice/
another yahoo group that covers masturbation is http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Masturbationgettingcaught/

Updated 11/02 [M] How I get off masturbating with an circumsized penis is I jerk for a bit then use hand lotion and get it real hard then hold off for half a minute, I repeat this for three times or more then really go fast till I'm about to shoot and am now in state ectasy then I pinch shut the end of my penis for this really builds up a lot off pressure, Then let go and it blasts for about over two feet. I also eat about twelve large eggs and a liter of pineapple juice before all this because all this builds the sperm very rich and gives a bigger load.

[M] I have been masturbating since I was about 10 years old. Of course the only thing I knew was that it felt good. Over the years I have had many interesting things happen to me regarding masturbation and one in particular I have always remembered. This happened when I was about 16 and I was spending the summer with my aunt at her summer home. One night I was feeling very horny and needed to cum so I decided to do it but I knew I had to be quiet because she was home. I was in my room and she was doing laundry when she gave a quick knock and came in with a load of clean clothes to put away. When I knew that she had seem me as I was totally nude I thought that I would be in trouble. I was completely wrong . She sat down next to me and we had a wonderful talk about sex! and masturbation and she made me feel totally comfortable. She told me that it was allright to do it when I wanted and never feel guilty about it and after we talked she stood up and told me to finish relieving myself and that we could talk any time I wanted. I have her to thank for my open feelings about masturbating myself. Now I find it to be my greatest stress reliever and I do it at least daily or even more if I need to. I'm glad that my aunt caught me doing it and spoke about it because now I know how important it is for me now and that it can make you a better lover.

[M 44] I have been masturbating since I was13.My parents brought me up with the strictest of up-bring when I was 13 I found out that by touching my penis it gave me a wonderful sensation. Well my mom came in my room and caught me masturbating she told me that bad boys did naughty things like that and that I could go to Hell for doing that. Well that made me feel guilty as hell and for the next to two years after that i didn't touch myself at all.Then at the start of the third year I couldn't stand it any longer I thought I would explode I was so horny I just had to masturbate or I would just die.Till this day i never shot so much cum in all my life but I still carry the guilt ever since then even though i love to masturbate it still makes me feel guilty like I'm doing something wrong. Like even now as I write this letter I got excited from just typing about masturbation that I'm masturbating as I type. I hope you don't get offended by me saying that am i a sick person for not being able to control my sexual feelings, but I'm not married no kids. I don't even date anymore, just work sleep and my only sexual outlet is masturbation. Most of the time when i masturbate I don't even cum I just like to stroke/touch myself ever heard of such a thing like that? Well I better go now it is getting hard to type I think I'AM ready to cum now.

[M] I have a new girlfriend now and she loves to masturbate in front of me. She has a cute, short body with a little "baby fat" which is very sexy to me. Her breasts are medium size, and her nipples are small but poke out and get swollen during sex.
Her pubic hair is shaved off so I get a good look at her genitals as she stimulates herself. Her vagina is beautiful, with a thin slit, and her inner lips are thin and dont hang down but flare out a bit. When she rubs her vulva for me I can see her clitoris poke out from its hood, and the opening for her vagina gets all wet and her vaginal lips part a bit as she gets aroused. She also plays with her breasts while rubbing her clitoris. After she is really hot from masturbation I then give her oral sex, and I love the way her juices taste and how wet she is from playing with herself. The oral sex gets her so wet that when we then have intercourse I can barely feel friction on my penis during thrusting. I like to have her sit on the couch and I can see my stiff penis going back and forth, in and out of her opening. The shaved vagina helps the visual excitement. I think I will try the masturbation in front of her next and see what happens.

Updated 10/02 [M 40s]As a male, I suppose that I discovered the joys of masturbation when I was very young. Now in my late 40's it is something that I do regularly and still very much enjoy. It is something that my wife has encouraged for a few years as part of our regular sex life. Often we make love and yet I do not climax. She encourages me to masturbate and cum on her body, usually her breasts or belly. Often she plays with my balls or simply touches her breasts or pussy in a way that is very erotic as she knows that it helps to stimulate me even more. She does not enjoy masturbating me or giving me oral sex and I do not force those issues.
I also have a lover who is quite different to my wife. This relationship started about 18 months ago and is something that is very strong. My lover and I meet regularly and together we share our lives and our intimacies. Frequently we make love and I find that I climax always during intercourse with her. Many times we do not have intercourse. Rather we are intimate with each other. We both enjoy masturbating each other or masturbating for each other.
I enjoy cuddling my lover while I rub her clit and pussy until she has an orgasm. The sensation of cuddling her while I feel her pussy muscles relax and then she climaxes makes me feel very warm and close. She too enjoys rubbing my cock and has said that she often has a little orgasm as I come. We enjoy giving each other oral sex and she encourages me to suck her clit or taste her cum as she orgasms. Sometimes she sucks my cock until I cum and she enjoys swallowing my cum, but not often.
One things that we also enjoy is masturbating in front of each other. One day, we found that we enjoy telephone sex and have often told each other over the phone what we would do if we were together, while also masturbating ourselves. Since we found that this experience was enjoyable, we have found that we do it when we are together. Usually we sit facing each other, close enough to touch. I will tell my lover what I would do to her such as touch her clit, rub her pussy or tickle her nipples and she does that to herself. It turns me on and I enjoy watching her enjoy herself which often results in her climaxing. Watching someone have an orgasm is incredible.
She too tells me what she would do as I follow her instructions. She has told me that she enjoys watching my hand rub my cock and when I am close to orgasm, she will often get very close to my cock to watch the cum spurt out. She does not catch it, but just watches.

[F 25} I have discovered a great way to unwind from a hard day at work. MASTURABTION!
I'm a single girl in her 20s, and I live alone. I come home after a hard day at work and go right into the bedroom and undress. I then just lounge around in the nude and enjoy the feeling of being naked. Im 5' 1", small tits, shaved pussy, and I weigh 100 lbs. When I stand in front of my full length mirror and spread my legs out a bit I can see the thin slit of the top of my vagina, and my pussy lips hang down a little slightly parted. I really enjoy this just hanging out with myself and enjoying the naked feeling.
I then sit on the couch and pull out my little mirror and hold it up to my vulva and I love to look at it as it gets excited and juicy. I pull my clitoris hood back and look at my clit as it gets all excited and pokes out a bit. I reward it by bringing up my juices with my finger and rubbing it. I also play with my nipples alot while rubbing my clitoris. I have small tits, but my nipples get all puffed up and swollen and I love to gently pull them as I stimulate my clit. Sometimes I moan out load it feels so good, this makes me feel even more free with my solo sex. I also bought a G-spot toy that you insert into the vagina. I put this inside my vagina and turn the vibrator on and this stimulates my G as I rub my clit. I have wave after wave of orgasmic joy as I play with myself. I get more wet than when I have sex with my boyfriend. I hate to admit this but I got so excited one day I held my digital camera up to my crotch and took a picture of my wet pussy and put the pic on my computer. I bring the pic up and masturbate while looking at my own vagina all wet, clitoris sticking out, and the juice gleaming and running out of my parted opening.

Updated 8/02 [M] What makes masturbating feel good to you?
It's not just the particular techniques that I use to stimulate and satisfy myself, but the very act itself. In other words, masturbation is as unique a form of sexual pleasure as intercourse [vag or anal] or oral. Masturbation's appeal for me is that I am in total control of my arousal and orgasm. Sex with a partner is not a "superior" form of satisfaction. My wife and I try to enjoy a good amount of all types of sex, and this includes masturbation; shared and private. The fact that we alone can take ourselves to incredible plateaus of pleasure; that is the real appeal of masturbation. All the techniques and toys are just variations; forks in the road to nirvana. When one masturbates, there are no taboos, no rules, no pressures. You do it the way you like it best.
Do you think masturbation before marriage is beneficial?
Absolutely! Before and during! One should certainly be in touch with one's sexual buttons and triggers. Step 1 is finding out what you like. Step 2 is communicating that to your partner, without shame.
How can you convince your partner to masturbate while you watch?
Well...you can use the educational approach or the direct approach. A partner could communicate their desire to give as much physical pleasure as possible; a need to know how the other person's genitals operate. A masturbation display would be an important teaching experience. We've been a lusty married couple for over 30 years, so we just directly communicate our desire for a naughty show. We both love to watch the other person masturbate, and we encourage each other with nasty dialoge. Sharing such an essential and personal practice is a powerful experience. Private pleasures are always satisfying; the act of sharing those pleasures has its own special thrills.

Updated 6/02 with two letters about watching men masturbate [M 38] The woman who said she likes to watch men masturbate really struck a chord with me. I checked out the links you provided, not to see the guys do it, but to see and read about the women who like it. From there I discovered the phenomena known as CFNM (clothed female, nude male). I have tremendous fantasies about being totally nude and having a group of women run their hands all over my body. I especially like women who are older--my strongest fantasy is to have a group of attractive women in their late 40s early 50s running their hands over me and willingly watch me masturbate. The best part is that this fantasy often comes true to a certain extent. My wife is a little older than I am and she loves to watch me masturbate and run her hands all over me.

[M] Some years back when I was just 18 or 19 I still lived with my parents in the apartment they rented in a two family house. The landlord & his wife lived upstairs and I was always sneaking a peek at her Esther was a very attractive woman in her mid forties. In the summer months she always wore short little dresses Hardly a day went by when I didn't watch her go upstairs. She always gave a good show and one July day I decided I just had to have her. I knocked on her door and when she answered I sought of pushed her in. In one swift move I grabbed her and pushed my tounge down her throat. Esther was very receptive so I reached under her little dress and eased her panties away from her lovely underparts. --- I don't know why but I pulled my shorts down and began to stroke her little panties all over my stiffened cock. Esther's. eyes lit up as I had my way with her little panties. She was quite excited as she began to touch herself. Jerk it she said as I rubbed the silky crotch all over my swollen knob. She confessed that she wished her husband would jerk off for her like I was doing. I smiled and told her that if she were my girl I would be constantly beating off in her pretty face. She was very excited & the whole room took on the perfume of her sweet little pussy. She pulled her little dress up, propped her ass in the air and told me "hurry up and fuck me before my husband comes home" --- I spent the rest of the summer jerking off in Esther's face. We moved away in October but the valuable lesson I learned was that "they want to see you handle your cock"

On female masturbation - a web site Clitical.com - a site with lots of links too.

Updated 5/02 [F] I have been masterbating ever since I can remember. Self -pleasuring and fantasizing are wonderful aids for lovemaking. I love it when my partner watches me, asks for me to touch myself for him. Also, when I am alone the fantasies it evokes are so full of reckless abandon. I don't understand how some women would be so squeamish about something so natural that feels so glorious.

Updated 4/02 [M 51] So many things make masturbating feel good to me. The emotional side of masturbation means no performance anxiety, no premature ejaculation worries, no competition with anyone, no "am I doing this right" concerns, just utterly relaxed sex. To reach this state with a partner takes a lot of time and trust. I have reached this state with partner sex with only 4 women out of 30 partners. I reach this state every time I masturbate, whether it lasts 3 minutes or 3 hours. Yes, I have masturbated for as long as 3 hours, without losing my erection, without losing any of my arousal state, just pure pleasure. Partner sex for me has lasted 30 minutes, but usually 5 - 10 minutes. With masturbation, I make it last as long as I want it to last. For me, I suffered for almost 40 years with "shameful" masturbation. I was ashamed that I masturbated and ashamed that I liked it. Now, I have learned to masturbate without shame or guilt and oh my, how great it is. I taught myself to masturbate without pornography and without fantasy. After more than forty years of shame-based sex, I took the steps (therapy) required to eliminate my shame and it was the best thing I ever did to help myself. I used to seek out pretty women on the street, at the mall or anywhere I could and mentally photograph them so I could masturbate later. I don't do this anymore and I feel better and enjoy masturbation much more without the fantasy. Do I still masturbate using porn? Yes, those 3 hour sessions I wrote about work very well when I am viewing porn but only because I use porn infrequently. Do I still fantasize about a woman I have seen, yes, but not often.
I masturbate simply by stroking my penis with one hand and stimulating other parts of my penis or testicles with the other. I have learned that stimulating my nipples is, well quite stimulating. Without guilt or shame arousal comes very quickly, in the past it took intense stimulation to become aroused. I have tried the many masturbation techniques written about, but keeping it simple works for me (I can't recall every using a technique I didn't like). My favorite is to grab and squeeze or stroke the head of my penis during ejaculation or quickly thereafter, the intense pleasure is so painfully exciting that I twist and tremble and even scream out. I like this forum that Joan provides for us and I'll write more about my experiences when I have time - thanks for listening -

[M] I discovered that ejaculation can occur without touching the penis. I came home from work and was feeling a little aroused, so I undressed and sat nude at my computer while looking at erotic material (nude women, sex, ect.) I was rubbing my scrotum very slow and noticed how good and warm it felt to play with my testicles through the scrotum. I just rubbed real gently and my whole area around my testicles, penis, and anus became very sensitive. My penis became stiff and swolled up as I rubbed away and looked at sexy material. After an hour of this stimulation, I noticed that a pool of pre-cum had dripped onto the floor, and my penis was cleaming from the fluid that had run down the shaft of my hard penis. Suddenly I felt wonderful feeling of semen making its way out of my swollen penis. A small amount of fluid seeped out the tip of my penis, then a big series of powerful spurts sent the ejaculate out onto the floor. All this from slowly rubbing my balls without touching the penis or the penis head like I always did before. This masturbation was wonderful, and I will do it again. The scrotum area has alot of nerve endings for sure.

[M 48] i'm a swm, 48 and love to masturbate while being watched by women. it helps if the women are average to above average in looks. i don't expect them to join in but i do love it when they do. my problem is that it is hard to find a woman or a group of women that would love to see me masturbate and cum. i've posted messages throughout the net and have yet to find just one woman in my area that would love to see me cum. i'd even travel upwards of 125 miles just to be watched jacking off and shooting my cum. i find it highly intoxicating to be caught unknowingly by women. i've hired escorts to meet me in semi-public places just to watch me jackoff. with the invention of cell phones, it is getting to be almost impossible to jackoff in my car while driving down the road and not be reported. i do admit that i have several male friends that love to come over to my home and watch xxx videos with me and jackoff together and i usually end up sucking their cocks while i am jacking off which is another turn-on for me. on rare occasions when i've had one-night stands, i usually ask the woman the next morning if she'll sit on my face before she cleans up and let me eat her out while i jackoff. i also love to sniff a woman's panties while she is watching me jackoff.

Updated 3/02 [M 50] As I was living in the big joint family with many cousins and brothers and sisters, I never had enough time to masturbate, even in the bathroom. So, I had to go to the great outdoors to do it.
I used to take my cycle and go out to the countryside. I used to put the cycle on the stand and stand myself looking at the growing crops and masturbate, to my heart's content. There was always the fear of getting discovered but that only added to the excitement. Once, I was discovered by a young lady working in the fields. She tut-tutted me and before I could stop her, she took mine into her hand and pumped me off, to my great happiness and told me that young men like me should in future concentrate on my studies and not do these naughty things often. She gave me a kiss on the cheek and sent me off. As she wore a "burqa", totally concealing head veil worn by ladies in North India belonging to some castes, I do not till date know who the lady was. I had only a glimpse of her right ear, seen through the gap between the side panels of her head covering. I pulled at the ear gently, petted her on it and put the small finger of my right hand into her and moved her. She too squirmed under my touch enjoying herself. Whether she too reached climax I did not know as I was too embarrassed by the whole event.

[M] As to your question as to what makes jacking off feel so good. I lube my cock up real good and with my left hand slowly stroke and rub until I,m hard .I pour a little baby oil over my cock and make it slicker .. I watch alot of porno while wacking the weennie ..I even video myself at times .... To me there's nothing better than sitting back and enjoying myself. When I get ready to cumm I can shoot it into my own face... I like to keep my balls shaved and at times have used a butt plug to enhance the sensation .. I,ve got this jacking off down to an art..As to your 2nd question yes you should masturbate before marriage and during also .. I think I would like jacking off in front of someone else .. I was at my sister in-laws house and jacked off in front of her after she gave me head , lick my balls and reamed my asshole out I began running my cock between her 40DD titties I couldn't get off so I started stroking it and I came a gallon in her mouth .. Ahhhhhh! that felt good ... So yes I think everybody should masturbate as often as possible .Stroker 40yrs old ... All this talking about Jacking my cock off has gotten my dick hard and throbbing so it's time for another Jack Off session ... Be Good and keep on strokin'.

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