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Posted 2/05 [F lesbian] Being Fisted :
When I gave birth to my first child I tore a fair bit, it was in hospital in the UK, the doctor stitched me before giving time for the local to work, the whole thing was a horrid, awful experience. So when I became pregnant again, by this time I was living back in Holland, I was determined to have a home birth as these are much more common here, and for it to be as natural one as possible, something encouraged here. I asked my midwife how I could avoid tearing again and She explained these stretching exercises to do on my vaginal entrance. She explained how to do them, even demonstrated on herself how to do them to me and my girl friend. I sat transfixed. A mother of three herself the midwife had used the same process during her pregnancies and had never torn. I commented that she appeared to be pretty flexible there, and she responded that with practice every women was, and that she could get her whole hand inside while still being tight enough to make her husband happy, the trick being to do daily Kegel exercises I needed no further convincing and so each day I would diligently spread my legs twice a day, and either I or my partner would shove fingers into my vagina and gently stretch myself, followed by 10 minutes of pelvic floor exercises. By the start of the ninth month I actually felt I could almost have got my hand inside me if my belly had not by that time been such a huge obstacle. In fact the exercises turned me on a great deal and I felt in dire need of relief so the exercises frequently led to masturbation, or mutual masturbation with my lover. A favorite fantasy of mine at that time was of my partner’s hand slipping inside me as she masturbated me. Any way in the end I had a trouble free home birth with no tearing, in fact I actually found the feeling of little Pieter sliding down my birth Canal to be rather pleasureable, so much so that I am prepared to swear that I had an orgasm. I am convinced that many women do, but as it is amongst the pain it often goes misinterpreted! In all the birth at home was a wonderful beautiful experience. Later we did some research and found that an orgasm amongst the pain is not in fact an unknown experience.
After the birth once we had started to make love again I asked my partner to massage my pussy just like she used to during the pregnancy, and so a few weeks later while she had four fingers inside me I asked her to just keep on going and quite suddenly my vagina felt like it was being opened very, very wide, then just as I was about to say ‘ouch’ it suddenly filled with her hand and I was overcome with such a wonderful full and replete sensation that I orgasmed immediately, and very, very hard.
We experimented with hand movements while inside my vagina and the one that sends me into multi-orgasmic bliss is when she slowly open and closes her hand while turning her wrist back and forth. It just touches every part of my vaginal, the g-spot, tharea on the rear wall, and the one up at the cervix. The best position for me to be fisted in are on my belly with my pelvis supported and knees apart. An alternate is on my back with my legs raised right up high. In these positions the urge to just ‘ let go ‘ as I orgasm is overwhelming and now I do just that and as I do I now ejaculate every time. I do not ejaculate a vast amount but it is a wonderful sensation, like I am purging myself of the joy and pleasure of my ecstasy all over my lover, an ultimate form of expression you could say.
A note on removing the hand afterwards; you need to take as much, if not more care as the hand is withdrawn, time your time. Focus on a picture of your vagina opening like a flower in order to relax those muscles. The more you exercise and fist the easier it is to control isolated muscles.
Once her hand is out I reach for it and ring it to my face and rub it all over me drinking in the scent of my sex as I focus on just how intimately that hand has touched me, right to the heart of my womanhood in fact..
Being the Giver :
I have been with my partner some years now and to know that she loves and trusts me enough to allow me the privilege of sliding my hand deep into her feminine heart touches me deeply, and is a tremendous thrill. I actually have a small orgasm as my hand reaches that point where she is stretched at her widest and suddenly it is sucked into her body. My orgasm washes over me just by looking down and seeing my hand going into her wide open sex and realizing how much she trust & love she has in me. Then there are the physical sensations. Feeling my hand and fingers enveloped in the hot wet embrace of her vagina, the entrance to her vagina clamped tightly around my wrist, her juices oozing out, some dribbling along my arm, is amazing. When I start to move my fingers about inside her I almost orgasm again as I feel her insides. As I touch her cervix/womb it is divine because being a woman I know just how much this is the center of our femininity. With my hand inside her and my fingers moving she is quick to orgasm herself. Hers can be truly HUGE gut wrenching ones, I actually have to work hard to keep myself in place. With each wave of orgasm she has I feel her entrance clamping down like a vice around my wrist. When I look at her vulva, perineum and anus I can see the whole area having spasms. She does not ejaculate as frequently as I do but when she does it is a gushing flood, and I always try to be position so as to get splashed as much as I can. Being a nurse I am used to judging fluid volumes and I would say that at time she has squirted 150 mls (a cup full) over me. It might sound yucky to some but I love her anointing me in this way ( I could never get into ‘golden showers’, that is just disgusting). When she is about exhausted I start to ease my hand out and I again get a tremendous thrill seeing her vulva and thick labia stretching outwards, all wet and swollen with arousal. See her beautiful vulva opening wide to allow my slick and slippery hand out can make my own vagina cream again. She naturally produces a lot of milky vaginal lubricant depending where she is in her monthly cycle and as my hand exits her vagina she spills this stream of hot lubrication out of her. It is all just such a tremendous thrill to experience such complete intimacy with her like that.
Summary
Fisting can be a truly intensely intimate and beautiful sexual act to do with someone you love and respect. For me it is my demonstration to my lover of my complete and unquestioning trust in her, and I am sure for it is an affirmation of her love me. Take plenty of time to work up to it, months if necessary. Use lots of massage and relaxation, lots of vulval and vaginal massage with hours of intimate and gentle fingering. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Most of all use lots and lots and lots of lube, experimenting with different combination to find the best ones for you. If nothing else you will learn much more about each other and your bodies than you did before.
Posted 5/03 [M 32] When I was in college I had an affair with a woman who had been a professor of mine. I was very young, and in some ways she 'made a man' out of me. With her, I got over my fear of menstrual blood. She also introduced me to anal sex one afternoon. We were fooling around on the couch at my apartment and got to the point where we were naked and ready for penetration. However, we had no birth control on hand. She was a Mormon woman, married, and had five children who I'd never met but I loved to listen to her tell stories about her kids. Her pussy was somewhat large from giving birth five times. Anyway, on the couch that afternoon, she was on her back. For some reason I started rubbing her anus with my cock head, smearing it with my precum. If I touched her cunt with my cock, she shook her head 'no' but whenever I touched her anus with my cock, she nodded 'yes.' Using no lube except for my precum and the juices that had run down from her cunt, I pushed the head of my dick into her ass. It was the most amazing sexual experience I'd ever had, mainly because it was so forbidden. But also, her ass was much tighter than her cunt. It squeezed the head of my dick with exquisite pressure. "Be Careful," she said. I grunted. After a little while I slowly pushed my cock all the way in. I fucked her like that, with her knees up on her breasts and my cock up her ass, for several minutes.
However, not wanting to hurt her, I kept it real slow and gentle. I didn't allow myself to speed up enough, or thrust with enough vigor, to come in her ass. But my entire body was pulsing with an electric warmth the whole time my cock was in her ass. After a while I pulled out and laid my head on her chest. She ran her fingers through my hair, sort of mothering me. I didn't tell her, but I was somewhat ashamed of what we'd done. She never let me fuck her ass again. Eventually I moved away and had several girl friends who enjoyed anal. I had one girl friend who was absolutely obsessed with it. I was the one who took her anal cherry, and eventually we enjoyed anal sex almost every time we had sex. She enjoyed it so much that it became the focus of our sex life. It was the only way she could come. And in retrospect I realize that the amazing thing about it was that we never used artificial lube. Her pussy would be so wet that her ass would become lubricated by her cunt-juice. But things didn't work out between us.
Fast forward a few years and I was still in touch with my old lover/professor. I was caretaking a ranch up in the mountains next to D.H. Lawrence's grave. The professor, meanwhile, had divorced her husband and was living with another man. But she came to visit me and stayed for almost a week. She was a poet, and had written many poems for me. On her visit, she showed me some of her new poems. Several of them were for her new boyfriend. Apparently, according to the poems, he had a huge cock. Anyway, I told her that she was the first woman I ever fucked in the ass. She couldn't believe it. I also told her that ever since then, I'd been extremely turned on by the idea of anal sex. I told her about the girlfriend I'd had, who loved it so much, and I told her that anal had become my favorite way of having sex. She was suprised when I told her the woman came every single time I fucked her ass. She said she enjoyed anal a lot, but never came from it. She also told me that she let her boyfriend tie her up and fuck her ass. It was something new for both of them, she said, so it was theirs to share. She also asked me if I would like to fuck her ass. I nodded. We went to the bedroom and started making out. She was a submissive, and liked to be ordered around and dominated in bed. I told her to suck me. She did. Then I fucked her ass, again with no lube! But this time was different in several ways. For one thing, her ass wasn't nearly as tight as it had been when we did it before. My cock went right in with no difficulty and no lube. Apparently her boyfriend did indeed have a very large cock. Mine is only average. After a while, I was fucking her ass as hard as I ever fucked anything and she was yelling "do it! do it!" I came inside her ass and my heart was racing like it had never done. I reached down and felt her pussy and discovered that it was literally dripping, it was so wet. Knowing she hadn't come yet, I went down on her and started fingering her. I couldn't believe how wet she was. Soon I had four fingers in her while I sucked her clit. She kept getting wetter. It was almost like a faucet. I folded my hand and inserted my thumb along with the other four fingers. She was crying out "YES!!" I slid my hand in past the knuckles and she kept encouraging me. I had never fisted anyone before, and didn't know what I was doing, but it seemed to come naturally. Before I knew it, my whole hand was in her, balled into a fist. "You're fucking me with your fist!" she screamed. Though I wasn't actually moving it in and out. Her cuntlips were squeezing around my wrist and I made a squeezing motion with my fist, making it pulse. She had I don't know how many orgasms. But it was extremely intense for both of us. It was a first for us both, too. I couldn't believe that my whole hand had disapeared inside her. I was in awe. After a while, when it seemed she had come at least a dozen times, I slowly pulled my hand out. I didn't pull it out as a fist, but pulled it out similarly to how I had pushed it in, with my fingers and thumb all folded into sort of a narrow tent shape. Then she wanted me to fuck her pussy with my cock, even though it had just recently been in her ass. I didn't really want to polute her pussy with her ass-germs. I asked her if she really wanted me to fuck her again, and she insisted. With my cock inside her again, I said, "It must feel like a finger inside you." She laughed. Later, she told me that she had loved being fisted because it felt like giving birth.
Posted 11/1/00 [M 38] Fisting has always intrigued me. I have attempted it with
several of my lovers, but as I have large hands, it has not worked. I have
managed to penetrate with all four fingers and even had part of my thumb as
well, but could not achieve a full penetration. I had given up and assumed
that it was a physical impossibility. But my previous lover bought a book
called 'a hand in the bush' by Deborah Addington. She indicated that it
shouldn't impossible for almost anyone to accomplish. So we tried and after
two or three tries actually achieved full penetration all the way up to my
wrist.
It was the most intense sensation I have EVER experienced. It was the most
intimate, most trusting, most loving intense feeling in the world, and the
reports from my lover was that it was the same for her as well. We only
managed to fully do it once and I have tried with my current lover, wants
to do it, but she has a much smaller frame and will take a lot longer. It
requires a lot of time and patience and practice. It also helps to have some
alcohol, and maybe a little stoned - but not too much.
I am looking forward with great anticipation to being able to fist my
current lover, but we are both very busy and it really required a relaxed
environment that is hard to manage. We'll have to save it for another time.
Posted 7/1/00 [M] I was attracted to your fisting story and question response. My wife enjoys it and we accomplished it on the first try with plenty of lubrication. My wife wanted it and asked me to try. She usually is very conservative. We later bought an early American four poster which has three and a half knobs that are removable. They are made exactly like the head of a well formed cock. I took one off one night and showed it to her and made the suggestion we try to put it into her pussy. She agreed immediately. It had a small molding along the post which I used it to keep control of it. With lubrication she took it easily and I ended up fucking her to a great mind exploding orgasm for her.
Posted 5/30/00 [F 18] I thought I'd respond to the question on fisting; my girlfriend and I
started similarly to [M-54] - with just one, then two of my fingers inside
her vagina. We're taking it slowly, and I haven't yet got my hand all the
way in; but we've got very close, with my whole hand in a pointed,
fingers-together shape, and the knuckles almost inside, stretching her very
wide open. My girlfriend's comment after we tried it the first time was that
at that point it hurt (mental note: even *more* lube next time!) but that
she could tell that if we'd managed it fully she was about to have the
greatest orgasm ever.
A couple of points - hands need to be *dripping* with lube, literally
slathered in it, otherwise the friction will be really unpleasant for both
of you. I haven't tried using latex gloves (skintight ones) but I'd say even
with those lube is definitely needed, all the way down the wrist, in between
the fingers, and covering her pussy as well.
Secondly, I think lots of foreplay is essential for this activity - she
needs to be relaxed and loosened up. Another interesting point I discovered
was this - while I had most of my hand in her, I was playing with her clit
using my other hand. while I did this, I felt her tighten on my hand in her
vagina, so I said to her 'I'm going to stop doing this for now, I think it's
making you tense up.' She asked me not to stop - whatever it felt like to
me, it made *her* feel more relaxed. This alerted me to the fact that
there's a big psychological element to fisting, and you need to keep
checking that what you're doing feels ok to your partner, they're not
worried or anxious, or in serious pain, obviously :)
The other significant factor in our enjoyment of this activity is that I'm a
woman fisting a woman - hence I have smaller hands :) This is a definite
plus-point *grin*
Anyway, enough for now - perhaps I'll write again when we've had another go
at this :)
Posted 4/7/00 (M-54) Regarding your question about a man using his fist to
stimulate his wife's vagina:
We began when I had been using my finger inside her vagina, and
added a second. As she seemed to be enjoying the sensation I added
a third finger. She always became very wet during lovemaking and we
never needed lubrication. After several minutes more she asked how
many fingers I was using, and when I told her "three" she asked if I
thought another would fit. Soon I had my hand up to my knuckles
stroking her, my other hand on one of her breasts, and my tongue
lapping on her clit. This combined action had her writhing under me
until, somewhat breathlessly, she asked if my hand would fit inside.
Eager to add even further to her pleasure, I tucked my thumb
inside my fist and pressed but not too hard since I didn't want to
hurt or injure her. She insisted that the pressure felt good and I
should do it harder, which I did, slowly gaining entrance as I pressed
and retreated, each time covering more of my hand with her copious
lubrication, until my whole hand slipped inside.
Of all the women I had ever been with, she had the tightest,
snuggest pussy of them all. Curiously, she had once told me that
during her first marriage she had overheard her husband claim to his
friends that he needed to strap a two by four across his ass to keep
from falling in. But I found it amazing that she had taken my entire
hand and, far from feeling pain or discomfort, was thoroughly enjoying
herself. I remember the sensation of pressing the ring of my thumb and
fore finger against her cervix, and of trying to insert a finger into
it (it was too tight and was without any sensation to her so I
didn't persist). The inside of her vagina had opened up for me but
the area just inside her lips gripped my wrist so tightly I wondered
if my hand would turn blue. But no danger there. She panted and
moaned and bounced on the bed while I licked her clit and pinched her
breast, and she seized her other breast and let out a howl that could
have woken the dead. Her orgasm must have lasted at least a minute.
When she was finished and completely drained I eased my hand from her,
and held it up so she could see me licking her juices from it.
We repeated that occasionally and her response was always just as
intense. From there we also began to experiment with toys, a large
vibrating dildo and a very large strap-on that I wore, but they were
only for foreplay. Her only way of climaxing was by stimulation of her
clitoris, either manually or orally.
