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Updated 4/09 [M] This past week as I was driving home I passed an adult fantasy shop and made a quick decision to stop in and look for a new toy for my wife and me. I ended up buying a realistic cock looking, battery operated, flesh like vibrator. That evening knowing my wife would head up to the bedroom before me I placed the vibrator on top of her night gown in her dresser drawer, figuring she would find the new vibrator when getting ready for bed and if luck were with me she would want to us to use it that night. I gave her fifteen minutes of so before I it to wandered upstairs to bed. Walking down the hallway I could hear the vibrator buzzing before I hit the bedroom doorway. I walked in and there she was lying on her back on our bed, legs spread, rubbing the vibrator over her clitoris. Her eyes were shut and she was moaning softly. I sat down on the edge of the bed and simply watched. Within a minute she was pushing the vibrator inside her pussy and began fucking it. She moved it in and out with ease as she was quite wet. I started to masturbate as I watched her. Kneeling between her legs I positioned myself so that I could rub my cock’s head against her clitoris, as she continued to fuck the vibrator. Within what could not have been more then 30 seconds I climaxed all over her pussy. As soon as I finished my orgasm I lay down between her legs and began sucking on her clitoris. The more I sucked on her, the harder and faster she fucked the vibrator and within minutes she started screaming that she was “coming”. Her orgasm was incredible. Although our entire sexual adventure did not last more then maybe 20 minutes, we were both very glad I bought the vibrator and very glad that I left it on top of her nightgown for her to find. I would say this time, we both made the first move.
Updated 1/09 [M] I've always made the first move, however after that first move sometimes she gets aggressive. That is, she will sometimes be an especially active participant, and pretty much direct the action. She knows I like her to do that and I feel that sometimes she does it just for my benefit, but for whatever reason she really 'takes over'.
Updated 12/08 [M 60s] Over the years, it has usually been me although once we're already in bed, my wife has often been the one. I've always been an easily aroused person and have often gotten aroused and put in the mood at such things as seeing my wife's exposed legs while setting on the sofa watching TV. She's often in a house dress or nighty and having the hem line rise up while setting and then just the sight of her beautiful legs is all it takes. I get that longing to get my hands, face and lips on them real bad. I'll move over next to her and started kissing on her and then eventually getting my hand up her dress. I'll soon feel her hand rubbing on my hard penis and off to the bed room we'll go. Other times over the years, I'd be waiting for her to wake up and she'd end up in the kitchen before I knew it. I'd come up behind her as she stands at the counter looking out the window and put my arms around her with my face next to hers. I'd then let my crouch area come in contact with her butt and with this mother nature will take over. My penis will start to swell and harden and in this position, she can feel it as it happens. Soon, I'll have a full blown hard on pressing against her. With this, we head off to the bed room. She has never been a big morning person and more often than not, I'll be the only one enjoying an orgasm. Reason being she'd end up getting me off with the feel of her body and her hand and I'll end up covering one of her thighs with a load of semen.
Updated 8/08 [M 67] You ask about who makes the first move either in the bedroom or out of it. We have been married 45 years and during most of that time it was always me to start the ball rolling but that changed somewhat about eight years ago. I developed an arthritic hip and it slowed me down quite quickly to the point that within a year intercourse became tiresome and painful. With some trepidation I suggested that she might like to become a little more active and so for the first time ever she climbed on top and did all the movement. This worked well and she seemed to like the control that it gave her on speed and depth of penetration. Don't ask me why we hadn't tried it before but she is a very prim and proper person and I never thought she would take to the idea of being the more active partner. Things you miss out on.
The time came for my hip replacement but before that we decided that our bathroom should be remodeled to include a double shower so that I would have room for a shower stool after the operation. It was due for an upgrade so it was no big deal. Post-op she decided that she would help me shower but the first time didn't work too well and she finally had to disrobe and be in there with me. It was then that she discovered for the first time what it was like to handle a man's private parts and swiftly have him ejaculate in your hand. Lots of firsts during this period. My recovery was swift indeed but our sex life was now changed forever because she found a whole raft of things she liked that hitherto she would never have even contemplated. Now she absolutely delights in showering with me and all the while touching and being touched. Oral is another thing and she loves to give and receive.
All in all a complete about face in our roles and I can tell you that I'm not complaining even though it took a hip replacement to bring on the changes.
