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Female Ejaculation
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Updated 12/5/99 [M] My girlfriend and I are very appreciative of the
knowledge and information we've gained from it. My girlfriend is able
to achieve these fantastic orgasms over and over to the point where the
bed is just completley soaked. Hard, fast, and deep penetration seem to
be the best means of achieving these wonderful wet sensations, but my
favorite is when she is on top and pulls off just before she has one and
puts her pussy right over my mouth where i finish bringing her to climax
with my tounge and she sprays her juices into my mouth. I also love it
when she pulls off and sprays all over my chest.
Updated 11/1/99 [F 27] I am so glad to see these discussions on sexuality. I have been trying to find out for weeks whether or not I am "normal"!!! Recently I experienced ejaculation for the first time during intercourse. I squirted about 5 times and although it felt incredible, it was not similar to my usual orgasm, and when I did orgasm I did not squirt. Everything I could find on female ejaculation indicated the ejaculation only happens on orgasm. It is so nice to discover that this is not the case with some women!!! I started to wonder if I was just urinating...now I know I am not. Another lovely discovery is that now when I masturbate, if my bladder is almost full, it puts pressure on SOMETHING (hehe, I am no biologist!) that makes me feel very aroused, and I have found that if I gently rub my vaginal opening and clitoris I can squirt time and time again!!!! Visual erotica helps to get the flow going too. No penetration is needed at all! Although I believe it is stimulation of my Gspot that has made it happen previously (two different male lovers have enabled this to occur by penetrating me in a certain position...ie: missionary style with my knees near my ears) So it was a delightful surprise to discover after many years of sexual exploration alone and with partners that I can achieve this wonderful sensation, and by myself without much effort at all!!!! I know it not to be urine as urine does not act as a lubricant for me at all, this fluid is of a different consistency and makes masturbation very easy as it is so slippery. It also has no smell. Feel free to post my letter as I want other women and men to know the exquisite joys of this phenomenon and I hope that perhaps what I write might help someone to discover it for themselves, I recommend having a full bladder and relaxing your vagina completely while rubbing your genitals, make sure they are very lubricated already, also, sitting upright with my back against a solid surface seems to be the best position for me. Hope it helps!!!!!!
Updated 10/1/99 [M 32] I am a 32 year old man and am trying to help my wife achieve an ejaculation. Last night we were close to achieving the goal. I was stimulating her "G" spot, the spongy dime size spot on the upper side of her pussy, just inside the opening, while I was liking her clit. At the time I thought she was going to cum or ejaculate I could feel the walls of her vagina tighten. I thought I was going to make her ejaculate, but was unsuccessful. She did of course have the best orgasm of her life which she was very pleased with. We talked about the female ejaculation briefly before we made love and I told her that it was not urine and that it was in fact a cleansing fluid produced, some say, to flush out the urethra.
[M 50] My wife gets me so turned on when she ejaculates. Absolute buckets. Hell on the towels. On the few occasions we have swapped she found it embarrassing but realized that it really turned people on!
Updated 9/3/99 [?] A visitor suggests these links:
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[F 41] i have been searching for info on female ejaculation for quite sometime now
and i'm so glad i found this site.
Added 8/7/99 [M 18] I've read a study on this wonderful
phenomenon that the ejaculate actually comes from the urethral opening, the
experiment had a bunch of women have a "squirting" orgasm with catheters in
their urethra so that means if the liquid flows directly out of the catheter
then it would most likely come from somewhere in the bladder or the urethra
itself. when the women reached climax the clear fluid did flow from the
catheter , the liquid had traces of urine in it like 25% the normal amount of
urea and creatine (the 2 chemicals that make up urine), but the fluid was
deffinately not urine, ive heard that the fluid has the same makeup as semen
minus the sperm....but whatever it really is enjoy it!!! my girlfriend has
gotten really wet but has yet to "squirt" but shes open about it and really
interested and hopefully we'll both get to experience this absolute wonder.
I got a letter from a visitor who runs an egroup mailing list about female ejaculation. In case you're interested, here's how to join.
[F 48] I was always embarrassed about this in my younger days, my ex-husband always
thought I was peeing on him and said it was disgusting(notice he is my
EX-husband). So for many years I was celibate because of this uncontrollable
reaction to intercourse. Thankfully, I met a man that is truly the most
wonderful man on the planet; he delights in my "sweet nectar" and loves to
keep me flowing. The big question is how many towels will we need. On
several occassions he has managed to make me cum so heavily that we
completely soak 4 thick bath sheets that we fold so there is 4 thicknesses
of toweling. I'm convinced that if everyone would allow themselves this
pleasure that stress levels, anxiety attacks and the drugs folks take for
such conditions would be reduced by half. And you'd be greeted on the street
by smiling faces too. I say women enjoy your body and find yourself a
partner that can enjoy your nectar. I cum from varied types of stimulation -
hands, oral, light clitoral spanking, and have also discovered that pinching
or having my nipples nibbled on is a direct route to this phenomenon as
well. I'm a smiling 48 year old woman that wishes this enjoyment for
everyone.
[M] I have been with my girlfriend for a while now and I have always
wondered about female ejaculation. There was one time that we were
making love and all of a sudden I withdrew and liquid squirted from her
vagina. At first I thought that she had her period because it had a
reddish color to it. We were expecting it to ruin the sheets as we
rushed to the bathroom to clean it out, but to our surprise it was not
even close to blood and it was very easy to just rinse it out. She
definitely did not have her period, but we had no idea what just
happened. One thing that lingered in my mind though, was that at the
moment before it happened, I felt that she almost forcefully pushed my
penis out of her and then a stream of liquid came out.
I have been doing some research on the matter, and I feel that I know
more now then I did before, but it seems that everytime that I am
exploring her G-spot she feels that she has to urinate. At that point
either she stops and goes to the bathroom or it just does not happen. I
know that I have been real close many of times but I cant ever seem to
get passed that point.
Added 6/1/99 [M] I had heard of this amazing phenomenon years ago and had seen a couple videos, but never experienced it until my recent girlfriend "squirted" when I was massaging her G-spot. It was such a small amount that we weren't sure it happened, but since then she has learned to come over and over and over like that and to spray copious amounts of fluid.
Added 5/1/99 [M 44] I'm a 44 year old man and from the early sixties I followed the sexual revolutin by reading, experimenting and talking to friends. I thought I knew it all!
(F 36] Just recently I started masturbating to orgasm. The first time I ejaculated I thought that I had wet the bed, like so many other women. A few days later when I masturbated to orgasm I ejaculated like the first time, but I continued to masturbate. Soon I ejaculated again and the cum actually arched as it came out of my box, getting everything drenched. What a rush!
[F] I was pleasantly surprised to find out that there are so many woman that have this "talent". I experienced it myself for the first time when I was 25 and I thought I was a freak of nature. My husband says I can get some real distance when I cum. The movies I've seen with porn stars that can do it usually show them masturbating to achieve it. I can't make myself ejaculate through masturbation. It usually happens during oral sex or intercourse. He says he knows exactly which spot to stimulate to make me cum that way. I don't do it everytime I have sex, but often. I was wondering if you've ever done a survey to see how many women can do this, or how many men have been with women that can. It would be interesting to see the results.
[M 35] I am 35, and it's been about 11 years since I have experienced a woman
who ejaculated. Actually, I only experienced one woman who did, and
that 3+ year relationship ended 11 years ago. I absolutely loved it
when she came like that, which was just about every time she came. I
really wish my wife would ejaculate, but she never has. I think she
might have come close, but the ejaculant is so discernable that I know
she hasn't.
Added 2/1/99 [M]Joan, nothing gives me a GREATER THRILL than having my lover CUM all over my face or body! I have been blessed to have two ladies in my life who ejaculated and it is an awe-inspiring thing! They are VERY happy about it as well when we used to get together-I miss them sooooo much! If there is something that I can share with you Joan, the last 10 years have been GREAT when it CUMS to great information on how to have better sex!
[F]A few years ago I had a partner comment that during oral sex I had wet his face. He thought this was strange, but enjoyed it very much. He had stimulated me so much that I had lost all control of my body. I actually left the bed wet. It was great.
[M 38]
where it comes from are the Bartholin's glands (located ont he back side of the vagina toward the anus) and there isn't any urine mixed with it. that is where all the lubrication for the vagina comes from so lady sit back and enjoy the ride. And guys shut up and swallow.
Added 1/3/99 [M] Joan, i have been with my girlfriend for over 8 months, and for the last 5 months, she has been cumming like Niagara Falls. I always knew that woman could ejaculate, but I was young and impatient and we never found the G-Spot. My present g/f and I are both in our mid 20's mature and sexually active. My girl loves to shoot when i going down on her and fingering her at the same time. I could tell when she gonna explode, because her whole vagina internally swells up( i can feel it on my fingers) and externally it vissible, and then WHAM! she gushes this sweet hot liquid all over the place, most of the time im down there and just lick, taste and swallow, but recently, she been ejaculating while we have been having anal sex, that is the ultimate, to make love, and have her shoot all over us both, and then it my turn to shoot on her!
Added 12/1/98 [F]
I'm in graduate school and have
done some research on this "phenomena" since it started happening to me
around 7 years ago. I discovered it thru self-stimulation, as
intercourse doesn't usually offer the right position...as others
mentioned. Kinsey was wrong about this topic...obviously...a book called
"The G-Spot" by Beverly WHipple, has a chapter on female ejaculation.
It's in paperback...not a new book...I remembered the G-spot discussion
but this chapter seemed not to get much attention the time. Ms. Whipple
is a nurse/teacher in a graduate school and is also currently the
president of SECUS...society of sex educator and therapists...I don't
think I have their acronym right...but can find out if you are
interested. Ms. Whipple has the most extensive accurate research on this
topic...there are worldwide conferences on this...one last summer in
Spain...she has sent me an extensive biblio.
Added 11/1/98 [F]
I certainly hope it is a real thing,
or else I and my lovers have/had incredibly good imaginations! There is a
very good description of the physiology behind it in (I believe) _Good
Vibrations Guide to Sex_ in their physiology section on women. I apologize
if I am wrong, but I believe it is there. Also, logically, (this coming
from a biologist) it makes sense, since men and women are mirrored in many
ways physically "down there". All infants start out female, and then
become male...the outer vaginal lips swell and the tissue converts, and
they become testicles, the clitoris elongates and becomes a penis, so it
would make sense that a woman could have an ejaculatory gland....I hope I
haven't bored you.
Added 10/3/98
[M] It may not pervasive, but it happens. My former lover came quite
copiously each time she reached orgasms, whether strong or mild.
Each and every time.
[F]Female ejaculation is very real. I've experienced it many times but
only when I'm really aroused. It usually happens right at the end of an
orgasm and when having oral sex my partner loves this part the best. He
calls it his "nourishment". I don't usually have to worry about the
amount of fluid that comes from me because he laps it all up...(kinda
like a dog...which really turns me on).
[F 24] I honestly thought all women came as men did. Ever since I began having sex I have
ejaculated. When I get really aroused, then the juices just flow from me. That doesn't mean that I achieve orgasm.
But it really helps in keeping things lubricated and my husband loves it when everything is so wet.
[F]I do not experience female ejaculation but when I have sex that is incredibly better than other times, I will get
soaking wet, so wet I will get a towel and wipe some away prior to penetration. It does not come out forcefully and I can't feel it as it
gets wetter. My mate states it feels like fluids are dripping down as it occurs not a gush. I also know the fluid is clear and satiny
feeling, no tinge of yellow and watery (that might indicate is mixed with urine). My mate states that it tastes the same as other times
when I am not as wet. It does not have to occur with physical stimulation of my genitals. It can occur when I am in a highly mental
erotic state and no physical stimulation whatsoever to my genitals has to occur.
[F]
I saw that you were looking for info and experiences with female ejaculation
and I had to write. I first experienced it when I was in college and it was
a very embarrassing time...I thought that I had wet the bed at first...it
was so copious. My lover was, thankfully, very understanding and had heard
of the phenomenon. Now, with my current lover, I experience it quite often,
always in one of two ways:
[M]Joan, several women that I have dated and had the pleasure of making
love with do have ejacualtions. The first time was with Sue, she loved
to have her clitoris licked and then sucked on while I rubbed the inside
of her hot pussy behind the pubic bone. There is a small spongy area
there that swells up the more you rub it. Just before she started to
climax, she would get on top and bury my cock inside of her as deep as
she could. She would rock and thrust to get my cock to rub on that area.
When she climaxed a hot clear liquid would pour out of her, sometimes as
much as a half a cup. This really would get me hot and usually I would
climax within about a minute after her. It may sound a bit kinky, but I
also loved sucking on her clit and licking insider her vagina until she
would come in MY mouth! There is no discernible taste to this liquid,
but you can tell for sure that there was no faking this orgasm.
Added 9/5/98 [F]Well, there's Fallon who does ejaculate (and I believe a few other porn
stars) and there's the rest of us who do but just not much and it doesn't
come shooting out.
[F] I wanted to let you know that I do experience female ejaculation. I noticed it in my early teenage years and I didn't want to ask anyone because it seemed to be
embarrassing at the time. I have not heard to much about this and I wanted to know how common is it in women like myself. It can be
very inconvenient at times because when I experience orgasms it feels like it comes forcefully out of my body.
I just experienced a new sexual phenomenon over the past 2 weeks.....female ejaculation......i think it happened to me
once about 4 months ago but we couldn't be sure because my lover and I came at the same time and I didn't ejaculate a whole
lot........ but since then, I have gotten into teaching myself the joys of masturbation, really allowing myself to enjoy being made love to
and my lover and I have been really having a great time......
I've read up on the subject and there's great disagreement on whether it really happens. Many experts think it's just extra lubrication fluid mixed with small amounts of urine.
The incredible thing about it is the ease with which I become aroused now. I guess knowing the end result makes me so anxious to get there. What is frightening though is the control now. I just can't seem to stop myself. I can go for hours, in varying degrees of trickles, sprinkles, spurts, squirts, jets, falls, projections, and it seems limitless. Once started, very little, and sometimes no stimulation at all, is necessary. Long after my husband is spent, lying together, I will say "don't move", give a little flex of my muscles, and splash ... all over again, and again, and again.
I received an article today that states that the "G" spot needs to be stimulated prior to stimulating the clitoris and that the women needs to have simultaneous orgasms for her to ejaculate. Is this true?
I do't really know - any comments from those of you who ejaculate? JEL
We are both 50, love it when she squirts into my mouth. A real turn on for both of us.
Dr John Perry who authored the original G-spot book has an e-mail list at
onelist.com you can subscribe to called "theGspot@onelist.com"
And try House 'o chicks.
This is a feminist site that sells an excellent video "How to Find Your
Goddess Spot" which has a great female ejaculation demonstration.
And on Masturbation:
Try BettyDodson.com,
another sex-positive feminist site. Betty has a wonderful site about
self-loving. You should get her videos.
i am 41 years old and wish that this had happened to me years ago
i discovered it by accident when my boyfriend was finger-fucking me; just a
tiny squirt the 1st time
now i can squirt 3 or 4 times in a given time, it's great.
unfortunately i haven't been able to do it by myself i don't have the reach,
i'll have to get a vibe designed for the g - spot.....
Being intrigued and a curious guy anyway, I did some research.Contrary to what one of your correspondents said, it is NOT from the Bartholin's glands and has nothing to do with vaginal lubrication. It is the product of the paraurethral glands that surround the internal portion of the clitoris and are adjacent to the so-called G-spot. With stimulation, the glands fill with fluid - very little or none for some women, incredible amounts for others. At the point of orgasm, as the "PC" muscle contracts and shuts off the possibility of the ejaculate being urine, some women expel the fluid in a spray or a stream, sometimes traveling remarkable distances.
The clinical analysis aside, it is the most amazing experience for me when my lover comes that way, and I can only begin to imagine how it must feel to her.
By the way, the absolute best source for up-to-date information is the Good Vibes Guide to Sex or the "How to Female Ejaculate" video.
I can not believe that it was only a couple of years ago that I first started to wonder about female ejaculation. I was laying on my back having my girlfriend sitting on my penis. Suddenly I felt a furst of fluid coming out of her, all over me. My thought was: "Oh great. This must be her period. Now the sheets are ruined."
As I looked down there was nothing there! No smell, no stains. The same thing happened whenever we had sex in that popsition, and I really loved to be squirted by her! (After we stopped seeing each other I fantasized what I would be to have her come over my face.)
A few years earlier: A few other experiences is with another woman, and with the missionary position. Being inside I could feel (no condom) her wetness suddenly increase. I learned over time that it was when she orgasmed. The increased wetness made it difficult for me not to come.
In my previous relationship, I really grew a fondness for
oral sex because of the large amount of liquid. As people have said, it
proves it's not fake, and the liquid has a mild taste. I remember it as
being warm and slightly salty. The amounts were drinkable, but I also
remember it removed some of the lubrication. I remember that the
wetness still provided lubricatication for penetration following oral
sex or if I was in her at the time, but sustained movement while inside
her caused irritation.
One thing that is different about my wife is
that she is a barely-recovered anorexic. Early in our relationship she
was often dry and uncomfortable during sex. I now attribute that to
complications due to low body fat ratio. The dryness has gone away,
although she could still use to gain some weight to look healthier. My quest to re-experience female
ejaculation with my wife is what led me to your info page on the
subject.
One additional thing about the sex I had with my past girlfriend that
might be related to the ejaculation is that not only would the liquid
feel like it would shoot out, but it also felt like her insides were
being pushed out for the short instance as well. It was like she was
turning inside-out. We both enjoyed the use of fruit as sex toys. I
would push peach slices or whole cherries or bananas into her vagina
with my mouth, and usually more than one (cherry or peach slice) at a
time, and when she came she would ejaculate and "shoot" the fruit back
into my mouth, though she had effectively "swallowed" it before she
came.
I am well aware of finding the Grafenberg spot on my wife and previous
women, and all of the literature confirms it, but stimulating it hasn't
manifested itself in female ejaculation for my wife.
If there is anything that I could say from the heart to your dear readers out there-please read good books on sex! Take the time-it will pay off in LARGE dividends! There is nothing more thrilling than feeling your lover trembling involuntarily, shaking, crying, screaming, juicing, and literally raining love-juice over your body or face! (depending on your body position in relation to hers.) Also-get intimate in the use of marital aids, men! Lern how to use them on your partners! Become more active in foreplay and also BOND with your WOMAN. If my lady knows that I can cry in front of her, share my secrets, take time to genuinely listen to her issues, concerns, and feeling-she will open up like the FLOWER she is and CUM all OVER YOUR BODY happily and without control over her actions! She will also thank you in more ways than you could appreciate me saying here!
FYI - I've done a bit of reseach and I've found information about the gland but not that this has proven to be the source of the female ejaculate. JEL
Also, my fluids, which are copius...truly in the pints and quarts
range...do not mainly happen just at orgasm...in fact there is an
initial "flood" early on as I become turned on...under building pressure
of orgasm they do spurt out in jets and sprinkles.
It is definitely not urine...has been analysized...charts are in book
listed above. There also was a 7 year Harvard study done in the "90's
by Severly-Lowndes, but this book is now out of print.
It really does make one wonder why this is not a more commonly known and
accepted experience. Great Vibrations has a video called "How to Female
Ejaculate". They think all women can do it...so do I...a matter of
stimulating the right spot and energizing it...over time.
Hope this info. helps.
Very very deep, hard and fast penetration with his hands or with a vibrator.
Or, since we engage in BDSM play, when he is "spanking" my clitoris always
hard and fast...I think it makes me clench my inner muscles in just the
right way to stimulate me. When he does that, I can come like that over and
over and over...and it seems as though there is no end to how much fluid
there is within me (I DO NOT recommend this to people who aren't currently
engaged in a relationship where there is a very high level of communication
and consensual agreement taking place).
It's a very different sort orgasm...not nearly as heart-stopping as my other
orgasms but instead it's like a quick, warm feeling and then I know that I'm
spurting. My partner says that it literally does spray and he is usually
grabbing for a towel to protect himself. I wouldn't say it's super
enjoyable...just different. My partner delights in pushing me to such an
extreme.
Mary would also ejaculate, but needed a different type of stimulation.
She loved sucking my cock while I fingered her pussy. After I had got
her really damp, she would lay on her side and slip my cock into her
anus. She would push against me until it was all the way into her, and
then slide her finger into her pussy and massage my cock through vagina
wall. All the while I would slowly pump in and out of her as she rubbrd
my cock from inside. When I felt her tightening up around my cock I
would start rolling her clitoris between my fingers until she climaxed.
She usually had one leg lifted up in the air as I pumped her and played
with her clitoris, and when she came she would squirt all over her leg
and mine too. It was hard keeping from ejaculating in her, but a couple
of times I was able to hold off long enough to get her to climax again.
Even the second time she would squirt but by then I was cumming myself
inside of her. The first time she apologized for peeing on me, but I
told her that it wasn't and after a couple more times of lovemaking she
finally relaxed and we both would get a "bath" as she came. She wouldn't
squirt as much during vaginal intercourse because my cock wasn't rubbing
the right area a intensely, but she still would get the sheets pretty
wet squirting.
Kathy would squirt too, but only through intercourse while a vibrator
was on her clitoris on in her rectum. After I slid my cock in her she
would take a small vibrator and slip it in her anus and slide it in as
deep as she could. It would go in about 7 inches, because I could feel
it vibrating on the end of my cock. She would have 2 or 3 climaxes
before she pulled the vibrator out and rolled over on her tummy. She
would get us so wet, and her pussy was so slippery that the only way I
could get enough sensation to climax was to enter her from the rear
doggy style. She would squirt again in this position usually at the same
time I ejaculated inside her pussy.
Of the numerous women that I have made love with in my 52 years, about
half of them would ejaculate. It always was a clear, mild tasting
liquid; sometimes as little as a dribble, all the way up to enough to
soak us both. One time I had my toungue buried inside of Sue with my
upper lip pressing on her clit when she came. The whole load of her
ejaculate went into my mouth, and no pun intended, it WAS a mouthful of
cum! Before I even thought about it, I swallowed it and as I said before
there was only a mild taste to it.
I have seen this happen on one video that I bought (the only XXX video I
own) and just as the guy pulls out for his gratuitous jacking-off cum
shot, you can see the girl squirt all over the sheets before the camera
switchs to fly cum-shot. I think that some of those cum-shots in the XXX
videos are only to try and impress us guys as to the quantity they can
shoot. When I cum, it is usually about twice of what they have, and I
only have about 7 inches compared to some of their oversized cocks. I
don't have to jack-off mine to get it hard like they do, and I haven't
even tried Viagra!
This may be of interest to you about female ejaculation, and I hope it
is, but yes I personally know of it. Get someone, or yourself, to
explore the area above and just behind your pubic bone and you will find
that spongy area. Pay special attention to it and I will guarentee that
you will have an ejaculation!
I get embarrassed with my partner(s) sometimes and often find myself holding off my
partner from touching me because of it. Oral sex can be very interesting and sometimes it can be a lot to handle. If I am very excited
early in love making I experience so much wetness that I feel I should take another shower before penetration actually takes place. I
am now in my forties and it has not changed.
My sex drive has always be very good and I feel insatiable at times. My mother
tells me 40s are the sexual awakening years.....
I am glad t hear that it's more common than I had thought.
Here's the letter from a visitor that started all this.
my orgasms are incredible and getting better everytime (which is unbelievable).....one day last week, I was masturbating using a
small vibrator as well as my hands, and i was close to cuming when the vibrator slipped and hit my clit hard and then all of the sudden
there was this huge gush of fluid and and incredible orgasm.........i actually thought i lost control of my bladder control.....but after i
regained control, i checked and it didn't look or smell like urine.....i told my boyfriend about it, he thought it was female ejacuation, but
had never experienced it so he wasn't sure........i wasn't sure if i could recreate the situation, but earlier this week we were making
love, not really trying to have it happen and during oral sex it did.......(john loved it.......and so did i) and it has happened several times
since.......
our question - what causes female ejacuation? does it happen to everyone? is there any literature or sources on the net we can
get some more information? we did a little surfing but didn't get a lot of good information......have you ever run a survey on female
ejaculation? I would be curious what other women have to say on this subject.......
In 'The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex' 1990, author June Reinisch,Ph D. says, "It's not clear how many women expel fluid at
orgasm. Some researchers report that nearly 40 percent of women questioned had at least one ejaculation at orgasm, while others
have found a much smaller percentage.
"There is also disagreement over the source of this fluid and whether it's urine or a specialized secretion fro vaginal glands. But
regardless of what scientists eventually decide, it is important to realize that what happens to you is normal for you and does happen to
other women. There is nothing to be uncomfortable about when this happens - just bring a towel to bed and reassure your partner that
it's normal for you."
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