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Updated 2/09 [F 22] When my husband and I first got together the only form of birth control we used was condoms. We were young.. Stupid. There were times that we didn't have a condom and we had sex anyway. We were both clean so we weren't worried about std's or anything like that but we SHOULD have been worried a little more about pregnancy. (not that I would change a thing now) Sometimes when we didn't use a condom he would pull out (I'm not stupid, I know there's still pre cum and I could STILL get pregnant) and there were a couple times that in the heat of the moment I said 'cum in me' and he did. This resulted in having a baby at age 18.
After having my son I got on the birth control pill Seasonale. I got bad stomach cramps from it so I stopped taking it. (the thing that really attracted me to this particular pill was the idea of only having 4 periods a year) After getting off of that my doctor put me on the patch. I used that for about a month and absolutely HATED it. The edges would get lint in them from my clothes and after a week it REALLY hurt peeling the thing off. Not to mention the rough patch it left after you pulled it off. So when I stopped using that we started using condoms only, more responsibly then when we were younger. Considering we had a small baby we weren't ready for another one, yet.
After having our second child (one that we planned, no surprises this time!) I decided to try the Mirena IUD. I had heard a lot of good things about it from friends and I figured it was a good option for me since I tend to forget taking pills AND it would be good for 5 years. We don't plan on having any more kids but the thought of having my tubes tied is a little too permanent for me. I'm still young and who knows - I may want another baby in a few years. I have had the IUD for about 2 years now and I LOVE it. I have had maybe 2 periods since I got it (that's normal for some people) no cramping or anything. I love being able to have sex any old time and not worrying about having a condom and my husband loves being able to cum inside of me. I must admit that we still use condoms once in awhile (by my choice, not his - he hates them) but sometimes after having sex I like to stay in bed and cuddle instead of having to run to the bathroom and clean up.
Updated 5/08 [M 64] I'm surprised at the lack of responses to this question. Back when we were sexually active (before marriage), my wife continued using the pill from her previous marriage. However, she developed some fibroids in her tubes that her Dr. thought might be pill related, so we decided a vasectomy was the best course for us. That was quite easy for us since neither of us desired children at that point in time, so I had one before we were married. We found this to provided several benefits to our relationship.
Several years ago I posted information on another forum dealing with these benefits. In the Features/Personal Experiences/Personal Stories section of http://www.vasectomy-information.com/stories/date.htm (27 July 2002) our story is posted.
The webmaster's summary says:
Lee's story is written 23 years after his vasectomy. He had his vasectomy before he got married. Both he and his wife to be had medical problems, so he had a vasectomy and they ultimately adopted a child. He concludes:
"The FREEDOM of worry allowed us to grow and glow together and become one-flesh. In our early married years we were able to explore and experience all the joys and pleasures of our sexuality without fear of pregnancy. It allowed us to get to know and experience each other more fully, at any hour of any day, at any time of the month. This spontaneity brought us together more than any other aspect of our wonderful relationship."
My full story describes in detail the benefits and the degree of discomfort (not much) I experienced Click over .
A vasectomy is a easy procedure, and in comparison to the cost of BCP's over a reproductive lifetime, is relatively inexpensive. In my case, insurance paid for it, so I really can't say anything about its cost, and since it was now 28 years ago, costs then would be irrelevant. There's a minor bit of discomfort, but it's nothing to fear or deter one from going through with the procedure.
One of the other benefits we realized was the taste of my semen improved dramatically after the Vasectomy! Apparently, the "little swimmers" provided the bitter, salt & pepper taste in my semen. After the V, my semen had a very mild, pleasant taste. As a result, my wife initiated and enjoyed performing fellatio on me much more frequently. So if any readers are experiencing this as a problem, and have no further desire for more children, a snip may provide a solution that provides a double benefit.
[M 54] My wife Di and I are in our fifties so contraception isn't an issue right now, but we have used different methods in the past. When I first met Di she was using a IUD, the copper wire type. When we decided to start a family she went in and had it removed and came home with some shocking news. When the doctor removed the IUD he asked Di if I had ever complained about pain during intercourse. It seems who ever inserted the IUD in Dis pussy had left a copper wire too long and the doctor who removed it said I was lucky I hadn't cut the head of my cock off.
After our first child was born Di had another IUD put in but was assured there were no loose wires this time. After our second and last child was born we used condoms for awhile but Di said she really didn't like using them because they felt different inside her and she couldn't feel my cock as well. Luckily we only used them for a couple of months and then Di had her tubes tied and that brought our use of contraception to an end or so we thought. We are using condoms again but this time Di's using them on me and not for contraception. I've really learned to love being penetrated anally and because we have so many toys that Di and I both like to be fucked with we make it a point to put a condom on any thing that goes up my ass, except for my Aneros prostrate massagers because I'm the only one who uses them. Well thats our contraception history. So if your wife is using an IUD be careful guys, those things can be dangerous.
Updated 4/08 [M 60s] As far as kind of contraception I used, haven't had to worry about this in quite a few years. But, when I was younger, I certainly did have to use a couple of forms of contraception. The earliest used by me was condoms. Often times these things were two fold in there use. Kept the sperm from getting into the women and kept possible bad bugs from getting into me. Then, there were the girlfriends. Wasn't worried much about the bad bugs but sure was about the sperm getting into them and what those cells can do. After marrying, early on we depended on the pill. With them I could release all the sperm I wanted to into her with no worries. But, she started having a reaction from the pills and had to stop taking them. We then resorted to using the good old withdrawal method. It was quite messy with her ending up with a belly covered with the sperm but it did work. This is my history with contraceptives.
