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Updated 11/03 [M] I thought I might add something on the discussion of blindfolds, which seems to have been a bit dormant recently. But it's one of our favorite ways to play, so maybe this will inspire somebody!
As somebody who loves to blindfold my partner (and to be blindfolded by her) I'm always trying to come up with fresh approaches on how to make it even more enticing and fun.
For example, let me tell you about a recent play date we had together. It started upstairs, where I told her to dress provocativly in boots, nylons, and open-crotch panties. No bra. And last but not least, a blindfold.
I made her wait for a few minutes, to think about what this particular game might involve. Then I came in and took her by the hand, walking her downstairs to our front room, where I had pushed back the furniture, spread a sheet and thrown a couple of pillows on the floor, put on soft music, and closed the curtains (although I didn't actually tell her that last part, wanting her to relish the dangerous possibility that we might be seen).
I walked her to the middle of the room, and told her to kneel down with her hands behind her back. While she knelt there, I walked around her slowly, telling her that she was my sex toy, and that I would spend the next hour mercilessly teasing and taunting her body. Around her, I noted, were twelve items placed like the hours of a clock. Without seeing the items, she would select, one by one, which she wanted me to use on her for up to five minutes by picking any number between 1 and 12 -- once chosen, she was at my mercy as I played with her. She could get a clue on any item she wanted or get extra time with anything she was enjoying, but she had to earn that clue or that time by kissing my balls or masturbating herself or doing whatever else caught my fancy in that moment.
After she selected each item, I would tell her to assume a particular position to maximize her sensations and to be visually stimulating for me. I would reveal each item slowly, allowing her to hear or smell it before she experienced it fully. We only got through about half the items before she climbed atop me, panting, and finished the game. The items (and the planned use and position for each) were:
1. strawberries and grapes (I fed these to her - on her knees, with her hands behind her back)
2. ice (touching all her most-sensitive parts as she lay on her back spread eagled)
3. orange halves and honey (I used her breasts like juicers, and fed her wedges dipped in honey...note that I also had a towel for this one!)
4. whipped cream (I told her to drop her shorts and lie on her back, spread open, spreading the luscious cream on all the obvious places as well as on my breasts and fingers which I used to feed her)
5. hairbrush (she got into a kneeling position, I massaged her scalp and pussy, and used the brush to give her one or two playful slaps by surprise)
6. feathers (she lay on her side)
7. a vibrating glove (she lay on her stomach as I gave her a back full body massage -- boots came off for this one)
8. a fur piece (a gentle rub as she lay on her back)
9. a fragrant hot herb tea in thermos (she would sit on her legs as I served it to her)
10. stool (I sat her down on it, using my tongue between her legs -- this incidentally, was the show-stopper for her that brought our game to a glorious close!)
11. a standard vibrator (she lay on her back spread eagle, and I covered her body from head to toe and everywhere in-between with it)
12. a piece of silk (kneeling down, I told her to pull her panties down to her knees, and then gently rubbed the silk piece all over her skin for a minute, then used it to tie her hands together in front of her and just sat back and looked at her, telling her how lucky I was to have a partner as lovely and cooperative as she is!)

Updated 5/03 [M] To get down to it, I love blindfolds. I like to make these things that only have one purpose, to cover someone's eyes so they can't see. I like to make blindfolds that fit well, that are comfortable and that are effective. I strive to make the best blindfolds possible, I think I do a pretty good job at it. I like to make blindfolds with style.
I glad to find people who are daring enough to try something a little bit out of the ordinary, thus being blindfolded for whatever reason. I love the trust involved. I really enjoy it when someone wants to try on one of my sleepmasks and they can have fun with it.
I also enjoy being blindfolded. I like the feel of something over my eyes, be it a sleepmask or scarf, then opening my eyes and seeing nothing but black. Knowing everything is still there that way it was but I have to feel my way around.
Riding in the car blindfolded is particularly fun, especially when I don't know the destination. I don't do this as often as I would like, my wife think it is okay but she thinks of it as more of "my" thing and she doesn't get that involved as I do. I haven't been daring enough to go to a public place such as a restaurant while blindfolded but I'd really like to if I think I could fell comfortable enough to do so. I would love to do a wine tasting if I knew the other participants would be blindfolded as well.
I read in a magazine sometime ago that suggested that someone go a to party blindfolded and get to know other guests without seeing them. If someone would invite me to a party where I was going to be the blindfolded one, I would do it in a heartbeat. Conversely, I would love to be at a party where someone else was blindfolded where they got to know me without seeing. What about everyone wears a blindfold except the host? That would be great fun for me. Have you heard of people doing this?
I love get other people somewhere blindfolded, I've done it a few times, it turned out really well. I left them wander around and made sure they didn't bump into anything. A number of years ago, I once blindfolded a female friend, tied her hands behind her and fed her ice cream and she giggled through the whole thing. She knew I was going to blindfold her because she could see the scarf in my hands coming up to her eyes but she couldn't see anything after that. I wasn't planning to tie her hands before it happened, it came as an afterthought. She was open and trusting and I knew that it wouldn't turn out too wrong, if she didn't want her hands tied she would tell me and I would stop. I took her wrists behind her, started wrapping the scarf around hem and she giggled. I knew if was okay, and I continued. She sat there with her hands tied while blindfolded and it turned out that she enjoyed it as much as I did. She later told me that not knowing that I going to tie her hands added to the excitement for her and being blindfolded at the time heightened her awareness.
I think bondage is a lot of fun too. I'm not into S&M, just being tied so I can't go anywhere or the person I'm tying can't go anywhere. I guess this goes along with being blindfolded and feeling the ropes hold me is an exhilarating feeling. Sometimes I long to be tied to a chair or the bed, my mouth filled with a big fat gag or taped shut and left that way for hours, at the mercy of whoever tied me up. Knowing that I can't escape and they ignore my pleads for help and they know I'm going to have to wait until they're ready to release me. That's so exciting. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen. My wife will tie me up when I ask her to but she doesn't really get into it, and it's not all that long that I'm tied up. She thinks it's just for the time that we're going to have sex but it's more than that.
Being tied up for hours leading up to sex would be great. Not knowing when it's going to happen makes it all that more exciting and I am powerless to do anything about it.
I would like to tie her in the same manner but she won't have it. She'll let me tie her up but I never know if I should ask her first of just jump into it. I have tried the latter and she usually gives me a response something like, "Oh, this again." We missed communication somewhere. All in all, we have a good marriage, that's about the only sticking point.
One of our female friends called, telling my wife that one of our other female friends went to a strip bar last night. It was a guy's birthday, the dancers tied him to a pole, danced around him rubbing themselves against him. My wife told our friend about me, "Oh, he would just love that." Not so! I would think that would be so embarrassing, I want to keep sexual displays private. I would not feel safe there. I would only enjoy being blindfolded if I knew it was safe as well. Being blindfolded in a group of people would be a lot of fun if I knew I could trust them. Of course, being blindfolded in a group of people may be a good way to trust them.
Oh, well, I guess I've went on here quite a bit. I wanted to tell you about my sleepmasks and if you knew people who would want to try them out. I would gladly send you some if you like. I have many patterns and colors, a lot more than the ones of my website. www.geocities.com/eyepajamas. Some of them are downright sexy, that's why I chose those patterns.

Updated 1/03 [M 56] The tie belts which accompany bathrobes make excellent ad hoc blindfolds. Just cover her eyes with the belt and tie it behind her head to secure it in place. If she is amenable to it, you can hold onto the ends and use them to guide her mouth for the best rhythm and penetration depth when she's kneeling in front of you performing fellatio.

Updated 2/02 [M] Yes, we have opaque scarves, but our favorite blindfold is the buttery soft leather one. We never use it without first dressing it with leather creme. The aroma of the fresh leather is part of the experience.
The blindfold's purpose is simple; sensory deprivation. The subject cannot see what is about to happen. This can be the basis of all sorts of fun games. The blindfolded subject's genitals can be stimulated with edible items, which they get to eat/taste if they guess correctly. They can also be stimulated with most anything from feathers to fur and the feeling is enhanced by their lack of sight.

[M] I enjoy blindfold activities very much and fortunately my wife is willing to "play along" frequently.
A year or so ago I found the Eye Pajamas site on the Internet. These people sell sleep masks that are fun, and funny, non-threatening (not scary like some S&M sites' toys) and put the wearer in complete darkness. I do not know the site, but I reach it through the Blindfold Page by clicking on "links."
This year my wife and I were very busy and did not get some of the Christmas presents wrapped until we were both home. Since some of the presents are mine, she blindfolded me and had me help her wrap presents. (Hold this, put your finger here and so on). She had help, we spent time together, and I got the fun of an extended blindfold session.
My wife also has a free spirit long time girl friend who lives on a private farm. Thanks to them I have been treated to some very interesting outdoor blindfold activities from time to time.

[M 40] I have been blindfolded before and really liked it. It accentuates the sensation of touch while stimulating the imagination. I think my wife also liked it, because she had a certain amount of power and could threaten me; seeing me squirm when I considered that maybe she was crazy enough to really do my manhood in only increased her excitement.
I often fantasize about being blindfolded with a hood over my head and having a party of women, whom I may or may not know, all performing a group grope all over me. They would have no inhibitions, since it would be impossible for me to ever know their identities. Their collective excitement would stimulate each woman to do more than she would do if left on her own. They would work me over until I gave them a show by coming all over, then would kick me out. Whenever I saw a woman in the future, I'd never know if she was one of the ones, and if so, if she recognized me.

[F 36] A couple of years ago I purchased a blindfold. My husband and I have only tried it once. I love the anticipation of not knowing what was going on around me. It drove me crazy. When wearing the blindfold your other sences are enhance. You are able to feel, hear, and taste more. The thing with this is that you must be able to trust your partner.

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