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Posted 11/01 [F] I can't believe how refreshing it is to read of other women who enjoy anal sex as much as I do. I have always found that when it comes up in discussions with girlfriends they all flatly deny doing it, so I thought it was only me ..and I started to feel maybe I was doing something wrong. But how could it be so wrong when it feels so right? I love my husband Andrew very much, and had never done anything like it before I met him. He is rather large in the basement area, and so it took some time to fully relax with him inside vaginally, however after three beautiful children and Andrews new found passion for fisting me, we soon found that there was little grip down there anymore, and we started to experiment with anal, but only with his finger at first , then a small vibrator.
It was at this time we started to do a little bit of swinging, but had promised each other no penetration would take place , but one night exactly that happened to me, with a very handsome dark skinned man, who spent a long time performing oral sex on me, and then using all his fingers which I love, and then I don't remember how it happened but he ended up taking me anally. I was in total heaven , and after he climaxed I felt ashamed that Andrew was not the first to take me anally.
I asked him to do it to me the next night , and I didn't have to pretend it was my first time as Andrew was much larger , and boy did I feel it go in!, I asked him to slow down as it was painful, but I don't think I ever felt him climax so hard in my life, the noises he made! We now have anal sex maybe three times a week, and if he's gentle I don't feel bruised inside like I used to do, although sometimes if he's feeling horny he gets a bit carried away and I feel like I have punched in the stomach when he's finished..but I love him and I know its me he's doing it with and no one else..so I say go for it girls and discover true sexual heaven ...and keep your man at home where he belongs..with you !

Posted 9/01 [F 24] In reference to the gentleman unsure if he should disuss anal sex with his soon to be wife. i suggest he does so IMMEDIATELY..there is nothing without being able to be honest with your spouse. my spouse and I have tried anal several times now and we enjoy it more each time. I have found being on my side or on top is best. Females are into more than guys give us credit for. My husband was also skeptical at first of discussing this wih me but I took the matter out of his hands when watchinga tape i approached him with it only to find he was always interested but scared. NOW DOESN"T THAT BEAT ALL!!

Posted 8/01 [F] In response to the gentleman who inquired whether he should raise the issue of anal sex with his soon to be wife, I would say he should discuss it with her. For the last four years, I have been engaging in it with the man I love. At first, we talked about it, and I found it arousing. He had done it years ago with another woman and found it most enjoyable, but had not felt comfortable broaching the subject with anyone since. After he described in detail what he would like to do, and ascertained it was okay with me, he began touching my anus and penetrating it with his finger(s). After we did that a few times, out of bed, he asked if the next time we made love, I would be willing to try the anal intercourse. I said yes, and he assured me he would never hurt me and would not be upset if I asked to stop without completing the act. We engaged in lots of foreplay and I was quite aroused;he used lots of lubricant, and it was wonderful. It did not hurt in the least, felt pleasant, and most importantly, I never felt emotionally closer to him. It was and is the supreme act of intimacy, the epitome of trust and a clear expression of love. He says it gives him the best orgasms of his life because of the tightness, and I find it most pleasurable. I would hate to see anyone who desires this denied the opportunity to try it, but obviously, it depends on both parties.

Posted 7/01 [M] I am very curious about it. I tried it once and it was a complete failure, doing all the wrong things, with my wife who is now deceased. I am engaged to be married again and my curiosity about anal sex is still there. In all that I have read, of a more factual nature, the preparation is more like preparing for surgery than having intimate sexual fun. I see no point in it unless the woman really does get a sexual thrill from it. I have heard and read everything from mind blowing orgasms to "it hurts a bit." I am not interested in hurting my partner for my own marginal satisfaction. I would have to think the major satisfaction a male gets from this maneuver is the idea of the conquest. The ultimate submission of his partner. Doesn't seem quite fair. I wish I could actually talk with a woman who has anal sex and truly enjoys it. If it can be a truly enjoyable experience for my mate then I would pursue it just to satisfy my curiosity.

Posted 11/1/00 [M] My wife of nineteen and I have only been married about six months and have been reading about sex on the Net. We were both very inexperience but are learning fast thanks to columns such as yours. I am twenty years old from a very conservative family who taught me nothing about sex. We were both dumb virgins when we met so our first intercourse was clumsy and painful for my wife. My penis is only about seven inches long but is unbelievably thick and I really had a difficult time getting inside her. She was sore for days afterwards.
We are both easily aroused and soon we overcame the problem thanks mostly to my wife who just bore the pain until I stretched her wide enough to enjoy it. After reading yours as well as other stories we soon (at my wife's insistance) were indulging in oral sex and I learned the joys of both giving and recieving. She was a natural and I will never forget my first climax in her mouth as I watched her cheeks puff out and her gallant efforts to get all the fluid down her throat. It gives me a feeling of power and love to know that she will let me use her mouth that way. I spent much time trying to give her the same joy and have become a dedicated oralist also.
Our crowning achievement came recently when, after reading your column, we decided to try anal sex. We took the advice of your readers and bought a small dildo and purchased plenty of slick jell. After about two weeks of penetrating her tiny ass repeatedly with my fingers and the dildo we were ready to try it. I could see her once tiny little opening beginning to get more elastic with each penetration. I am almost freakish in girth and my penis is nearly nine inches in circumference so you can see how much of a problem we have had. My wife's mouth is stretched to it's limits when she is sucking me.
I really had my doubts about her orifice being able to open up that much. My wife is always horny but more than that she is a Trooper and lets very few things stop her when she has made up her mind to accomplish something . Having anal sex was no different and soon I had her on her knees seeking to gain entry into the "forbidden" zone as some call it. The first time exhuasted us both and I just barely got my large crown inside the opening as the pain was just too much for her. We tried again the next night even though she was a little tender there. I could'nt believe the erotic feelings that consumed me as I saw my penis finally start to make it's way inside her well douched channel. I inserted about four inches into her and she groaned and pushed back until all my penis was encassed in the tightest, slckest, hot little hole I had ever seen.!!
Readers, there is nothing like it!! and I am so thankful that such columns as yours exist. We took all the advice such as taking an enema etc to make it easier. MY WIFE confessed it felt as arousing as vagina penetration and we are really enjoying it now. I love to watch the little opening snap shut when I pull my deflating penis out. It's like throwing a rock into the water and just closes up afterwards.
What a power trip!! My wife is starting to demand more agressive action there as she stretches to accomadate my large shaft. My penis is just the right length and I can thrust into her hard without hitting bottom. I know the neighbors below us in our apartment are glad when we finally sleep as my wife is so vocal now and forgets where she is as she shouts for more. She mentioned to me that she wants to be tied up and pretend she is being "raped' and I can't wait to try it. We have had anal sex five nights in a row at her insistance and I may have created a monster. I just hope I can keep up with her, I'll let you know in a few weeks.

[M] My wife consented to having anal sex the right way. We had done it on two other occasions without any lubrication and she had been very vocally against it ever again until this past weekend. I have casually mentioned it here and there over different times and always with the same or nearly same response from her until this past Friday when I sent her a sexually explicit photograph of a couple engaging in the act. I told her I was ready if she was and she said after a real date (married and three kids, youngest is 2).
Dates are expensive when you have to factor in a sitter and thus we don't have that luxury very often. In any case we had the date but that was not when it happened. Our 2 year old had other plans that night after we came home she disrupted the evening plans. The next morning I awoke my wife with a 40 minute massage followed by bringing her to a pleasant orgasm. She prefers a back, neck massage to get her going more than any other method. After she was fully satisfied I began to prepare her anus and my penis for the event.
I massaged the KY gently around and into her tight backdoor and slide one, then two the three fingers into her while she laid on her stomach. I pulled up behind her and as gently as I could pushed the head of my penis in. She moaned a little whimper saying it hurt and I stopped and told her I would wait. The feeling was incredible and it took a great deal of concentration to keep from exploding right then and there. Slowly she flatened herself down more to the bed and I followed pushing myself deep into her. The anticipation and feeling was just wonderful. I know I didn't last very long because within just a very few minutes the sensations overwhelmed me and I know I came for at least a full thirty ot forty seconds.
I held my weight off of her until I needed to relax and then allowed myself to press her down to the bed. I pushed back up and massaged her neck and back for a few seconds and then I pulled out. With vaginal sex I am soft in just a few seconds after and I just kind of fall out of her. I actually popped out of her anus and I was still rock hard.
I also have a great deal of stamina and staying power during vaginal sex but this encounter was just way too fast. An addendum is that knowing how much she had been against it she never said a word about hurting or anything. In fact one of her comments had been that she actually hated the effects of post anal sex more than any discomfort. She said it caused loose stools for the next 12 to 24 hours. With this in mind she got flowers today and I told her how much I loved and appreciated her giving me this much pleasure even if it means some discomfort on her part.

Posted 10/3/00 [F 42] I am a 42 year old female who stumbled across your forum one day when I was looking for information concerning anal sex. I'm glad I did! It helped quite a bit. My lover and I had been talking about trying this for a while, mostly joking & teasing each other, and I must admit this was a new thing for both of us...we were "virgins", so to speak. After reading the helpful comments, I decided to "call his bluff" the next time he teased me about it. He never pushed me, or forced me to do this, it was something I wanted to give him, a part of myself that no man has ever had. If you're in a relationship where there is love, trust and respect, it can be one of the most incredibly erotic sexual experiences in your life, in my opinion. We took a whole afternoon alone together, used LOTS of foreplay & KY Jelly, and took it VERY slowly. I was amazed at how intense the sensation was, and so surprised when I had a fantasic orgasm just from anal penetration. He was so sweet and patient, and we found that the "spoon" position works best for us. I feel closer to him now than I ever have, it's such an intimate and trusting act with someone you love. Your site helped me so much. This act that most consider "nasty and forbidden", can be wonderful with someone you love, and most importantly, trust. Thanks.. L.

Posted 9/4/00 [F] My ex and i used to partake of anal sex on a regular basis....one weekend we went off and booked into a hotel for a dirty weekend. After our normal heavy petting, we were both in the mood for a little anal play.... Silly me had forgotten to bring any vasoline, but my ex had a cold at the time and had bought a bottle of Vaporub (like a deap heat rub)......so being young and naive i thought "well they look the same....." and proceded to fuck her arse with a vengeance....
Soon after she was sitting on the toilet for about 30 minutes....screaming in agony as her arse felt like it was on fire!! hehehehe...and i was in the shower wanking my cock as hard as hell in the hope that the pain would subside!! hehehe
Not recommended - and neither is Vaseline. Inside the vaginal canal or anus it's a breeding ground for nasty bacteria. JEL

Updated 8/1/00 [M] I want to relate an interesting anal experience. I have always had a fascination with anal sex and love it. I love the feeling of penetrating into a woman's most private and hidden area. I find even the thought of it to be a powerful turn on. Up until my current lover, I have found anal sex to be a hit and miss affair. Some of my partners simply would not indulge, others I could only fuck their arse (English version of ass) when they have had a lot of alcohol. This was the only way they could relax enough to accept it and even then I don't think that they really enjoyed it much, which dampened my desires a lot, as I didn't either want to be perceived as coercing them into something they didn't really want to do, or hurt them. I have had a partner or two in the past that genuinely enjoyed anal sex, and was willing to partake, but NOTHING like my current lover.
I was amazed when first tried it on out third night of sex. I must admit we were stoned and had had a little champagne - we were feeling good. Used my fingers a little, to see if she was ok with anal touch and how tight she was. She wasn't tight at all and seemed relaxed. I fingered her arse and fucked her pussy some more. Eventually, I decided (after encountering no rejection) to attempt to fuck her arse. Due to my past difficulties in fucking other women's arses (me being a little larger than normal and women being tight and unable to relax) I had developed the technique of losing half of my erection, so that it was still hard enough to enter, but not as big as it would be if I were fully excited. Once in I could then gently regain my full erection. Once again, I did the same. To my surprise, I entered with no problem. I actually thought that I'd missed and entered her cunt, as she has a very tight cunt. I checked with my fingers, (it was dark) and I was all the way in her arse. I was absolutely stunned, I have never entered a woman's arse so easily.
On the next meeting we did the same and again my cock entered just as easily. We put it down to fact that she'd been doing yoga for many years and had superb muscular control.
On our latest encounter we were fucking on the dining room table and I wanted to fuck her arse and was going to go and get some lube, but she wanted to do it right now, and told me to put my cock in her arse. I didn't think it would work. Muscular control is one thing, but no lube is another. I tried, and to my amazement it worked!!! I thought I'd see how far I could go. I then tried different ways of fucking her - gentle, deep penetration, hard and fast, nearly removing my cock and then pushing it hard back in. She loved it all and wanted more. I didn't cum at this stage, I didn't want the experience to end. So I pulled out after about 15 minutes of arse fucking and we cuddled and laughed at we'd just done. and then she kneeled down and sucked my cock, just like in porn films. I was even more gobsmacked. Later we played some more and she licked my arse and pushed her tongue into my arse. I'd never even though of doing that before, let alone asking someone to do it. I also licked her arse. After that I put a couple of fingers in her arse, and then one more, and another and then my thumb, and slowly kept pushing until my hand/fingers were up to the knuckles. Never have I had such an intense experience - nor her either. She also fist fucked my arse, but I have to say that I was no where near as good as her at it, but next time...
We spoke about it afterwards, and she told me that she has not indulged in anal very much and when she did, it didn't do much for her, but we seemed to be doing something right.
I don't know why it works so well in this case, but I have realised all my fantasies all at once.
It is a dream come true to have girl say "fuck me in the arse"

Updated 5/30/00 [F 37] I had always considered anal sex a taboo and would never have dreamed of trying it had it not been for the reader comments on your site. My husband has always commented on what a beautiful butt he thinks I have and every now and then a finger or his penis would stray to the "forbidden zone". Finally after showing your site to my husband and discussing our feelings about trying it, we took the plunge and I'm happy to report that I absolutely love it!
I was terrified that I would be in incredible pain, but such was not the case. Although I had a wonderful experience, I would hesitate to recommend trying anal sex with anyone but a long time partner. There should be complete trust and respect between the two of you or it could very well go terribly wrong.
As for recommendations...... For the first time and/or subsequent times, you may want to use an enema about 1-1.5 hours ahead of time. This just leaves you feeling more fresh and confident that there won't be any embarrassing accidents.
Buy a VERY good lube. We used ID glide. It's water based, tasteless, odorless and nonstaining. (Cheaper than Astro Glide too!) Use more than you think you need, and once you feel you have too much...... use more! Take it slow, arouse your partner to the boiling point. Tentatively try several positions until you find one that is mutually comfortable and has you both relaxed.
Buy some latex gloves and make sure your fingernails are neatly trimmed and smooth. You'll probably want to try inserting one finger at a time, rather than going directly for entry with a penis, dildo or butt plug. A small jelly butt plug is great. Having sex with the butt plug inserted is sheer heaven for both partners :)
As I said before, take it slow, use more lube than you think you need, relax and above all respect your partners wishes. If they want to stop, STOP! You can always try another time. I won't say it's for everyone, but I WILL say that had it not been for this site, I NEVER would have considered it. I'm thrilled that I did.
I've never found an enema necessary or even desirable so if you don't want to do that part, don't. JEL

Updated 4/7/00 [M 43] My wife and I often have anal sex. We normally use a vibrator at the same time, she loves me to fuck her with the vibrator will I take her from behind with my cock up her arse. When she comes she just cannot stop. I suppose its the thought of maybe her taking two cocks which gets us both going. Next thing ???? I'm working on it.

[M 48] I am a 48 year old male and my wife is 47. We both enjoy anal sex as semi-regular part of our sex life.When I do her I start out with one finger well lubed with KY Jelly.She lets me know when she's ready for more fingers. I slide them in and out of her anus and I also push in deep and hold them there. If she's inthe mood she might ask me to use one of our anal toys in her ass. We have 3 sizes of butt plugs,a string of latex beads and a very large dildo(8 in. long & 4 in. around. After I insert whatever toy she choses she lies on her back and perform oral sex on her clit until she comes. She says that her orgasm is more intense when ass is filled. I then slide my penis into her pussy and pump until both of us come again. The sensation i get from the toy in her ass is just great. When its her turn to fuck my ass I let her pick what toy she uses.She always goes nice and slow until I get well relaxed and loose.Then she picks up the speed until i can hardly stand it. If she has inserted a butt plug she will roll me on my back ,straddle my cock and fuck me till I come.Other times we both get a toy in our ass and then we fuck each other till we can't stand. Anal sex is great and everyone who has the urge should try it. Just go nice and slow,use lots of lube and learn to relax your anus.

[M 31] My wife and I have been married for about 9 years now and I have always been more open and adventurous in trying new things sexually than her. In layman's terms, if she were the dominate partner during sex we would have done nothing more than vanilla sex in the missionary position for the past 9 years. I am very oral and like trying new things, but am hesitant about introducing her to new things because of her sexual shyness. I had read articles on your website as well as others about anal sex and decided that I would try it, seeing as how our sex life was needing a little spicing up at the time. The first few times I would just gently rub her anus and then I would try sticking just a finger tip in. She would pull my hand away and not say anything negative about my actions. The perception I got from her was, she didn't pull me away because she didn't like it, but because it didn't seem a proper thing to do. After doing this a few times, one night I was fingering her vagina and decided to slip 2 fingers in and she seemed to enjoy it. I felt like she was enjoying this, judging by her hip and leg movements, so I decided to get brave and slip a third finger in.
She was getting very wet by this point and had increased rhythm in hips. I began running all four fingers back and forth across her vagina, moving my index finger closer to her anus each time. I did this for several minutes, getting my fingers lubricated sufficiently with her natural juices, and I decided to try it. I stuck my index finger in her ass, still sticking my other 3 fingers in her vagina. When I did this, her not warding my actions off on this attempt, she actually let out a little groan (I was very turned on by this, because she had never made a sound during sex before). I then began to thrust my hand into her (index finger in her asshole and the other three in her vagina) and she began to moan and even let out an "Oh my gosh", or two. I felt her stomach muscles begin to tighten, as they usually do when she is reaching an orgasm, and felt her asshole begin to tighten around my finger. After close to 9 years of marriage, I think that was the best sex we had had up to that point on that night. I am still working on an idea of how to move her into letting me penetrate her anally, so if anyone (especially you ladies) have any ideas let me know. I am sure if she would just give it a try, she would enjoy it as much as she did my finger that first time.

Updated 2/1/00 [M] I just stumbled into your site by accident but loved reading about people who enjoy anal sex. My wife and I have been doing anal for a long time and she had her first anal experience in the eighth grade. She was out with two guys at the drive-in movie and they both took her anally after she had performed oral sex on them. She was very sore but also very turned on and was soon doing it with most of the guys she dated. She became a devotee and asked me to try it on our first date She always takes an enema first and we find it makes it much more enjoyable as well as sanitary. I am larger than average in girth but after dating many guys in grade school and college she was well-stretched when we met and I had no problem entering her to the hilt.
She ordered a strap-on dildo and suprised me one night and asked me to let her penetrate me. The dildo was very large and I was a little afraid she would hurt me but after an extended session of pushing first one and then four of her fingers in me I let her mount me like a woman with me on my back as she wanted to watch my expressions. I won't kid you, it did hurt a little even with her going slowly. She had done this with a previous lover and she knew how to hit my spot and I came with a climax I will never forget. Now I am adjusted to the nine inch monster and take pride in the fact that I can take it up to the big latex balls and I love ever minute of it. I highly suggest it to other anally oriented couples.

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