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Posted 7/08 [F 51] A secret for anal lovers. I'm a 51 years old Scandinavian woman, happily married to a man who works with an international institution. We move a lot across Europe. What I'm about to tell is meant for those women who, as I do, love anal sex. It took me (and my anus) some time to get used to it, but my husband is an anal freak, and left me no choice. And I must admit it's wonderful once you get used to it.
During anal intercourse I once had an embarrassing "big accident", which I don't want to happen again, though my husband didn't seem to mind much. Since that event, I take every precaution to make sure my rectum is empty and clean before going to the bedroom. The methods I tried so far were either impractical or inefficient, but recently I found the right solution. It's very easy and comfortable, and is not mentioned anywhere else, so I thought I'd share it with you. It's so simple: while showering, I give my rectum a good shower too. How? I use a proctoscope to keep my anus open. I had never heard of the thing before my husband bought one on the internet, to add to his anal foreplay set. (Some 10 $ of value, he told me.) After I had been subjected to a couple of "deep inspections", I realized how I could use it for my cleaning purpose. So I moved it from the bedside table to the shower. Last night, before stepping into the shower cabin, I took a picture of the proctoscope and the lube waiting there, on the towel, to be used. I asked Joan about including the picture in my text, but eventually I placed it here for you to view. I put the shower head in the picture too because its water jet does the actual cleaning.
Now for my daily routine. First, I visit the toilet to evacuate as much as possible. You may have heard that the rectum is empty between bowel movements, but anyone with anal experience knows better. The deep end of the rectum may, and generally does, contain some mess. So the toilet is only the first step. The bidet is right for the anus, but not for anything deeper. No, the shower is the right place. So I go there, undress, lube the head of my proctoscope and insert it. You just push the central tab in, it drags the main body along. It shoves easily (some three inches deep) and sits comfortably. I take the tab out, which I put in the shower for later cleaning. With the tab removed, your anus is nicely laid open (some one and a half inches across) and your rectum is displayed like a straight pink funnel. There is no greater "anal awareness" possible than walking "casually" around that way, with your anus invitingly opened and your rectum all open and exposed. It excites me terribly. But to continue my instructions.
I step into the shower cabin pressing the "mouth" piece of the proctoscope, though there is little chance of it falling out. I turn the shower head to the jet position, adjust the temperature, and direct the water jet between my legs into the funnel, closing in until the water hits deep in my rectum. Soon, the water flushing out will contain fragments of excrement. No big deal, the fragments are small, disintgrate quickly and are flushed away. But beware the first time! My rectum, not used to the treatment, responded with something like a small bowel movement. With practice, it got used to the treatment and behaves now in a very contained way. In this, my first rectal flushing reassembled my first anal intercourse, which also triggered something like an anal urge. But back to the shower. Soon, the flow is pure water. Again, beware the first time. My first time, in order to get something, I left the shower cabin with the proctoscope still in, and was caught off guard by some mess falling on the bath mat.
So, I learnt to take my time and do the tough part really thoroughly. Only when I'm sure there is nothing left there, I move on to clean the easier parts. I shove my proctoscope a little out, hold it with one hand, and flush again. The more you approach the outer world, the cleaner the rectum usually is, and there is less need to insist. This I repeat a few times, taking more and more of my proctoscope out. When it's out of my anus, my whole tube is really clean from top to bottom. I wash the proctoscope and the tab under the shower, and put them on the towel, with the lube, till next day. (That's where I photographed them.) I complete my shower like any woman would, with extra attention for my cherished anus which is my love muscle. After that, I'm all ready for yet another exciting anal experience, which, as far as I'm concerned, may include analingus and deep penetration.

Posted 3/08 [M 48] OK, time to come in from a different angle, if you'll pardon the play on words. Rather than discussing anal sex, how about discussing "anal play?" How many out there like to play with their own anuses or, for that matter, their partner's anus? I started doing this semi-regularly about a year ago, and I love it. Actually, in one form or another, I had been doing some form of "auto anal" play for a long time. Years ago I tried sliding a finger up my ass while in the shower, just out of curiosity. I really didn't get much out of the experience and, perhaps, felt a bit awkward (maybe a youthful homophobia).
Anyway, years later I re-introduced myself to the beauty of my anus. From time to time I'd stand in front of a full length mirror, turn around and spread my cheeks and give it a long look. This was often/usually followed by a wonderful session of masturbation. I still had some insecurities, wondering "why do I get off on this?" Eventually, I got a (now former) girl friend to slide her finger in (she's a physician, so it's nothing new for her!). I loved laying on my back, spreading my cheeks open, and urging her to slide her finger up my hole. Sometimes I'd have her rub her pussy (she has a nice, hairy one) against it, as well.
Finally, again about a year or so ago, I re-discovered my pink hole. It began in the shower, where I'd soap up my middle finger, reach under, and slide it in (to the first knuckle) and have a great jack-off session. Once I got comfortable with that, I progressed to lying in bed, knees near my chest, teasing and penetrating. Also, with lubricant, I was able to put two fingers up there. It felt great! Meanwhile, I was broadening the scope of my "play scenes." (with explicit, sometimes homoerotic, language). My wife has no interest in anal play, so this was a purely solo activity. In fact, it's one part of the body that pretty much repulses her. Unfortunate, but I can deal with it. Some people seem to like shoving some sort of foreign object up there, but fingers are about the extent of my experience. I tried (once) using a vibrator, but it didn't work very well.
I do consider the sight of a woman's anus to be quite lovely; a pretty, pink spot. I still love mounting a woman from behind, spreading her cheeks nice and wide, and feasting my eyes on her soft, pink (or brown) hole. I used to like putting my thumb against it, or sliding a finger in just a little bit. Even better if there are some hairs around it (one reason why I love retro; women with full bushes, womanly flab/curves, and pubic hair all the way to the anus; my fascination with pubic hair is fodder for a future note). Yes, it needs to be kept clean (as does a man's), and I probably much more enjoy looking at and playing with it than penetrating, but it really is a great way to expand one's sexuality, together or in private. I'd be interested to read about anyone else's solo experiences with their anus, or on anal play in general.

Posted 2/08 [F 28]My lover and I are both fully open to being explored anally and penetrated deeply there. We share different forms of anal sex (toys and fingers for us both and his erect penis in me). I have not yet got around to using a strap-on on him, probably never will, and we both don’t want to try fisting. Our mood takes us to where we go sexually with each other. We become more or less interested in having anal sex at different times. We don’t do any anal for many weeks or even months and then might have a few intense days of it.
We just about always bath or shower before sex and what we both usually do is each discreetly place a little petroleum jelly into our own anus with a finger after bathing. This prepares us for whatever occurs and we may want to insert a finger during lovemaking. This is not about deep penetration and we do it with a naked finger or maybe two. I find it very stimulating. He loves a prostrate massage and I may do that in foreplay, but I will lube him further with Wet or Astroglide. I use a latex glove to keep my finger clean. He enjoys the feeling of gloves with a non-slip texture.
I find bareback anal intensely erotic. I have to feel clean, never rushed and relaxed. We usually plan sex like this. We ask each other for it and work on combining spontaneity with being clean. Anticipation builds up excitement in me. I usually get a colonic. I get small cramps for the rest of the day after a colonic and we wait a day to have sex. After colonics I can have up to four days of sex without condoms. We use toys, vibes and latex gloves, lubes, anal beads and sometimes condoms for fun. Beads of different sizes on the same cord produce very intense climaxes for me. Spontaneity comes from what we use and how we use it. We seldom use everything in one session, but we have recently used a day to experiment. Being blindfolded and surprised with different toys or lubes ideas was very exciting.
We have foreplay and spend time in the bathtub. My lover is uncut. We both get clean and soap our tails really well. I wash him thoroughly. I pull back his foreskin as far as it will go so I blow him with no ‘cheese’. We rinse in warm water in case soap irritates us.
My partner shaves me in a Brazilian. He removes all hair from below my clit and then down to all around my anus. I do not want hairs pulling when I’m being fucked. I feel horny from being so bare. I like him bare, too. He routinely shaves his testicles and perineum, but for a truly bareback session I shave his entire phallus to get it smooth. We go into the bedroom after that. We pay attention most to anal sex with me face down and a pillow under me makes my rear easy to reach.
I am self-centred about anal sex, but I give my lover a good time anally without me expecting anything in return. It’s all about me having intense physical sensations and being basic. Sometimes I only want that. Most times I want romantic face-to-face vaginal sex.
I need vaginal and clitoral stimulation before anal. I then roll on my stomach to receive anal stimulation starting with a buttock massage. This moves the attention to focus on my rear. This progresses to include massaging fingers passing over my anus. Occasionally I get rimmed. My lover pulls on a latex glove and starts opening my anus. The glove texture adds to stimulation-its different from fingers. He lubes very generously with petroleum jelly. I find that works best as he gradually enters me with one and then two fingers. He never rushes and presses my opening to accept a finger. Lovers with far smaller phalluses and thin fingers hurt me before. My lover slowly coaxes me to accept a finger and to go deeper. With patience he creates no pain. Even after several anal sex sessions we always dilate using fingers, even if it is brief.
The way and the speed during which I am first opened determine if I relax and enjoy anal. Without pain I love anal and all of the erotic sensations I get from it. During finger-only dilation we start using water-based lubes. He uses dildos or a butt plug in me and he will often bring me to climaxes by rubbing my clit.
We use a soft low-back sofa. I position myself over its back, my legs open wide and him standing behind. I can also kneel head down on the bed. With a cushion under me, he can hold my legs up and open to take me from the front. He thrusts very slowly at first, without deep penetration. As I open up he goes deeper and then faster. I like it best if he first goes as deep as possible while moving into me slowly. I enjoy the anal friction and when using a condom I like the studded types. He stiffens and moves in deeper before climaxing. Orgasms combined with anal sex are especially intense. He hardens and that pleasantly stretches my opening as he becomes more forceful and gives me the deepest, fastest thrusts. I can feel when he is about to climax and lets himself go. Unless he rubs or vibes my clit I don’t climax from anal alone. Sometimes he spanks my behind, vibes my clit and I gasp and moan when I orgasm.
I love receiving big and warm squirts inside of me. He naturally has a big volume of cum and he seems to produce more with anal sex (especially if he’s had a prostate rub in our foreplay). Sometimes he waits a few days to let his cum increase. Combining waiting and prostate massage, without orgasms, increases his cum, but then I risk being ravished after my pants get torn off in fun. This week I’ll have a colonic, get myself waxed and get a new butt-plug as a surprise. He will know what to do with me when he finds me naked, lubed up and already wearing the butt-plug.

[M] My wife and I were both feeling horny after the Christmas festivities were over, so we decided to retire to the bedroom for some festive season love making. She had gone on ahead while I did some last minute tidying up and when I entered the she was in her robe at the dressing table, her back towards me. I stripped off and pulled back the covers, expecting my surprise last present to be waiting on my pillow. There was nothing. She obviously felt my disappointment, and said over her shoulder that she hadn't forgotten me.
She stood up, letting the robe fall to the floor; she was naked beneath it except for what looked like a harness around her waist. As she turned in profile I saw she had a strap-on dildo, the phallus of which was fully 8' long, remarkably life-like, pink with thick veins and oily with lubricant. I could see that the lips of her shaven cunt were swollen and wet, her breasts engorged with her nipples standing erect.
"This is a Christmas present to us both," she said. "You've had your cock in my ass a few times this year, and now it's my turn to do you." I quite enjoyed occasionally playing the submissive part during our love making, and so I waited to be told what to do. I never though she would ever do this and my cock became hard and erect at the thought of what was to come.
"Lie on the edge of the bed and pull your legs up," she ordered. I did as I was told and she approached me, probing my waiting anus with the dido. She had fingered me in the past, but I had never experienced anything like this. I felt the tip of the phallus enter me and forced myself to relax. Gradually and gently she worked the whole length of the dildo into my rectum. I felt ecstatic and my hand reached down to my cock as I wanted to masturbate. She slapped my hand away and leaned forward over me telling me to fondle and suck her tits. I sucked her large nipple into my mouth and sucked hard and hungrily on it. I managed to get a hand down between her legs,finding her swollen clitoris which I teased with a finger.
Her thrusting became faster as I teased her clit and she half rose, releasing her tit from my mouth, and seizing both my nipples with her fingertips, pinched me hard. My cock felt ready to burst. I felt her orgasm coming and I begged her to make me cum. She let go of my nipples and taking my cock in her long fingers masturbated me with frenzy. We both climaxed noisily together, semen erupting from my aching penis, covering my belly and her tits.
She collapsed over me, breathing hard, the dildo still inside me. After a few minutes, she stood up, semen dripping from her breasts. Gradually she withdrew the dildo from me and I lowered my legs, exhausted from our exertions. She lay down beside me, the dido standing proud. We'll do it again, soon, I hope.

Posted 7/07 [M] there is nothing more i like,than licking a young ladies bottom...probing her anus with my tongue. i love anal sex,and have been doing it for about 30 years.

Posted 5/07 [M] I was having a fling with an old high school sweetheart. She had very small but highly sensitive breasts with nipples that would get hard with very little stimuation. She also had a magnificent bush - very thick, expansive, and so soft. I loved the feeling of my tongue sliding through her pubic hair and finding the soft, moist folds of her pussy. Loved giving her oral sex (she was great at giving as well!). Anyway - one day we were particularly hot and she was on top, riding me, mashing her pussy and clitoris against me. I was fondling those exquisite breasts, sucking on a nipple, and trying to hold off coming until she was close. I slid my hands down her back and was helping her thrust when I brushed a finger across her anus. She moaned and so I did it again. She moaned more and so I began to "massage" her brown hole. She got very excited and started saying, "Yes, yes, yes....."
I then took one finger and slowly pushed against her anus and I felt it slide inside. She was now going crazy. I began to stroke her hole with my finger which was obviously the right thing to do. I rolled over, pulling out of her pussy, and moved her so she was on her hands and knees. She was most willing and reached back, spread her cheeks and said, "Just go slow.." I put the head of my cock against her anus and started to slowly push. I could feel her relax and watched as my cock very slowly disappeared into her. Her butt cheeks were against my pubic hair and I was deep into her. We didn't move for a couple, three, 10 seconds..... then I began to move in and out and she went down, flat onto the floor and I followed while continuing to move in and out of her tight anus.
I told her that I was on the verge of coming and she asked me to hang on for just a bit longer. I did my best and then couldn't hold it any longer and I told her that I was going to come and pushed my cock as deep as I could into her and let loose. She let out a huge moan, I could feel her muscles tighten around me, and she went limp. Limp as in not moving! Scared the dickens out of me. I rolled off her, looked at her face and her eyes were about half open, the pupils turned upward, her breathing very shallow. It must have only been 15 -20 seconds but seemed longer before she returned to normal. She told me that she had just had the most intense orgasm ever - ever! Needless to say, anal sex became a regular part of our lovemaking.

Posted 10/06 [M 63] I've been reading some of the entries on anal sex. My own experience with anal sex is short and sweet. Short in that I've only done it once in my life and sweet in that I did get my rocks off inside her on that one time. This one time event occurred years ago when I was in my thirties. It was bed time and my wife was laying in bed on her right side when I joined her. I laid behind her also on my right side and started fooling around: kissing her neck and feeling her up some. I eventually ended up fooling around between her legs with my erect penis and started pushing it against her bun hole.She eventually asked if I was doing what she thinks I am doing and although she wasn't crazy about the idea she did want me satisfied. She got the KY and put a bunch on her hole back there and on my penis. I lined it up and started pushing ever so slowly. She moaned some but never said stop. I soon had the head of my penis in her and continued pushing. I ended up getting around half way into her which was around 3 to 31/2 inches when the excitement of the moment with this first time thing and the "naughtyness" of what we were doing not to speak of the feel and sight of her soft beautiful ass in front of me. I'm sure the feel of this tight hole I was in also had its effect as I lost it and ejaculated inside her. My wife knew I went off and was probably relieved as I'd be pulling out. I went to the bathroom to wash off and she followed to wipe herself. I don't know if she was just wiping off the KY or if there was a mixture of the jelly along with my semen as back then I did turn loose good sized loads when I ejaculated. Thinking back I can't say I missed not doing anal over the years as I've had her other attributes to more than satisfy me.

Posted 5/06 [F] As a lesbian I though I would give you a slightly different take on the anal sex play. It was my first girl friend who introduced me to anal sex, and I have to say I love it. I learned from her that the nerves there extend out into the underlying muscle structure of the cheeks and so any stimulation of the cheeks is good. Rinse your rectum out a couple of hours before commencing play, it puts you more at ease and much more willing to open up and let your lover in know you are all clean.
My wife enjoys anal play, both giving and receiving. She has me lay face down over our *Liberator Wedge (the subject of earlier discussions)*, I L O V E how it presents my rear to my lover and allows me to more comfortably splay my knees separating my thighs a bit and exposing more of my pussy while going easy on my back (anyone with a spinal injury should really invest in a couple of liberator shapes - trust me on this, I know). We have a clear acrylic butt that she slips inside first then she starts by massaging my cheeks, and spends a fair amount of time just massaging my buttocks and hips and the back of my thighs, its so relaxing. From there she slips the butt plug out then slowly works first one, then two fingers deeper and deeper into my bottom. It's all done with a slow massaging motion so that she effectively massages my anal passage using plenty of lube all the time. I can have powerful orgasms just from her fingers penetrating my anus and curving toward my belly, that way they are stimulating my sensitive g spot. Anal massage is a delightful and a very intimate form of stimulation, one that leans on the trust between my wife and myself. Laying there on my belly, my pelvis raised up into the air, my knees splayed apart I feel utterly open and the arousal from that awareness seems to swell and open my vulva wide open and really slicken it up. I always have picture in my head of how my engorged aroused labia must look to her, my little rosebud above pierced by her fingers. One curious aspect of anal stimulation is the effect it has on my vaginal lubrication. Normally I produce a light slippery fluid that runs fairly freely, but anal stimulation seem to provoke my vagina to produce a much thicker, heavier version, thick enough to leave a sticky residue between my labia. I would be curious to know if anyone else experiences this?
Allowing her deep inside my ass is the height of eroticism for me, as my dripping vaginal juices testify to. I think from the accounts I read here that often hetro couples are too keen to get the dick penetrating the lady's ass, try slowing down and explore the bliss that can be brought along by massaging the anal canal with fingers, forget you have a dick for half an hour! As both men and women have the same anal anatomy both can enjoy it equally. You will be amazed at how much you relax and how loose you can become after twenty minutes or so of this.
We have a couple of glass dildos which we use for anal play, their smooth and easily lubricated surface makes them ideal anal toys. I know some might say that they are too inflexible but that is easily balance by smoothness. For simple screwing of my ass we use one that is 20cm long with a ribbed and dimpled surface, the feeling of the contours rippling along my anal ring as she ravishes my bottom is has me screaming into the mattress. However for a full on squirting orgasm it has to be the bulbous head glass dildo. It takes some patience getting it in even after I have been thoroughly reamed by fingers and the first dildo, but Oh Boy once it's in it fills me and with careful movement rubs places inside my ass that is akin to banging hard on my g-spot, which is just what it is doing I guess! After ten minutes or so of this bowel churning dildo thumping against my insides it has me ejaculating with gay abandon.
So male or female I urge you to explore your anus, take your time, do it alone to start with, try a few different toys. Later try it with someone you trust. Try a couple of different but plugs, starting with modestly sized ones. I know from my hetro friends that many of their husbands find g-spot toys great for prostate stimulation, something I have to take their word for, but ladies you can hit your g spot from inside your ass just as readily as you can from inside your vagina, so play away! Don't just make intercourse the objective, make pleasure the objective and leave all preconceptions outside the bedroom door.

Posted 4/06 [M] My wife and I had anal sex the other night. She has been opposed to it for years and I have been (although frustrated) okay with that. I found out (by actually listening to her) the other night that one of her main problems is that she doesn't like lying on her stomach, so with plenty of KY on my penis and after quite a while of fucking her pussy, I pushed her knees up near her shoulders and penetrated her ass. Not fully, I only put the head in. I still don't think she truly enjoyed it but she gave in to me as an act of love. I didn't come in her ass; I came (after cleaning penis with a washcloth) in her vagina.
The next morning I wrote her a poem thanking her which I left on the coffee table with some flowers I had picked from our backyard. We haven't had sex since, but that is normal for us, we are late middle age and don't do it every night. However, in our sexual banter that we normally do everyday, the anal innuendoes make her blush and smile coyly. There are two points that men should remember. First, respect her body and understand that anal sex is "unnatural" if it were natural you wouldn't need a lubricant. She is giving you a special gift (of course any penetration of her is a special gift) appreciate it. Second, be sure to thank her for it. Poems, flowers, diamonds . . . whatever. I think every sexual act should be followed by 5 words. "I love your" and "Thank you".

Posted 12/05 [M] Anal sex is not something that you can just jump into. It wouldn't be special if it was that easy. I can't imagine having anything of size pushing up into me that doesn't belong there!
Once in a blue moon when my wife and I are having sex, (not that we have sex once in a blue moon), she will be so into the moment that she lets me know she wants to be fucked up her ass. It doesn't happen very often however it's an, ( Marlon Brando voice), offer I can't refuse!
She usually wants anal sex when she has had a couple drinks and really horny, or has watched a porno movie where anal sex is performed, and really horny. The really horny part is the key. She especially likes to watch movies where two or more guys are doing a girl. Put alcohol and porno together ... Katie bar the door!
Sometimes my wife likes to get a little drunk on the weekend and since it's just us in the house there is no harm in that. Should the mood hits us, we get naked and watch the movies. When she really gets into it she will come sit next to me so I can play with her tits while she fingers her pussy or uses her vibrator. I don't have to worry about her having an orgasm and leaving me out in the cold because it just fuels her fire!
The last time we had anal sex we were watching a movie and she was riding me cowgirl style. She said she had to go pee and headed for the bathroom. She came back with a devilish smile and some KY in her hand. Three words of advise: lubricate, lubricate, and lubricate. She gave me a hand job to get my dick ready then straddled me again so she could watch the TV.
I have an averaged sized penis but she took her time easing herself down on me. (Let the lady control the tempo. Remember it's her ass!) I kissed her neck, held her tits and pinched on her nipples which helped her relax while she took me inside her.
You have a section on talking dirty during sex. When my wife is having a butt fuck, her talking dirty would make Lenny Bruce blush.
She did a slow grind on me while she used her vibrator until she had a very intense orgasm or three. I sat there playing with her body while she enjoyed herself. (Hint guys .. patience has it's virtues!) After she had her fill of orgasms she got down on the floor with her butt in the air wanting me to fuck her until I came. I got on top, slowly fucked her ass (remember this doesn't happen often) and got my nuts inside her. It didn't take long. Just the experience of being in her ass seems to increase the intensity of my orgasm.
When my woman wants to have anal sex I consider it a gift and take every precaution not to hurt her. The extra time, restraint, and effort I use to ensure her pleasure inevitably means there will be other anal opportunities. When will that time will come, I don't know. I let my wife decide.
I can always get pussy, blowjob, or a handjob when she's in the mood!

Posted 11/05 [M] My first anal experience,was 14 years ago.I was 32,recently divorced and living in lodgings,in Wichita,KS.I usually watched tv,with the landlady,since i didn't have one myself.Though she was 53 at the time,her body was that of a youth.
This night in particular,there was nothing on,and she asked if i wanted to watch a video.I said sure and she put one in.She opened up our second beer and sat down.The picture started up and there's this guy giving this girl a rigorous butt hump.I burst out laughing! Then Vicky,(the landlady), asked if i thought if her rear was better than the girl's on video. I was honest and said it was hard to say, since i couldn't see hers. Instantly,she stood up with her back to me and slid her jeans and pants down. I reached forward and gently spread her cheeks. I said yes to her question, reached for a doily on the table and wiped her gently. Then i slid my forefinger deep inside and slowly moved it in and out.After a while,i replaced it with my tongue. As i stood up,i asked her if she'd ever had a man in there before. No was all she said. I told her to get on all fours on the sofa, while i took my pants off, which took seconds.
With her supple anus ready, i slowly slid in. She let out a big groan as i slowly started pumping, caressing her hips. As i neared completion, i pushed in once more and let my sperm just ooze into her. Being the quiet type all she did was groan. While cumming in her, i told her it was the best screw i'd ever had and that as soon as i finished, i wanted to eat her vagina out and then, wipe her anus again. I stayed there for 3 years.

Posted 9/05 [F 22] After reading your book The Perfect Orgasm I became very curious about the male G-spot. My boyfriend and I have always been very open to each other in bed and have started branching out and being more creative. Recently we started as role playing and he was my gyno. This aroused us both very much. I explained to him about male rectal exams and asked him if we could reverse the roles. At first he was very reluctant but said he would try it to see what it felt like. I put a lubed condom of my finger and gently massaged around his anus. He told me that it felt good but told me to stop. He felt incredibly embarrassed. Not wanting for him to feel uncomfortable around me, I stopped. Later that night we talked about it and he revealed to me he thought that if he liked it that I would think he was unnatural or gay. I explained to him that I will always love him and that I do not have a penis so that anything he does with me is natural. I talked to him about how many men enjoy this kind of stimulation during oral. The next night I was on my period so vetoed out sex so I went down on him and sucked on his balls while he jerked off. I brought out my vibrator and pressed it underneath them while I sucked. He ground against it and to my surprise pressed his ass on it. His orgasm was very intense. Last night we repeated this but without the vibrator. I pressed my finger against his chode and he was grinding against it. Soon after he was begging for me to massage his ass hole. Pleasing him I did, and eventually I was fingering him with the condom over my finger. He came so suddenly and it was more intense for him, he was saying " Oh baby, press harder." Afterwards I left the room for him to get cleaned up so he didn't feel weird with me sitting there while he wiped off the lube. Then we went to sleep. We haven't talked about it since and one of my fantasies is using a strap-on on him. How should I bring this up with his gay phobia? Also he believes sex is just between us and no type of pornography is allowed which is fine for me. It is actually a turn on to know he's getting off on me not some image. But I'm not sure how to bring this up to him and I definitely don't want to rush him. Comments, please???

Posted 8/05 [M 40] When I lived in California a few years back, I was dating a woman and called her one day from my work. I asked her how she was and she said she felt feverish and sick and was at home, not at work. She asked me to come over after work. So I did. When I arrived, she was in bed, although frankly she did not seem incredibly sick to me. But if she wasn't, she played the part fairly well. She said she thought she had a fever and motioned to a tray she had already set up on her dresser. So I went to get the thermometer and noticed first a jar of vaseline and then a rectal thermometer. My doubts about her "illness" increased, but I figured I would just play it serious. To be very honest, I got very excited immediately (I have always had a serious "play doctor" desire but had never done anything with previous girl friends -- nothing since age 4 any! way). This woman and I were already fairly intimate in bed, but I had never done anything this deliberate.
Anyway, I brought the jar and thermometer over to the bed and pulled down the covers and said to roll over on her stomach, which she did. Very deliberately, and admittedly trying to enjoy every moment, I pulled her panties down just below her bottom. I got a blob of vaseline on my right index finger and put the other fingers of both hands on her cheeks just inside the crack. She was blond with very supple, pale skin and absolutely no hair on her bottom cheeks. I separated her bottom, fairly wide, so that I had a clear view of her anus. I took a reasonably long look before proceeding; she didn't seem to mind. Again, pale skin inside her bottom, light pink skin along the inner crease above her hole, her anus a slightly darker pink, and just a bit of blond hair around the hole and I recall also seeing a few darker hairs. I do also remember that her anus was extremely clean; she had obviously anticipated this procedure and had washed before I arrived. So I put the vaseline on her anus, just spreading it around, and pushing it inside her bottom just with the tip of my finger (I would have loved to have pushed in further, but I wanted to be both "professional" and respectful; maybe she really was sick and I didn't want to be abusive). Then I took the thermometer with my left hand and used the fingers and thumb of my right hand to open her cheeks again and put the thermometer just into her anus slightly and then slowly pushed it in, just about halfway. She was very calm during all of this. I asked her how long I should leave it in; I think she told me 3 minutes; don't really remember anything that was said between us during the procedure. I opened her bottom a couple times during the 3 minutes, just because I wanted to see the thermometer in her anus. Intensely exciting visually. I think my face was just inches away from her the whole time. After three minutes, I opened her bottom again and took it out. Her temperature -- surprise, surprise -- was normal. I remember asking, "Do you want me to wipe you?" and she said yes. So I wiped inside her bottom with a tissue, opening and looking carefully to see that I got it all. She turned over, gave me a big smile, and said "thanks". We just ended up laying around the rest of the evening, pretty relaxed (well we pretended to be but I think both of us had an increased pulse rate!), didn't talk about what we had just done nor about whether or not she still felt sick.
Suffice to say, it was a fairly powerful moment for both of us, and some days later we talked about it at length, she wanting to know what I felt and saw in detail, and I asked the same from her, her feelings mentally and physically. Very intense. For the remaining months that we were together, we played doctor many times with no pretense of actually being sick. We both clearly and admittedly had fetishes surrou! nding this type of medical situation and about the opposite sex's anus and buttocks. We never did enemas or anything "advanced", but did do many rectal temperatures, gloved fingers (usually just one but sometimes two and up to three) inside one another, and -- at her suggestion -- even used a magnifying glass and a type of (more powerful) magnifier that has a penlight, used both of these to visually inspect one another´s anuses, all the while describing colors, creases, hair, trying to open each other wider to see the darker skin deeper inside the anal canal. Again, very hot and intense moments.
Although we broke up and maybe that was for the best in the end (no pun intended), I retain amazing memories and sensations from my time with her. I have never done such things with the few women I've been with since.

Posted 5/05 [M 50+] I'm a mid fifties male and have to admit to giving up on having anal sex with my wife after the first few unsuccessful attempts years ago. Since then I have matured and I'm not as orgasm driven (horny) as I was in my 20s and 30s. That coupled with adult movies and the Internet have allowed us to take our time and explore anal sex as an occasional alternative for both of us.
As adult videos became accessible through mail order we tried various subjects and to my surprise my wife became very aroused watching women easily accept anal penetration to say nothing about how hot it got me thinking about fucking her ass. After buying some thick, high quality lube I proceeded to give her anus more attention during anal sex. She soon grew to like the finger stimulation to the point of asking for it. Then came the real surprise.
One time while on vacation (she always relaxes more on vacation) I was giving her a long drawn out session of oral sex, and just keeping her close to cumming. I had my index finger in her pussy and my middle finger in her ass all the while using a lot of lube to prevent any irritation. When I finally gave her the correct combination that makes her cum, she had a huge gasping orgasm. I was then astonished to feel her anal muscles completely relax as her pussy muscles spasmed during her climax. I told her this and she said, to my surprise and delight, "Put some of that great lube on your cock and try pushing it up my ass". I wasted no time lubing my now rock hard cock and to both our surprise it easily slid through her now relaxed sphincter and then deep into her ass. She said it felt like her whole body was filled but there was no discomfort and I felt like my cock was in a hot, wet vise. A few slow thrusts and I came so hard I thought I might black out.
We both lay there spent and gasping for minutes before falling asleep. We went out to eat later on and in the restaurant I asked her if she thought there were other women we could see who were carrying a load of their lovers cum in their colon. She smiled and said, "I sure hope so for their sake".
Since that time we have anal sex only occasionally and have incorporated anal toys for both of us, but when we do it is wonderful. Another trick added to our bag after 26 years. It's never too late to learn. Just remember to take your time and use so much lube you'll have to change the sheets!

Posted 3/05 [F 40] Recently I have been able to fulfill a fantasy of finger fucking my boyfriend. I had tried many times, and the only time I could get him to enjoy it was when he was drunk. I think it had to do a lot with the way we've been brought, of not allowing males to enjoy anal stimulation because of it being a gay thing. Anyway, a few months ago, we were having some mind blowing sex and I asked him to please let me finger fuck his ass while I was giving him head. I guess he was so horny that he spread his legs for me. I put a ton of lubrication on his hole and started massaging it on the outside. By now I had stopped sucking his cock and was enjoying the massage I was giving his hole, as well as watching his face enjoying what I was doing. He was so hot that every time I would rub his hole a little harder he would leak precum. I could see he was enjoying what I was doing. I then started inserting one finger inside and pumping slowly giving him time to adjust his opening and let me in. After a few minutes, he was spread eagle on the bed for me letting me in as deep as I wanted to be. Then after a few minutes of him going crazy, I grabbed his cock, which was harder than usual and started stroking him slowly. I was enjoying fingering that ass more than anything I had ever done to him. From inside his ass, I could feel every muscle tightened, his balls getting full of come, his cock contracting, and his entire body getting ready for a phenomenal orgasm. A few seconds later, he had a mind blowing orgasm. He came much more than he usually does and much longer. Now I can't get enough of that ass. The day after I told him how much I enjoyed fucking his ass and surprisingly he said he had enjoyed it also. I have been fucking his ass regularly since. Now, I'll ask him for a piece of ass, and he'll open for me. It's great! Please try this and forget about you inhibitions, the orgasm will be mind-blowing!

Posted 2/05 [M] My wife and I are in our mid forties, and what started out as me trying to get her to experience anal sex turned into her performing anal sex on me. While on vacation, we went to do some shopping, and ended up in an adult sex shop. She saw a strap on dildo with a picture of a women, wearing the strap on, standing over top of a naked man on his hands, and knees, on the box. Something inside her changed at that moment. She called me over and said "look at that, is that unbelieveably sexy, or what!". She wound up purchasing it, and couldn't wait to try it out on me. That evening at our hotel room, she put it on and became a more dominate person then I had ever seen her be before. At first I couldn't handle it. It is 10" in length, and nearly 3" in circumference. By the third night of trying, she managed to get it in almost all of the way, and I have to tell everyone that I was extremely turned on. I love the feeling of her controlling my body, and I now can't wait for her to use it on me. I am now able to take the entire length of it inside me, and what's more important, and I am serious, I actually climax from it. After 2 min. or so I get a feeling like electricity is flowing inside of me, and it transcends into the same kind of climax I feel when I ejaculate. One time I actually did ejaculate while she was "doing me", without her ever touching my penis. I think that the majority of men would love the experience if they tried it, I know I certainly do!!!

Posted 6/04 [M] What I wanted to tell you was that my lady and I discovered anal sex about a year ago. It was a part of both of our continuing curiosity and desire to please each other. I had indicated to her that I would like to fuck her ass several times when she had asked me "what do you want ...." while we were having intercourse. My normal answer would be "I want to fuck your pussy, your mouth and your ass." The major problem was always where to cum. I love cuming all those places for different reasons. Whenever I cum in her pussy, she usually comes too ... when I cum in her mouth I can watch her devouring me, taking me full and deep, while I cum. I had seen videos and various pictures of anal sex, but had never known anyone willing or interested in trying it. One evening when we were celebrating my birthday, she answered "why don't you do it" when I had given her my normal response. My response was an incredible questioning if she were serious. She assured me she was and wanted me to do it .... to take her there ... she actually said "fuck me in my ass!"

Posted 4/04 [M60]Among many variations, my wife (51) and I (60) love anal play. At least weekly, I rim her anus and prepare her beautiful butt hole, which she has waxed regularly along with her pussy. Using lots of slippery lubrication, such as Astroglide, I prepare her with one than two fingers inserting them carefully and sliding them in and out while rotating my hand at the same time.
We use three favorite positions:
1. She kneels in front of me with her head resting on a pillow. This provides me with an excellent view when my cock is deeply inserted first in her cunt and then in her butt hole.
2. While laying on her back we elevate her butt with a pillow. With her knees touching her boobs she provides excellent access to her ass. This is a good position allowing for intimate eye contact and kissing.
3. Spooning sideways I enter her from behind while fondling her breasts.kind of lazy and relaxing position. We select it often in the morning. She likes to be anally pleasured when I kiss her clitty. I insert one finger into her anus and massage her G-spot through the thin wall that separates her rectum from her vagina.real fun!
From time to time she likes to have one of our numerous butt plugs inserted. One has a little pig tail attached. This is really funny. Another one has a horse tail at one end. She inserts this into my ass ever so often. The horse tail functions as a whip as well to heat up our cheeks.
She also uses a vibrator quite often to massage her clit while I fuck her from behind. The feeling of the vibration is dynamite for both of us and a sure way to experience delightful orgasms.
I enjoy having my anus pleasured and my prostate massaged as well. She uses just one finger, or inserts a specially curved prostate massaging tool. That really stimulates me exquisitely. She stops after about 20 minutes of anal play just before I feel an almost unbearable urge to ejaculate. I then either fuck her denuded cunt and cream her while my cock is embedded deep inside her, or she milks my cock with her hands and mouth until I juice her copiously on her boobs. As another variation I kneel next to her and masturbate to a pleasurable orgasm while she massages my balls and anus...fun, fun, fun.

Posted 1/04 [M] Here are a few anal sex survey sites recommended by a visitor. http://www.queendom.com/polls/sexapoll/analsex/ and http://www.indiana.edu/~kinsey/resources/FAQ.html#FAQ and http://www.abbys-sexual-health.com/fun/surveys/abbys_2003_07.php

Posted 5/03 [M 40] I am a 40 yr old male being completely honest with you. Sex to me is just fantastic no matter who it is or whatever it is being performed. To clarify what I am saying is simply this. I love to all Sex from sucking a swollen clit or a nice hard cock. I have always enjoyed inserting objects (Butt Plugs, Dildos etc.) into my anal passage way while jerking a load off. I was about thirty five when I encountered my first penis that penetrated my bung hole.
I was invited to a friend's private residence where I was greeted by my friend and and his roommate who lived openly as a gay couple. This proved to be a real eye opener for me when they started to actually tease me with some fondling of my balls and getting me hard, eventually my clothes were gone and the 3 of us were completely naked on the living room floor of their home. I was in a state of mind that was like no other time of sexual frenzy I had never experienced before. I was laying on the floor atop a blanket to protect the carpet from any mess that may occur. After several minutes of 2 men messaging my 6.5" cock and my ass at the same time getting all lubed up. I felt the softeness of the head of a nice cock rubbing my bung hole and teasingly starting to penetrate me.
I was getting so aroused knowing what was to come and this being my first real life cock to enter me, I turned into Mr. Slut wanting his manhood to make his entry as painlessly as possible. So I began to relax my anus and let him slip inside of me (as he was close in size of my private collection of personal toys) I could feel his warm meat enter me, and immediately as I expected this was truly an erotic feeling of pure excitement. He began to thrust in & out of me as I grew more in my own erection of enjoyment to this action his roommate the began to suck my cock and rub my balls I could not help but blowing a hot load of cum in his mouth which he anticipated and welcomed. As to the male doing me in the ass got off I could feel him warm cum seeping from my ass hole and before I knew it I was hard again and they switched positions.
This is when I realized that his roommate (the 2nd man) was a well hung male his cock must have been a 10-11" in length and quite the girth was wanting to enter my warm reception hole. This was far more bigger than anything I had ever entered into my waiting hole. WOW I never expected such a feeling, I rolled over and arched my back as high as I could and he gave me a pounding like never before. After we both reached climax and lay on the floor exchanging ideas of sexual fantasy's. I explained my that I wanted both of them to have me with a woman involved as well.
It was a couple of days later when that fantasy was acted out with a female friend of theirs who was more than willing and made a lasting memory that I truly enjoyed and still helps me while I privately masturbate even to this date. I have never been able to duplicate the massive ORGASM I encountered with that foursome. I can't wait until I travel again to see my 3 friends again. This is something that I encourage all to try only if you want to experience the ultimate Orgasm. My New fantasy is to have a married couple take me in ways I have never had (strap-ons, real cock, and toys) Getting plugged by the woman from behind while sucking her man off in an all nighter of play time. I would definately welcome this as the Ultra Orgasm.

Posted 2/03 [M 48]About 5 yrs ago I started having sex with men. I first started meeting and having oral sex, mostly giving, and masturbating them. Some wanted to enter me from behind but was not into doing that. Then 2 years ago I visited a guy at his place. We started watching xxx movies and I was playing with his cock. I then leaned over and started sucking him. When I was sucking, he reached around and started playing with my ass. It felt good with him pressing against me. He then slipped his finger in and after a while slipped in another. After about 20 minutes, with me still giving him oral sex, he had 3 fingers in me and was feeling good. Without thinking, I moved over and straddled him and lowered myself down on his cock. It hurt at first but the pain turned to pleasure when I got it all the way in. I moved up and down his 8" cock taking every inch and I masturbated while doing it. I came a couple times like t! his and it was the best orgasm I have had...ever. Needless to say, he loved it also, getting a virgin ass. We still get together and I also have a couple of other guys that I please that way. I think the women should introduce their guy to it, they will love you for it.

[M 57] With regards to a man wanting anal sex from a women, I would be the first to say it is fantastic to be taken that way! I'm a 57 year old man and my wife is 56. We have been married for 34 years, over the years we have taught each other how each of us likes to have sex. She loves oral sex, both giving and receiving, so do I. She loves anal sex and not to long ago I asked her if she would perform anal sex on me. She was willing, so we got out the Adam and Eve catalog and ordered a latex panty with a 6" latex vibrating cock. We have used it a couple of times now, and she is still learning how to do me. I love it when "she does me". She is learning how to control the moment and keeps me from cumming until I can't take anymore, then I explode! We both have stressful jobs and when we finally have the chance to get together, our openness to each others sexual needs just brings us closer together. We feel that anything we do in our bedroom is great as long as we plan it together. "If it feels good do it". There is nothing wrong with that concept!!!!!!

Posted 1/03 [M 32] Back a number of years ago (and I mean a great number), I became involved with an older woman. I was seventeen, and she was in her late thirties (which I've come to learn were more likely her early forties). I'll have to tell her story now, as a year and a half ago, she lost her long battle with breast cancer.
I was introduced to a lot of new sexual techniques by that wonderful woman, and anal sex was one of the first. Very early on, she explained to me how she'd conditioned herself, quite unwittingly at a very early age, to require anal penetration in order to orgasm. She told me how, as a young catholic girl, the sanctity of virginity and purity was paramount. Yet, as she began to discover her sexuality, she became curious and decided that she'd try penetrating her anus to experience the sensation while masturbating. She reported that the sensation was exquisite, and that she'd experienced her very first orgasm while fingering her ass that first time. She eventually discovered a smooth-handled hair brush, and incorporated that into her masturbatory routine through her latter teen years.
When she went away to college, and became sexually active, she was never orgasmic, even when she was fortunate enough to have a lover who knew where women liked to be touched and stimulated. She told me that she wasn't orgasmic with another person until her first experience with another woman. This woman, a professor of hers, fingered her anus while performing cunnilingus on her, and she came immediately. It was then that she new that she'd conditioned herself to require anal stimulation in order to cum. She taught me all of the finer points of anal love that summer. I have yet to find another woman so dependent on anal stimulation. But whenever my wife and I engage, I always think of her gratefully (as does my wife).

[M 40]In response to your readers I was a young 26 yrs old the first time I gave complete control of the vibrator to my wife. One morning as usual she was really horny, she started to give me a blow job which turned into a good old 69. After a few minutes of some good pussy eating which always included a few stabs of my tongue and fingers in her ass which drove her crazy. My wife got the old trusty 9" Vibe out which I expected she was going to give to me for insertion in her, Instead she turned it on and started to rub the vibe against my balls and shaft until I was so hard it was unbearable but erotically great. I was at that point a male slut just looking to please her in whatever she wanted and get off myself as well.
Then she suggested that we have a role reversal and she took command and control of the situation. She laid on her back and had me get on top again in the 69 position except that she wanted me to keep my penis just over her face. She began to rub KY all over my ass, balls and cock. Being completely shaved from front to back and lubed up I was really getting frustrated (sexually) She then started to probe my ass with a finger, then two and then the tip of the mighty niner, at first the pain was wild, As I started to relax and let her enter my ass deeper the feeling grew into a sexual frenzy that resulted in a massive orgasm on my part as she jacked my cock with her hand and probe my ass fiercely with the vibe. I must have blown the biggest load ever all over her face which she loved. I must say that was the biggest and best ejaculation I have ever experienced. I can remember arching my back and getting my ass up and letting her have her way several times afterwards ALWAYS getting off sometimes without her even touching my cock or balls. This is something that I would highly recommend to all who are curious and willing to try.

Posted 12/02 [F] I never thought it would happen to me. It would be too painful, it was taboo - NO!! Recently it happened and it wasn't as bad as I thought. In past relationships it would be asked for or suggested and I just said no. But this time it was different - I didn't even have a clue. It just sort of happened and when I realized where he was going I immediately said stop which he did. But then I remembered reading some of the things on your site and I told him it was ok. He didn't get go too far and whenever I seemed uneasy he would ask questions and offer to stop. I guess after a while I relaxed and and it was more enjoyable that I ever realized. It also could have been that he is someone I really trust and realized if I had told him to stop he would have stopped without hesitation.

Posted 11/02 [F 50] Hi, I am an almost 50 year old lesbian. I love reading your site, particularly the anal sex page. It really turns me on to read some of the letters. After going through childbirth a few times, I have found that my sensation during orgasm was really reduced. This all changed when I got into anal penetration. Having something up my ass when i come takes things to a whole new level. Also, I love thinking about my lover seeing a toy sticking out of me. I like to imagine that other people, male and female are watching it too. We having worked up to actual anal fucking yet, just butt plugs, but I'm sure that's coming. You can always teach an old dog new tricks, I figure.

Posted 5/02 [M] I just wanted to say that before my current girlfriend I'd always wanted to try out anal sex and when she told me (early on) that she'd done it before I didn't need to be asked twice. There's nothing perverted about it (closet homosexuality or the like): the only thing that bothered me was the idea of domination or degradation. As she gets a dripping wet pussy when we make love we didn't need lubrication and the feeling of being so tightly gripped in that smooth passage is wonderful for a man. So what does the woman get out of it? Quite simply it leaves more room for clitoral stimulation. My girlfriend says they're the best orgasms she gets.
So ladies, don't be afraid- try it out, take it steady and enjoy. We've gone to full thrusting with my shaft inside her as far as it will go but actually less jerking movements feel better for both of us. we don't use a condom which I feel means we need to think of hygiene a lot more (we don't go back round the front again without washing ! thoroughly- although I feel hypocritical because I rim my tongue around her anus and then lick her clit at times which can't be much more hygienic).
Our only golden rule is to try anything if it feels right. Personally I'll drink her cum but would never wnat to taste male spunk (she swallows mine sometimes, which I find hard to understand) and don't feel turned on by having anything up my ass (I've tried it with a zucchini in a condom, just to see what the fuss about prostates is about) but it's a male vs female thing. Most women don't want to lick pussy & most men don't want to suck cock. Just go for it and don't judge others! When we told friends of ours that we regularly engage in anal sex, our female friend said she wouldn't want to do it... I'm waiting to see if the seed we sowed in her boyfriend's mind will grow into an explosion of anal bliss!

Posted 04/02 [F 27] As for the topic of anal sex...I was first introduced to it by my "first". He was 10 in long and as big around as my wrist (and I'm NOT small boned). He was patient, loving, and gentle. I LOVED it. Didn't do it again for years after he and I split. Did it again, although infrequently with a man I was with for quite some time, as he was not as gentle and a little too thick. Then I found the perfect fit. Longer than I am used to, but a tad more slender, and ooohhhh the sensations. I have mind blowng orgasms when someone is giving me oral sex. I have orgasms almost as good from anal sex. My partner now wants me to penetrate him, anally, and I'm reluctant, although after reading these posts I'm not sure why. I have no idea what is holding me back. If it could possibly give him as much pleasure as it gives me, why not, right? I mean, at least he is brave enough to tell me what he wants from me. He wants some other things I'm not so sure about, but there's not much I wouldn't do to please him, given that he ALWAYS makes sure my pleasure is first. He enjoys putting a vibrator in my pussy and his dick in my ass, and the last time we did that, I thought I was going to pass out! For all you other ladies out there who enjoy anal, I say kudos! For the women who don't, you just don't know what you're missing!!!

Posted 4/02 [M] I had tried anal sex before meeting my wife but she was a virgin when we started dating. We have developed a more intense sexual relationship over the years as she has become more open and experienced in various sexually related pleasures. About 10 yrs ago we were apart for about a month due to work requirements and after I had returned our passion was about to go Boom!! As I am an avid fan of oral sex(she is now), I tied her to the bed,with her permission, and began to basically tease her whole body with my teeth,tongue and lips. Her nipples are pierced and between the nipples and her clit she was going nuts, already having had 2 orgasms within 10 or 15 minutes. As I was licking and nibbling on her clit she wanted me to use the vibrator I had bought her home in her vagina. As I was doing this I slid it down to her anus and holding it against the opening began to randomly speed up and slow down the vibrator.
After her initial shock and my assurance that I would not penetrate her without her permission she began to become so excited that she started to move her anus up and down on the tip of the vibrator. I had pre-lubed the vibrator with KY jelly for comfort and safety. As she got closer and closer to orgasm I started to lick her clit as fast as I could while holding the vibrator in place and letting her control the motion herself. She had probably the loudest, most intense orgasm of our marriage at that time. A couple of nights later we repeated this fun again without the tie downs and this time progressed to actual penetration with my cock, with it protected by a lubed condom of course. As we began to make love like this she took the vibrator and peeling the condom from it began to rub it from her clit down to her anus. When she got to her anus she stuck the side of it to my cock so that it would vibrate my cock and her anus at the same time. Needless to say ver! y little movement was needed but we shared a truly intense orgasm that was so good I actually had to close my eyes to allow my senses to catch up.
Many times, and many vibrators, later we still engage in anal sex in this manner experimenting with different positions,speeds and sizes of vibrators. We have found that her best or most intense orgasms have been while eating her clit,penetrating her vagina with my fingers and her anus with a vibrator at the same time. Requires alot of concentration on my part but the ultimate payoff is ABSOLUTELY amazing and well worth it. Our sex live has been re-energized by your books and our imagination.

Posted 3/02 [F 32] My boyfriend (of five years) and I love anal sex. I'm 32 and he's 36. Both of us had experimented a little with it before we met, but I'd never been totally comfortable with it. Apart from the fact that I thought I was "weird" for even thinking about it, it sometimes hurt, and I couldn't tolerate that.
It's a difficult subject to bring up with someone new, but we both like to talk when we're making love ( and as he said to me the other day, sometimes we don't make love, we fuck). So it wasn't long before he said to me one day, Baby, I want your ass. That turned me on so much. He loves my bottom. I have a small waist and a tight tummy, and a full ass. He loves running his hands over it when we're in public and where I am nervous of being "caught out" - so when he said he wanted it, I was ready. We were at a friend's house where he was staying for a few days, and he had to leave for New York in half an hour's time. He was dressed beautifully for an audition in the city and I was wearing linen white slacks and a small summer top. We'd been making out, kissing, in his room, and now he was standing behind me, squeezing my breasts, which are very firm but quite small, and my nipples were so tight and over-sensitive that I needed him inside me Now. We had no kind of lubricant and his cock was already out of his pants and pushing at my ass. I got scared and said Please, no, which made him groan, Baby I want you, I have to have you! I saw a bottle of a mild hair conditioner on the shelf and he saw it too, grabbed it, and squirted it down the back of my pants into my crack, pulling the pants as low as they would go. I unbuttoned them just as they were beginning to rip, and he started rocking his hips against me, teasing his cock into my tight asshole. That's the scariest part, when you're not sure if it'll go in without hurting. This time, because I was so hot and wanted to be banged so hard, he just slid in, right inside, stuffing me completely. I couldn't believe how fast it went in, and neither could he. He pulled almost all the way out and started pumping slowly. I put my hand down to my pussy which was sopping wet and slid my finger aroung my slippery clit, wanting to come so badly . Sometimes I can only tolerate his cock up my ass if I'm jerking myself off. I was still standing, leaning with one arm on the bed, jerking myself off with the other. He started to lose control and was shoving into me very hard, making me rock - I loved it. We had to be quiet and I was just muttering Fuck, fuck, fuck, while he was saying Take it! Take it. I started to come and told him, I'm coming, I can't help it. He started to clench his teeth and moan with that deperate sound he makes when he's into full come and I actually could feel it gushing into my asshole. He fell over me - he's a big guy, and lay on me on the bed, still glued into me, sweating though his beautiful blue shirt. He had no time to shower. We buttoned him up, brushed our hair, and went to the station. All the way to the city I could smell my sex on him. He couldn't stop smiling.

Posted 2/02 [M] I would not want to be penetrated anally. Never! Any man who would enjoy such sexual misbehavior is, in my honest opinion, perverted. If my wife decided to stick her finger or any foreign object up my butt, that would put a session of lovemaking to a screeching halt. I'm fortunate that my wife shares my view on this.

Posted 1/02 [F 34] I am married to a man who likes to be penetrated anally. We had been married about six months when he introduced me to anal sex. I must admit I was a little skeptical and hesitant about the possible pain involved. We made all the necessary preparations and I took a good enema. My husband is larger than average in girth and it took some slow action to get him inside me. The first time was awkward and a little painful but with determination and persistance I really started to enjoy it as my little opening stretched more each time. The feeling of being violated was sweetly decadent and I loved the feeling of being "taken."
He progressed from gentle sex to very agressive and soon I was being taken roughly which to my supprise, turned me on. I even started to climax with a little help from his fingers in my vagina. It soon became a three or four times a week thing with us.
Then one night after he had taken me we were laying in bed talking about our fantasies and some of our sexual exploits before we married. He very sheepishly told me that one of his greatest fantasies was to be taken anally too. He also said he would like to try role-reversal and dress as a woman. I love to experiment sexually and somehow the idea intrigued me.
We searched the web and ordered a nine-inch dildo panty which was offered by one of the sites selling toys. We went out that week and bought him a complete outfit of lingerie and three or four pairs of sexy panties. He was like a little kid as he stepped into the panties and stockings and I was supprised to see how fem he looked. With one of my wigs and some make-up he could pass as a girl. He was a little hairy and I told him that would need to go if he was going to get the proper effect. I had secretly hated the long hair for a long time and was glad to have an excuse to shave him. I shaved him slick as a baby and he admitted he loved the feel. He started to wear the lingerie a lot aroond the house and soon he started to wear the panties to work. I was really turned on when we had sex with him dressed.
While we waited for the dildo and some breast enhancers I started to use a small six-inch dildo on him to get him ready for the larger dildo. It was one we had used to prepare me for penetration. One night while I was working and stretching his opening I accidently hit his little gland inside. He went crazy with lust and I probed until I found it again. I never saw a man so turned on and he actually clmaxed without me touching his penis!! We were both very excited and it gave me a sense of power to know I could do that to him. I became very good a finding his "spot" and he wanted it almost every night afterwards.
My dildo panties and the breast enhancers arrived about three weeks later and by that time I had him opened up pretty good. The panties had an extension on the inside which stimulated my clitoris when I moved in and out of him. I stood looking in the mirror after I put them on and I never felt so powerful and in control. On the night he was to officially "loose his virginity" I did his make-up and really had him looking like a female. He kept walking by the mirror and admiring himself. I even purchased a pair of high-heeled shoes from Payless shoe stores and he had gotten pretty good ay walking in them.
I wanted to watch the expression on his face the first time I took him so I put him on his back on the big bed. I would like to say that the feeling of power that flowed through me as I completely controlled this grown man was exhilaraing and I was actually on a little "high." He has a small build and I had no trouble rolling his legs up on my shoulders. I had lubed him very heavy as the dildo was a litte thicker than we had expected. But all our preparation had paid off and I felt the big shaft slide inside him and he told me to go ahead and take him. I actually buried nearly all the nine inch dildo in him on the first slow thrust and he sighed in appreciation.
What followed was one of the most lust filled twenty minutes we had ever experienced and as I thrust deep into him I lost a little control as the diido rubbed against my clitoris. I was almost overcome with lust as I drove into him faster and faster as he begged for more like a little bitch in heat. I hit his gland and for the first time in our married life we climaxed at the same time.!! He actually screamed as his climax rolled over him and I collapsed on him with his knees pressed against his bra as my climax rolled through me in waves.
I lay with the big dildo completely buried in him for several minutes before rolling off beside him. Even though we have had similar results since then I will never forget that first time and I would hghly reccomend it to women who are considering penetrating their man. I have become almost addicted to the power trip that I get when he is positioned underneath me waiting to be taken. Also I find him much more pliant and he does anything I ask him without hesitation. His female wardrobe is growing rapidly and he wears panties to work everyday now and he is also sleeping in sexy little nighties that I have bought him. He seems more happy and content than I have ever seen him and he has ceased "going out with the boys " nearly as much as he used to.

[F 23] When my husband first got this urge he was really 'worried' about it, but once we talked about it really was very easy and we had a few drinks and a lot of foreplay to relax situation. It didn't bother me in the slightest I think a lot of men have that desires it really adds a lot to the orgasm.

Posted 12/01 in response to a question from a man who wondered how to ask his wife to penetrate him anally.
[F 24] A few years ago I lived with a man that wanted to be penetrated anally almost everytime we had sex. He approached me very carefully with this because he knew I was slightly inhibited in bed. He explained to me that he had sex with men way before he met me.. just for curiousity. He explained that he knew he was straight but he loved the feeling of something in his anus while we were having sex. I kind of looked at him with a tilted head and wondered what in the world I got myself into. I decided to try it one night. He went bezerk. He loved it. And I realized that it wasn't so bad.. this is what he likes and I'm sure if I liked something that was odd to him, he would do it for me. Personally, it didn't turn me on in the least bit. But I knew this was making him feel good.. and if he was excited by all of this.. I get a reward at the end. *grin* Towards the end of the relationship he wanted me to buy a strap-on, but it was a bit late. I had already planned on leaving him (not for that penetration reason). I think what felt the best is that he felt comfortable enough with me to express his wishes and desires. That's a good feeling.

[F] I don’t really have a suggestion other than to ask for it. That’s what I did. I wanted my husband to perform anal sex on me, and he was somewhat reluctant at first. When he finally agreed to try it, he REALLY liked the way it felt to him to feel his penis in my anus with a vibrator in my vagina. We both decided this new activity would become a part of our sex life. I have asked him to let me perform anal sex on him, but at this point, he says that he is not ready yet although he has not ruled out the idea.

[M 27] This is part of my sex play. The best way to approach her with it is to ask her about her own fantasies. Emphasize that you want to hear the really "dirty," or "nasty" ones that she's never shared with you before. If she shares them, HUGE bonus for you. Whether or not she does, she is almost guaranteed to turn the tables (at some point) and ask you about your fantasies. If you think she would be too put off by your desire [which I doubt she would if you are close], challenge her ego first by declining to tell her, because you don't think she could "handle" it. She will almost surely take offense, convince herself she won't be bothered by whatever you say, and demand to hear. Then tell her you are CURIOUS about anal stimulation. Gauge her. Be as explicit as you feel is within her toleration. You don't have to dump on her now that you fantasize by being gang-raped by a coven of strap-on dominatrixes. Just tell! her you aren't sure how far you will want to go, but you would like for her to try using a finger on you sometime, if she would be comfortable. If she accomodates you, show enthusiasm, and she will probably get into going as far with it as you would like.

[F] The man who wants to be penetrated anally- If you guys watch xxx movies together, get a bisexual one or one that has men getting done anally by women and watch it together. There are both available in the adam & eve catalogues if you can't rent. My wife watched as a man got it in the ass from a woman with a strap on while watching a movie and I took the opportunity to comment on what that would be like, expressed interest in other scenes where toys were used on the men. It didn't take much more than that and she was anxious to try one of our vibrators on me. I never came so hard!!!!!!! It was exciting for both of us and we now incorporate anal sex into our lives regularly. There is nothing like an orgasm with a vibrator against your prostate! And I think most women secretly want to do a man like that, a role reversal thing. Good Luck.

[M 52] I have the most intelligent, spiritual, creative, erotic, sensuous lover a man could ever want. Recently we began incorporating anal sex into our love making. She really goes wild when she is on top of me and my cock is up her anus. But, she also enjoys turning the tables or should I say "cock" on me. She has this panty with a built in 8 inch vibrating cock. She will dress me in stockings and lingere for a gender role reversal session, slip into her special panty, put on a condom (that really turns me on), lubes me up and slides right up my butt. Once she starts her thrusting, I'm a goner. I love how she screws me. Sometimes she will pinch or bite my nipples for added pleasure. I go could go all afternoon with her inside me pumping away! Needless to say we have discovered the joys of anal sex in more ways than one!

[F 35] I have been married to my childhood sweetheart for 15 years. We have to 2 teenage boys and live a happy suburban life. Behind closed doors we are not the quiet family others see. We enjoy all kinds of sex. He has penetrated me anally, with fingers, tongue and penis and we enjoy it immensely. However, he has always been reluctant to being penetrated. I enjoy erotic stories and used them to bring the subject up to him. We started a journey to anal penetration. Beginning with stories, then oral stimulation, next one finger inserted during a blow job and finally to the point of allowing me to use a small strap on. Each phase of the journey added to our trust and enjoyment. His orgasms seemed to escalate as we progressed. My orgasms, although never at the same time, seemed more intense because of the trust he placed in me. We talked about each phase before we proceeded to the next. Of course all the foreplay an! d lubrication standards for anal sex with a woman are required for men as well. As a woman I truly believe the act of penetration was empowering. I felt like I was given a gift and I treat it as such every time he lets me strap on and thrust in. We have found a new strap on which stimulates me much better, and I look forward to our first simultaneous orgasm. I guess to get to the point and answer your question, try to introduce it in story form, either written or visual.

[M 25] Hi there, I was just browsing around idly and happened upon a section of your site about anal sex. I think it's a fantastic thing, and a complete surrendering of ones self to someone you trust. However, there's one angle on it that I haven't seen much talk about: women performing it on their man. My ex and I had a very sexual relationship, it was the one thing we did very well, and after a while everytime we were going at it "doggie style", she'd reach back and rub my anus with her fingers, which always brought me to climax in short order. We talked about it and I said how I'd engaged in anal masterbation in my single days, so she took it to heart and one night during sex, rubbed her fingers over her soaked pussy and inserted a finger into my anus as I thrust into her from behind. It was intense. Gradually this developed more until one day we ordered a crotchless strap-on off the internet for her.
That was a crazy night (in a great way), seeing her with this translucent 7 inch latex cock strapped to her! We got into the mood pretty fast, and after some foreplay, and stealing an abundance of her wetness to slick up my ass, I straddled her as she lay on the bed, grabbed the strap on told her to go for it. It was intense riding her "cock". She took me doggie style then, and after an hour or so of various positions I reversed the situation and took her anally, it was fantastic, the whole night.
So lesson of the day, the ass is something men and women share, and if it's pleasurable for women, it can be pleasurable for men as well. Trust me, it's worth it! I'd reccomend a woman try it with a dual vibe/strap on though, something with a smaller vibe or dildo attached to the harness so she get's the penetration sensations as well!

[M 83] Joan, our question regarding a fellow who wanted his wife to try anal penetration on him can profit from my experience. I am an 83-old man who wants to try everything as long as he can. In this case, I introduced (induced) my pertner to first digitally explore my backside by explaining to her how doctors examine men rectally to determine prostate size. A middle finger inserted deeply into the anus and presssed downward as the man bends over a table-top san find a walnut-sized object that is the prostate. Stroking this ball-like organ can actually lead to ejaculation, which is quite pleasurable for both participants, although embarrassing if it occurs between doctor and patient. For couples, it can be an extension of the adolescent nurse and doctor game, and, in my case, has led to further explorations with dildos!

[M 50] i am a 50 year old male who would love to be anally penetrated by his wife.she however thinks it is homosexual.i assure her i do not want a real dick up my ass but her to penetrate me with a dildo or butt plug.i do this by myself and masturbate to un fucking believable orgasms but i would still like her to do it to me.

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