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updated 3/08 [M] I am a 48 year old male. I have been married to an amazing women for 19 years. We have been together for almost 29 years. My wife is a great mother, intelligent, athletic, and has her own professional career. She is also quite attractive and has always been an eager lover.
When we began our relationship my previous sexual experience was more extensive than hers. She was 19 and I was 20. Initially, I could not bring her to orgasm during sexual intercourse. After months of love making, we discovered that if she took hold of my penis and rubbed my glans back and forth over her clitoris between penetrations she could orgasm enthusiastically. I could always get her off with my fingers and after she got used to it, with my tongue. She gives great fellatio. She has a deep, beautiful vagina. We love each other very much.
When we were in our twenties we made love almost every day. In our thirties we made love on more days a week than we didn't. In our late forties we hook up about twice a week. I still find my lover's body to be a wonderland, but my performance has dropped off faster than my desire for intimacy. I think my wife is happy with our frequency.
In our twenties we could go out and party hard then come home and mutually blow each others minds in bed. Alcohol actually gave me greater staying power as my lover has always taken a while to get ready to orgasm. Believe me, it's worth the wait as she has very powerful cums, she always has.
I have noticed some significant changes in my sexual response in the last 8 years or so. I first noticed that if I drank to much I couldn't get fully erect. I therefore, had to watch the partying if we were going to make love. In the last couple of years I have had intermitent bouts of not being able to stay erect at times. Viagra solved that problem, after trying some herbal remedies. I have also noticed that my ejaculation is not what it was; I used to be able to shoot a good couple of squirts of semen 4-6 inches. That is no longer the case. My lover and I still have great sex and there is complete trust and understanding, she is loving and supportive, but I wish that I could counter some of the negative effects I am experiencing.
I am physically in reasonably good shape as I work out and do quite a bit of walking. I would like to weigh about 7 pounds less than I do but I am not obese. I would be interested to hear what other men my age are experiencing and I would especially like to know if any of them have found ways of countering the effects of age.
Compared to many guys I know who are my age I am very lucky. I still have an active sex life with a partner who seeks intimacy with me. I would love to know if there is any way of reversing the aging effect. I am looking forward to hearing from others who are willing to share their thoughts and experiences.

Updated 10/06 [M] When I read accounts like this I am often more than a little puzzled at the bewildering variety of sexuality and sexual characteristics differences in human beings. I often wander if I am the only odd one about many of these things.
"In my younger years, when I pulled my wire, the spoof squirted out like a jet all over the place and made a hell of a mess." ... I am 24 years old and though I have masturbated regularly since I was twelve I only experience anything resembling this after I have been turned on for many hours on end and playing quite a bit. Is it unusual? Could it just on account of my regular release I do not erupt so volumously? I regularly cum so hard that muscles I otherwise can't even feel in my forehead will tense and my toes will curl while my whole body shivers. At the same time there have been occasions I have waited for days even an entire week (though the whole seven day bit I have only done I think three times since I figured it all out those many years ago) and I produce no more cum than if I just wait until the next evening.
"Today it just oozes out. It has also lost the pure white color it used to have and is now a grimy yellowish colour." ... My cum has never had a pure white color, ever. Sure, in the olden days barely a drop came out and now I can wet a hand towel fairly good, but the pleasure increase I have experienced I can more strongly connect to better knowledge of my body's responses than to anything else.
"Common to all men, I guess is the fact that as a teenager I would get the cockstand at least 30 times a day" ... I have never had this problem; could it be from my regular self-release? I remember having erections once or twice a day when I did not want them but unless it was like he described with a bus or vibration providing stimulation (and even sometimes then) I could just will the stupid thing to go away.
"All my life the shaft of my knob has been hairless" ... my shaft has had hair on it since I joined the Navy in 2000 at the least. Is this odd? I've thought little of it and just trim it occasionally with the rest of the wilderland down there.

Updated 3/06 [M 67] Being a 67 year old male I have experienced many changes in my dong and wonder whether others have had the same. In any event it may be interesting or worrying for other males to know what is in store for them as they age.
The doctor who performed my circumcision all those years ago did a bum job. He did not cut enough off and I passed my childhood years with a chopper where the glans penis (if that is what it is called; The pink head on the end) only just peeped out of the surrounding skin unless I had an erection.
Of course, at that age it did not bother me and I knew no different. When I reached puberty this were fine. My cock increased in size and the head was always out. In fact I used to worry why I did not have the "smegma" that my college roommate talked about. This was fine until about 2 years ago since when the head has slowly receded once more into it's skin like a tortoise. I find this most uncomfortable. It is restricting and claustrophobic. I find it is necessary to shove my hand in my pants and pull the half baked foreskin back in order to get relief.
Another problem with aging is that whilst all my adult life my prick, although not big, was at least an average 6 inches when erect it has gradually shrunk so that now it is just over 5 inches (I think as I am too nervous to measure it). It is also more flaccid with less body to it.
Whereas it once stood proud and upright at an angle of the dangle of about 20 degrees from my stomach, it now sticks out at an angle of about 80 degrees. It used to be so stiff that I could hang about 7 full sized bath towels on it and barely deflect it. Alas no more.
In my younger years, when I pulled my wire, the spoof squirted out like a jet all over the place and made a hell of a mess. Today it just oozes out. It has also lost the pure white color it used to have and is now a grimy yellowish colour.
Common to all men, I guess is the fact that as a teenager I would get the cockstand at least 30 times a day. This was embarrassing especially on the bus when the motion of the bus caused the root and it just would not go down. Thankfully I can still get the bone when I need it but it is very well behaved now and never does it's own thing.
Peeing is a problem these days. Unlike my youth when I could aim a stream of piss higher than my head, these days I am thankful when anything comes out at all. After sex, I usually have 2 days or so when I have to coax a dribble out and if I overdo the sex then it can be very painful.
About 13 years ago I began to grow a third ball (Varicocele). The doctor said it was not malignant but could grow to be as big as an orange. Well it did grow, eventually becoming as large as the other two knackers. It was also painful and I could never tell which was the false testicle as they were all equally painful when squeezed. Well as luck would have it, just when I was readying myself for an operation it disappeared over about three weeks and, touch wood has not returned. No loss there.
Finally I must refer to pubic hair. In the same way that hair has been transferred from my head to my ears, chest and shoulders so the hair has blossomed on my genitalia. All my life the shaft of my knob has been hairless but now it is sprouting hairs all over the place. Whilst I don't mind the profusion on my scrotum and crotch I find hairs on the penis itself to be a definite problem. Shaving does not help as my wife objects to the "stubble". I do not know the answer to this. I am too shy to cart it off to a lazer hair removal salon for treatment. The hair is going grey; also something I don't care for and it is growing longer so I now need a regular haircut just so that I can access and see the bloody thing.

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